I've been told I have a stunning face and am really photogenic. People always compliment my figure and fashion sense etc and yet I can go out with my girlfriends and it seems all the blokes talk to them and I just get a nod?? I've been told some guys are afraid of rejection but this answer doesn't satisfy my need!! So come on guys whats a girl to do?
2007-05-10 21:40:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I might sound it but I'm not vain at all, I never tell people to their face what people have told me, but its online so I just want some good advice really.
2007-05-10 21:53:40 · update #1
must be your modesty! :)
2007-05-10 21:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Men go for the more confident and usually slutty women. If you have a friend who is more confident than you are and is more flirtaious than you are, but you're better looking than her, you will still find the men would go for her.
I went throught the same thing with my bestfriend. I was thin, she was porky etc, and yet the men always went for her because the difference was, i didn't throw myself at them, but she did. It's also the way you dress. If your friends dress more revealing than you do!
Basically all men care about is having a girlfriend who is confident and kinda slutty. That's the shallow men that you don't want to get in with anyway.
You should just be yourself and one day the type of bloke that you want will come along.
P.S see what i mean! Someone has just posted a qstn saying "does anyone else find that sluts are more attractive?"
2007-05-11 04:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi vanilla . well well we both are on the same boat !!! . i always have been wondering if this does happen only to me coz i get complimented by girls for my character and my personality but when i go out with my mates they get approached by all the girls where as i am left marooned . i never had a clue why i was not approached by any girls which eventually brought my personal confidence tumbling down and to be honest i dont belive in my ability these days when it comes to girls ......
so ,my advice to u is be urself and ur inner beauty will find u a great guy one day
2007-05-11 05:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by sameer a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Vanilla!
Well, I have the perfect reason why guys do this. Sometimes, when a boy likes a gal, he will not immediately approach her, in fear of rejection, as you mentioned. So, what they do, is to approach your closest friends first, and it may look like they are trying their luck on your friends, but in reality, they are trying to get to you! Give it some time...u;ll see. And in the mean time, you sound like a beautiful girl...so bask in your inner beauty, gal...enjoy it!
2007-05-11 04:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by caprichic2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes beauty intimidates guys. Your body language probably says that you are approachable. Open up and be more friendly. You make the advancements once in awhile. Don't depend on others to approach you.
If you want to learn more about what you body language says, and how to change it, there are books in the library and bookstore that will help you.
2007-05-11 04:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see guys really get hurt by rejection and therefore think no hope in hell of getting with you so why bother.
Also probably think if your mate you will either get upset and treat them like some pervey peado who pounced on you or like a joke sas though he actually thought he stood a chance with you and laugh with your mates... either way he looses mates which you and he share.
Sinmple solution.
take away that fear
You appraoch him... play with the guys get them realxed with you, take up any opportunity to get touchy feely from ticking to needing that lotion on your back etc.
And if he notices your boobs etc ask him what he thinks and its cool boys noticing boobs thats what they are therefore as loong as they keep looking up and have a laugh about it.
Ie showing you are cool about being touched and seen of as sexaul by him and well as a fun down to earth mate
And ask him out etc.
Also the guys wont try anything when you are with mates
2007-05-11 07:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me darling that your friends r more flirty than you r
just do what you do and enjoy your nights out .have confidence ?And most of the time us dominant males are after 1 thing without a challenge.
2007-05-11 17:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take offense but look more open dont fold ur arms, keep them more open, be more open, if u look snobish or like plz dont take offese to this cuz im not calling u one, but like a bi***h guys wont walk up to u if u dont look like ur open to them introduceing them selves, smile more, um look at the guys u want to meet or maybe talk to get eye contact hope that helps, and plz dont take offense to the b***** comment
good luck
AirsoftDude
2007-05-11 04:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by AirsoftDude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually a guy will pluck up the courage to ask you out.
2007-05-11 05:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
us guys are afraid of good looking women. might i suggest; that next time you go out with your friends. dress down a little.
2007-05-11 04:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your either Beautiful, Ugly or Old.
2007-05-11 04:49:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋