My younger sister is quite lazy and extremely messy - I mean, I am not terribly neat myself, but I am worried about her - she leaves dishes in the sink for days on end, garbage (smelly!) overflowing in the house, clothes laying around on the floor. When we go to her house, we have to negotiate our way around the floor to prevent us falling over. She has asked me to help her, but I don't really know what to say besides clean up after yourself! I think she is suffering from depression also. Have you ever been this messy and disorganised, and been able to "correct" your ways so that you are not so bad. My young nephew lives with her and I worry about him being brought up in this environment as well. My sis knows she has trouble, but I don't know what to do to help her.
2007-05-10 22:57:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hie Daisy. Well to me I have inself gone thorugh this kind of problem, so what I did is there alot of ways of I havew change, here are some tips which can maybe help your lil sister out.
1. Get your nephew and her to clean up the dishes like after eating both can help each other by the first day she do the wahsing and he do the wipeing and the following day they can exchange.
2. About the laundrey she and the nephew can take turn of washing the clothes and if they can really do it by hand then try to get a washing mechine which can really help them with their laundaries, and once it is finish then one of them can take turns by drying it at the backyard.
3. The garbage is better for her or him to throw it out whenever that particular person is doing the wipeing of the dishes.
4. When your lil sister or nephew either one of them can do the sweeping and also moping the floor and also can tidy the things around her.
But before she starts with this it is better for them to follow a daily schedule and also try to explain to her that if she keeps her garbange and her house untidy then there will surely be alot of insects and flies will be flying during their meal, also you can help her out first by giving her a hand before she sets up the schedule.
Try this and hope it might help you..........
ALL THE BEST........
2007-05-10 23:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i went through a messy stage as a teenager. my mother knew exactly what to do. every time i leave dirty clothes, dishes, cups or papers lying around she would takee it and dump it on my bed. at first i tried to take the dishes to the sink and leave them there and my mom would just take it back. my room was later in such a state i had no choice but to clean it if i had any hope of sleeping on my bed ever again or walking around in my room without tripping over stuff. it continued like this for a couple of months and later i just wanted to avoid coming home to a dirty room ,so i started cleaning.
2007-05-10 23:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by roelienwatton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also have an older brother like this. We live alone now in the US and I have to do all the chores from dishes to washing clothes, it gets frustrating sometimes but I have no choice.
My problem is that he's older than me so I can't really say anything to him. But your sister is younger than you, just tell her do you want to get married?, who would want to marry a pig?
2007-05-10 23:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by levis_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be lazy at all, as you said. She may be terribly depressed.
Encourage whatever IS good about her. Maybe help her to get organized (let her do the cleaning part!), and then comment about all the room & the nice smell, etc....
2007-05-10 23:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by datgirl88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is depresed urge her to get some therapy. Laziness is horrible. Tell her that she needs to take some pride in herself and her home. Tell her that it is not healty for your nephew to be raised in such an enviornment. If she does not help herself, call child welfare and they will make her clean up.
2007-05-10 23:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she may be suffering from depression.. you should help her she is your sister. When we are not happy in life our lives become disorganized and this makes our depression worse. Try being emotionally supportive for her and not judging her...
2007-05-10 23:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by je 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with her a couple of days and observe if its actually depression or just her being carefree, also if she does not have a boyfriend it may let her be too free with herself...
i have seen gurls who were not so organised change when a guy comes into their routine
2007-05-10 23:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by JBOY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she is suffering from depression talk her into going to the doctor to get help! if she don't want to go tell her she needs to do it for her son.
2007-05-10 23:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by missy n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter lives like a slob with her three kids and husband
my two neices live this way with their family ..and my one neice just got her Masters in teaching..so she is still a nasty housekeeper..
i think some people just like to be sloppy...just try to be nice
2007-05-10 23:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sis needs a partner to love(she's lonely) and a sister to listen when she has problems, seek some help from a doctor who will refer you to somebody who can help your sister through her deppression.things will only get worse, if she does'nt get help soon!!...good luck!!
2007-05-10 23:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋