I am 16 years old and since I turned 13 I don't get along w/ my family, especially my brother. I know all siblings argue, but these are such serious fights that I don't even think I will talk to him after I turn 18 and go to college. He is 21 years old and when he is in a good mood, he is always kidding around and fun to be around. When he talks to me directly, things are okay. But then when I talk to him, he is always being really mean and I don't know why. It is like he has mood swings or something. We argue everyday and he hurts my feelings a lot everyday. We used to be sooo close and I used to look up to him, but now I don't even look @ him the same way. Like today, he walked in the room to get his laundry while I was using the computer. I JUST said "Hi" and then a song came on the radio that I liked and I just said "I like this song" and was being polite, and then he is like "shut the f*** up, I just want to do my laundry." and then later....
2007-05-11 23:07:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I walked into the room and I was touching his things looking 4 something and he was threatening me like "if you f***ing touch my stuff, I'll f***ing hang you upside down the ceiling fan" and all this stuff. He threatens me in a menacing way like everyday. It hurts my feelings a lot because we used to be so close, and he used to not be like this. Plus he has his own apartment, but he is always over here hurting my feelings 4 no reason @ all. And I understand that little sisters can be annoying but I don't think he has a right to talk to me like that. It is even more than that he has gotten in my face and even scared me @ times. I think it is b/c he has anger towards me, b/c my parents aren't good and they don't take care of me and since they don't, he has to and I am added burden on him. This makes him mad and so I think he takes it out on me subconsciously. He makes me feel really bad about myself and talks to me like I'm trash. Sorry this is so long, but I don't know what to do..?
2007-05-11 23:14:44 · update #1
and its not just what i said, he is also really disrespectful he expects me to give him great respect but in return he treats me like s***. sometimes when he does something to annoy me, i keep my mouth shut but when i annoy him he always starts to argue about it. he is a jerk- he doesnt clean up after himself so i clean up 4 him (hes 5 yrs. older than me), at 4am he will come in my room turning on loud music and turn on the lights. he tells me what i cant do- like if he showered and it is my turn, he will tell me i cant go even tho i havent showered because he wants to take another one. he constantly tells me what i should do and once if i get mad @ him then he will get in my face. leaving him alone will not work, ive already tried that but he will just approach me so he is unavoidable. if i do something to him that is irritating, he will get back at me, then the next day he does the same irritating thing to me but i leave him alone. what am i supposed to do? he wont go to his house :(
2007-05-12 07:09:10 · update #2
Its hormonal immaturity for the most part. Unless he is depressed. You all are going through a typical teenaged sibling rough patch. Since he is such an emotional rollercoaster ride with you, try to write your feelings on a regular basis and considering politely sharing them with him in a card so he knows you sincerely miss the love you used to express between one another and let him know he is hurting you. You will get along with your family with time and definetly with better communication. Prayer helps. If he is depressed, he may need someone to talk to. Hope things get better, Hun!
2007-05-11 23:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your brother has troubles going on in his head i don't think its you personally its just your the person he seems to be able to lash out at. It doesn't solve the situation but that's just how it goes. you cant fix it so try to stay out of his way, and keep out of his room if you leave him to it he cant fault you or take out his anger on you anymore. I know it's hard not being able to get on with a sibling when your relationship was so great when you were younger but you have to deal with the fact that people change and not always for the better.
I'm number 2 of 7, I have a younger brother that actually threaten to beat me when i got on his nerves on one of his bad days ( MY BROTHERS ARE GIANTS AND A LOT BIGGER THEN ME!!) I just stay clear of him Its weird because we had such a great relationship and it seems since he left home all that's happen to him between then and now seems to be bad s**t and it don't look like it will get any better. Now we are a lot older we get on ok he still tries to push me around and stuff but i don't let him (he 23 now)
Don't worry yourself leave him be, go to college make your own life better and see if he don't come back to you trying to be your friend when he sees how well your life seems to be going, they don't realize you want to be there for them weather they are hurt or not.
Don't let his anger get to you talk to your parents if it helps and see if you cant get them to sit down with you and your brother while you try talking about his attitude towards you and the reason for it.
2007-05-12 06:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is hurting for you because of your home life and is helpless to do anything.. He might be on a guilt trip because he got his own place and left you to fend for yourself. Brothers are like that. Try being quiet around him for awhile. Don't greet him unless he greets you first. Give him a break.
2007-05-12 07:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by gulfbreeze8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space and don't even talk to him. He's obviously got something else on his mind that's bothering him and it's not up to you to "fix" it. Things may eventually work out and you will be able to be friends when you both are adults.
2007-05-12 06:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something is very wrong with him.
Don't talk to him again until he starts talking to you... and answer only, if he isn't rude. He seems to be having his own issues. I don't think it's your fault.
2007-05-12 06:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
brothers are like that.
i'm 15 and my brother is 23...
it happens to me aswell.
he'll get over it.
if he is really mean to u, you should tell someone about it.
2007-05-12 06:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has problems.
2007-05-12 06:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋