My ex-husband who *proclaimed* himself to be very Mormon was addicted to the *sins of the flesh.* Yet he was always just given a slap on the hand by church authorities. Eventually this and other of his addictions and behaviors deterioriated our marriage.
Since they're going to be having sex with multiple wives in the hereafter is it a big deal for them to indulge in porn now?
2007-05-10 21:44:03 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can understand how this is a reflection of some very justified bitterness towards your ex-husband. Gordon B. Hinkley has said over and over again to avoid pornography like the plague, and it's for the very reason that it tears families apart like yours. I'm sorry for your tragedy.
Very recently have addiction recover programs been introduced in the church to overcome this very problem. They are similar to the 12 steps used in AA, and so far have shown to be very successful for the addicts that are actually willing to work it. If your ex is not willing to work the program, then it would do him no good anyway.
Also, recently bishops have been receiving more training on understanding the nature of this addiction, and that it must be addressed differently than other non-addictive behavior sins - a lot of bishops did not understand that in the past.
I'm only sorry these programs were not introduced earlier...No, there is no justification of any sort for your ex-husband's behavior.
2007-05-11 04:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by daisyk 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-17 18:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it quite is under no circumstances stable doctrine, yet my very own expertise and my very own opinion... i comprehend a pair that have been married interior the temple. that they were married for roughly 2 years, had no young ones, they have been in an automobile twist of destiny and he died. She remairred my buddy. She complicated a complicated time finding out if she could "temple divorce" her first husband and that they spoke with a regular authority approximately it. She desperate to stay sealed to her first husband... that must be a complicated selection. I certainly have a kin member that grow to be style of interior the comparable concern, he grow to be the 2nd husband and that that they had 7 infants jointly. He continuously merely stated the Lord might take care of it interior the top... i assume that's all we are able to place self assurance in quite, that the Lord will comprehend what must be achieved. Anywho, in my view, the rationalization only men could have greater desirable than one spouse and not vice versa, is by the fact they're the Priesthood holder, the Patriarch of the kin, the 'chief'. Eventhough women and men persons are equivalent in God's eyes, the guy remains the Priesthood holder and finally we as different halves carry on with our husband as our husbands carry on with the Lord. i don't experience inferior or something, I certainly have my place as a spouse and mom and am without end grateful for those roles. i won't think of having 2 "leaders" in my abode, i think of that should reason super conflict. quite, I have faith that the Lord knows what he's doing. in case you suspect he's the Lord, then He could be desirable. If he's desirable, then He could provide desirable commandments. He has a purpose for each thing. merely by fact we don't comprehend or comprehend 'why' something is how that's, does no longer recommend that's incorrect. The Lord knows. I have faith in Him.
2016-10-15 08:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mormons, as a religious group, don't feel justified in looking at porn. We believe, are taught repeatedly, as a matter of doctrine, that it is addictive, destructive, and sinful and that it is never okay under any circumstances. But no one is perfect, there are members of the church that do get caught in the pornography trap. And while church leaders will do all they can to HELP members kick the addiction, all they can do is try to HELP. Ultimately your husband's addictions are his responsibility.
2007-05-14 17:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Athena 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, according to LDS/Mormon theology, only a small percentage of the people in the highest degree of the LDS/Mormon heaven (called the Celestial Kingdom) will practice polygamy, so I don't think an LDS guy could use that as justification for looking at porn.
2007-05-12 16:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Her 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your marriage was destroyed, your relationship with your husband was irrevocably damaged....and you want to know if the fact that he used his religion as an excuse for the irresponsible behavior that caused this destructive outcome is acceptable? Religion is used far too often as a crutch and an excuse to do whatever one wishes instead of "manning up" and doing what you know is really right in the 1st place. Your husband didn't care enough to be a good husband, and his religious community enabled his destructive behavior....how should this be viewed any differently than alcoholism, or drug addiction, or spousal abuse? I would like to ask you to answer your own question, posed in a different light: "Since Jesus turned water into wine, and up-turned the money changers' carts, does that mean it's ok for my husband to come home drunk and throw things around?"
2007-05-10 21:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Doc 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not good for anyone to look at porn! No one did anything, probably, because just looking at porn is not an offense that one can lose their membership, but, what it can lead to could.
We don't know about what "having sex" is in the next life. And any man who has wife or wives because they like the sex is not going to get ANY wife. That's not what marriage, and especially plural marriage, is all about.
2007-05-11 00:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is supposed to be a big deal because they are supposed to be pure and blameless on earth in order to get to the celestial heaven. Another thing that happens is the wife gets blamed for not keeping the husband from slipping.
2007-05-14 02:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Heres one for you, my Dad heard that Mary was married to God int he pre-existance as taught in the temple, so when my mom got overwhelmed by being a Mormon, she just mad eme do haouseowrk and take care of the kids and my dad just saw me as another wife. Dysfunctional tp say the least, why would mormon men have to look at porn when they can look to their daughters to be a daughter/wife???
2007-05-11 13:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
A slap on the hand, what do you want them to do exactly?
It is not up to the church to discpiline him, they can only try to help. His addiction, his problem. You can't blame a church.
2007-05-11 01:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by divinity2408 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋