I'm in a 5 month relationship and I cancel my plans to see her because she cant tell me what her schedule would be like. she has a tough mom, and doesnt let her schedule her life as she would like. So that means when friday comes around, I have to tell my friends "Sorry i cant come out" because Im waiting to know what time I'd see my gf. Either because of school work she didnt do or mom issues she can never give me concrete schedeuls. So this weekend she makes plans with her friends, and makes time to see me. But she made plans with her friends first before making them with me. She said she wants the independence to do that. But i tell her that I feel like I didnt matter, she didnt ask me if our plans would get in the way of what we wanted to do. She made plans with her friends first. But the thing is she rarely sees her friends. Maybe once in 3 months. Yet i have to cancel my friends every week just to keep myself open in case she is free. What am i doing wrong?
2007-05-10 22:03:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I felt like she made plans with her friends first and then our time came second to her. It was supposed to fit into what she wanted to do on her own first. And i feel like I didn't fit into her equation. In terms of hey what are you doing this weekend, oh okay I guess I can push back my friends an hour if you have to get out of work late. This way we can have coffee or w/e.
2007-05-10 22:05:44 · update #1
mean while Im telling friends no i cant see you because most of the time, I have to cancel plans because she never gives me definites. Would I feel better if I stopped cancelling things with my friends.
2007-05-10 22:06:44 · update #2
Sounds like you a desperate clingy spineless douche that's constantly bugging her. I've lost so many chicks doing the exact same thing. Women say they want attention but to keep them interested that couldn't be further from the truth. The more you ignore them and leave them alone the more attracted they will be to you. It'll drive a girl crazy if you don't pay attention to them.
2007-05-10 22:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by radrictheomen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dude, stop being there for her every little step she may not be happy bout that but think bout how ur friends feel, not being able to hang with their buddy..... plus if u stop being there and canceling plans then it will put more pressure on her if she wants to see u shell have to move her scheduale around....look its advice take it or leave it? good luck
AirsoftDude
2007-05-11 05:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by AirsoftDude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that she has very little time because of her situation. She needs to spend time with them too. You can still take time to go out with your friends sometimes too!
2007-05-11 05:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from ur infos she sounds fairly young. dont pressure her, sit down and talk it out. she probably needs some time and understanding. u seem to love her too so give her some time and let her know that. she ll understand.
2007-05-11 05:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by randy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is at fault. shes being unreasonable. stop canceling on your friends for her.
2007-05-11 05:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by B* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋