If you finished it with your ex 20 days ago, and he text you to say Hi how are you, really missing you. He gets a reply "im good, just been out with a mate" (female mate). If you were the one to finish it, would you have replied to his text, would you reply if you were not interested or had no feelings for him. Me personally as a chap wouldn't have replied if i didn't have feelings for that person so as not to hurt them.
Please can I have a womans thoughts on this.
Thanks.
2007-05-12 01:01:40 · 17 answers · asked by J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont really know why it ended, says she wants to be on her own. Guess it ended pretty poorly, all on her terms. Im heart broken. Text her thismorning to sy glad she's ok, n enjoy your day, but no reply!
2007-05-12 01:10:15 · update #1
I would have replied if we were still friends.
2007-05-12 01:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by JustJem 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends on how it ended. She may still want to keep you ( i presume) as a friend. She may also have thought that it would have been crueller to not reply at all to what was quite an emotional text.
She didn't say "I miss you too" or anything else that would indicate she was interested in re-kindling the relationship so she's obvously not interested in that way. If she didn't instigate the text and hasn't been in touch at all over the past 20 days, I'd take it that she isn't interested and focus all of my energy in trying to move on if I were you.
She was being polite and maybe in the future ou can keep in touch as mates. That way it won't be so awkward if you happen to bump into each other.
2007-05-12 09:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Angelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would reply because it doesn't hurt to have a friend rather than a enermy. But if you are the one who want her back again, then it worth to find out why the relationship ended. Based on your information, if she is the one who want to end then probably she can tell why more than you...if you still really miss her than you should try to make it more clear the terms (like whether there will be chance to get back; whether still be friend...etc.) I think honest is good for any relationship!
2007-05-13 05:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Think 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhmmm...
depends on what type of girl she is. if she is an outgoing, brash chatty and lighthearted girl, like myself, she would have replied. this type of girl is the one who could take a moodswing really badly and cut someone out of her life completely if she was spurned, but if she ended it she would have no trouble texting back.
if she is shy, introverted and a bit of a wallflower, she may text back to sound as if she is not bothered about breaking up with you.
the text is a friendly text, and i see no reason why someone wouldn't reply to you about it, unnless she had been hurt badly (i.e. you cheated). i wouldnt take the text too deeply if i were you. just keep texting and phoning and being a gentlemen and she should start to want you back. honestly, if you phone her when you say you will and are romantic, it will fall back into place.
good luck x
2007-05-12 08:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by kate * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend if you both ended the relationship on good terms. If that is the case, I would assume she wants to continue the friendship. If the relationship ended poorly, then myself personally would never have sent a text to begin with.
Take care
2007-05-12 08:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have replied. Just b/c I left the relationship with you doesn't mean I have to be rude if you ask me a question. The only thing I would need you to realize is just because I answer you doesn't mean I'm interested in being with you again.
2007-05-12 08:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Unique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have texted back but if you're not interested in being more than just friends let them know before any thing gets out of control. Hope I was a help & good luck! ( :
2007-05-12 08:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Melanie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get your hopes up and read to much into her reply. If she wants to get back with you, she knows where to find you.
She was being friendly and civilised by texting back. Nothing more, nothing less. Be grateful for the friendship thats on offer.
2007-05-12 08:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on y d 2 broke up....if it was somethin tht puts his character in doubt, i'd havn't replied.
but if it was something else.....
n if i had no feelings 4 him thn also it's good being in contact with a person who has known u.
n if i still had feelings 4 him, thn (as 4 me) i'd have written 2-3 lines in addition to it? (like wht's up at ur side?).
tht phrase suggests to me tht d girl is either not in a good mood or isn't VERY interested but considers tht not replying is quite rude n is far frm her behaviour
2007-05-12 08:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have replied if things had finished on good terms or we were still friends.
2007-05-12 08:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by Tabbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks you are just her FRIEND now.
For me, what she has done about texting (how to reply/the content) is correct - giving you the right mng that she is fine and you are not her bf anymore.
2007-05-12 09:33:06 · answer #11 · answered by Sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋