He is staying with his parents, while his wife (my sister), and their two really cute kids stay at home by themselves. My other sisters are telling my sister to give him a week, but I think that is being too generious. No excuse should justify running away from responsibilities. Not only is it a huge sign of weakness, but you have little if no respect for those who are weak unless they have a lagitimate medical reason to be that. So is stop smoking meds to blame for him wanting to kill himself, or is it just plain stupidity that is taking over his thoughts? I want my sister to be happy so what advice should I give her? Should I tell her to cut her losses and find someone not so stupid, or do we give him the benifit for the doubt?
2007-05-10 20:03:40 · 11 answers · asked by Tammy 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
wow stop taking the meds even if he starts smoking again its better dying a slow death than out-and-out killing urself
2007-05-10 20:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angelacia baybeeeeee 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends. Quitting smoking can trigger anxiety attacks and depression. If he were schizophrenic, it could cause a worsening of symptoms. The medications to quit smoking are either nicotine patches, gum or antidepressants/anti-anxiety meds. Antidepressant and antianxiety medication can trigger depression, mania, anxiety, panic attacks, suicidal thinking or just plain ol' irratic behavour.
On a side note, I find your post offensive and highly ignorant. Your assumption that the man is stupid or weak because he has temporarily left your sister while he is quitting smoking and under a lot of stress is nothing but ridiculous. Not only that, but for you to say that people with mental illness have a 'lagitimate' reason to be weak is horrendous, absurd and reflects a deep flaw in your persona.
2007-05-10 20:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter needs her mom. I think you should get in touch with others that are going through the same things as you are. I also think you should contact you church about this. Get in to a bible study and fill your time with some people that will listen and pray with you. You are still around because you are needed. You can be more than you now think you can be. You just need help is seeing what you can do. Just like when your daughter couldn’t do something you helped her realize her potential. We all need help some more than others and some at particular times in their life. You need a little help here and then I am sure that once you have a direction you will take off. You have much to give. Find a good church and make some good friends and those steps will help you start in a good direction. Blessings and you will be in my prayers
2016-03-19 03:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain medications like Wellbutrin that are used both to treat smoking addictions and depression. Antidepressants, ironically enough, can cause increased suicidal thoughts. He should seek the advice of a physician about an alternate drug and probably a psychiatrst to see if there is an underlying problem. Really its entirely possible that the drugs are responsible, so you should give him the benefit of the doubt. At the same time, don't let him fall further down this spiral. Insist upon him seeking professional help for the benefit of himself, his family and your sister.
2007-05-10 20:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kirsten L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And I thought Commit lonzegens do some sort of help... so sad there's another side to this... unless you're talking about some sort of other mediciation.
Well, one simple thing is to see if he does come back after one week. If he doesn't straighten up, you should tell him to get him off the anti-smoke meds and go see a therapist or those people that poke needles into your body and give you an elecrtic shock because that help.
As for telling your sister, just read above.
2007-05-10 20:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by ShadowX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a pill called CHANTIX that he should be taking to quit smoking. It is not like the other one they give to people when they are messed in the brain. Get him off that med and if he starts smoking again tell him to go see a doc and get CHANTIX. I just quit on it 3 weeks ago and it didn't even feel like I quit. I smoked a pack a day for 11 years. Good Luck.
2007-05-14 07:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by T Dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Mental illness is not a sign of stupidity or weakness. It is a legitimate physical condition the effects the mind. Judging by your comments you are a very fortunate person that has never had to face the challenge of depression. I understand you deeply care for your sister, her happiness is important to you and you are angry that she is hurt. I have studied suicides and I can tell you that this man is not suicidal out of lack of regard or respect for others. He needs immediate attention. Wellbutrin is probably the medication, also called Zyban and it can cause this type of behavior. The best thing you can do for your sister is get HIM help NOW because tomorrow might be too late.
2007-05-10 20:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you as someone who works in the medical field, that some people who have used the medications to quit smoking have had suicidal thoughts and differences in personality after begining the medication. Its rare, but it does happen. There have even been cases where thier speech has begun to slur and their motor skills have lessened.
His doctor really needs to be informed about this today. If it is the medications, his doctor is the only one who can determine that.
If he is depressed and feeling suicidal for any other reasons, he will still need help.
Either way, he needs IMMEDIATE help.
Depression IS medical and it sounds to me like you need to better educate yourself on that and stop being so judgemental and instead be supportive.
2007-05-10 20:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by Paramedic Girl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he's confused. I'd say to get him off those meds right away.
I suggest you keep your opinions about his weakness to yourself. The likely scenario is that he will get a grip and resume his familial relationships and you will have to live with repercussions of what you have said.
It doesn't sound to me like your sister needs to hear advice from you. She's an adult and can make her own decisions based on all the information available to her.
2007-05-10 20:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact the doctor who has prescribed him the medicine ASAP. IF you do not know the doctor get someone to look at the medicine bottle it should be on there or go to his pharmacy and tell the pharmacist and they can contact his doctor. There is a warning about the medicine causing these problems and you don't won't this on your shoulders or anyone else in the family if he does something stupid because of the medication! Hope everything turns out ok.
2007-05-10 20:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by LYNN W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not sure what your brother in law has been prescribed, but I hope it is not an SSRI drug. (Prozac, Luvox, Paxil, etc..) Studies reveal an increased suicidal tendency for people using these types of meds. The kids that went on a shooting spree in Columbine were all on SSRI drugs. Most recently, the Virginia Tech shooter was also on these meds. Drug companies knew these data existed but choose to suppress it. Best to slowly get off the meds, as opposed to suddenly stopping.
2007-05-10 20:28:31 · answer #11 · answered by troy adair 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋