How do become just friends?

Question

I've been w/ my g/f going on 9months. I'm a good guy w/ goals, determination & motivation. I drink occasionally. She is content w/ the job she has. Doesn't want to pursue a college edu. She procrastinates and drinks excessively & other Bad habbits. She is a diff religion than myself. She is understanding, beautiful smile, & makes me happy :) . I'm faithful & devote plenty of attention to her. I feel as if I'm not being appreciated :( . Wat do u do when u know deep down inside your investing so much time with someone you won't spend the rest of your life with. They don't have certain attributes you want from a spouse. At 21 yrs, (she's 22)... I came to the conclusion that I would probably want to be friends w/her. She says I'm the her first real relationship. Her first real Love. The only guy that has treated her like a "princess". Is it possible to just have a friendship from a woman that says this. To sit bck & just chill and sip a brew. Does this exist or is it a fairy tale.Adviceplz

Answer 1

You should be honest with her. Just tell her that your goals in life are different from hers, and you feel that you are being unfair to her to remain in a relationship that can not produce a future. Tell her that you want to give her the opportunity to find someone that will have the same goals and ideas about life. Ask that she remain your friend because you really enjoy her company.

She will probably be hurt at first, but once she realizes that you are being kind, she will come around.

Answer 2

dude unless your planning on getting away from her so you can find the marriage type then keep her till you find something better

Answer 3

i'm not sure how you are going to do it...but you have to do it fast...don't play with her emotions if you don't plan to have anything serious with her...