I'm 23 years old and still living with my parents. My sister just moved back home because her marriage is over. She needs attention 24/7 and I get shhhed or 'thats stupid', 'we dont care' etc. I'm feeling trapped and unwanted. I can't move out because I'm a student with little to no money. I'm starting to see a coucilor next week because there is other issues nagging at me and this stiuation is making me soo mad that I'm getting angry at everyone and wanna punch things.
What do you think? Am I going mentally mad or what? Any suggestions?
2007-05-10 19:04:28 · 12 answers · asked by harlm7 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It seems all the attention has been turned to your sister. It is also giving you alot of pressure and taking away whatever moral support you may need. You are not going mad. Just very very stressed for a 23 year old who is not independant yet. The burden is too much, what with the school work? Do alot of exercises to release your tension. It will prevent any mental problems that might develop although it will not help you financially. Is there a students welfare group that might be able to help?
2007-05-10 19:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Vico 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone quite a few years older than you, I can safely say that your just feeling frustrated with your family...and things will most deinitely improve soon enough. Your sister must be devastated by her failed marriage, so you'll have to accept that she'll be getting your parents attention for a while. Other than that, a coucilor is a great way to get things off your chest, but remember, you're only 23! Life may suck at the moment, but things will turn around soon enough...When I look back at being your age I remember feeling very similarly, but these feelings will evaporate once you start working and move out of home. Stay strong dude.
2007-05-11 02:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by astroboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not going insane you are just under a lot of stress right now i mean with your sister moving back home you use to probably use to get all of the attention and now you feel shut out.and then with being a student that is another thing that can be very stressful too.It is good that you are going to see a counselor because talking about this will help you out allot.and try to get your parents to listen to you too.And as far as moving out there are places that i am sure that will help you get started out on your own.
2007-05-11 02:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by tay tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are just stressed by family life. Going to a counselor is a good thing and maybe you could go to the gym and work off some of your frustration. If there is another family member you could talk to or stay with for a while, like grandma or an aunt, try doing that.
2007-05-11 02:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by bubbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, I went through that too... very similar.
Not much you can do. You're just stressed, very f***ing stressed. Try to spend less time at home, and if you do go to your room and close the door. That's not your problem that she needs attention.
Go to the library and study. Go flirt with chix or guys (i don't know if you're a girl or a guy)
Take refuge in your friends. They can give you attention.
yahoo answers and online chatting isn't bad either. Let out your agression. If you need to talk to somebody and don't have anyone you can always add me to your yahoo list.
go for a walk or something. don't stay stressed, it's toxic.
2007-05-11 02:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by kujiiiro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
youre just pissed off about your situation...dont be a victim...be pro-active and take charge of your life. Sometimes in life, we have to pick between two "poisons"...pick the less repulsive one and move forward.
In your case, you can continue to "feel unwanted" and stay there or go get job (like the rest of the world and go part time to school). Personally, if I was you, I would pick the latter and move on. In the meantime, get some financial aid or scholarship.
2007-05-11 02:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be thankful that you're not in her situation. this is apparently a time that she is feeling unwanted and unloved by the person she thought she would spend the rest of her life with. it is probably devastating for her.
not everyone deals with loss the same way. so her way doesn't jive with yours. now just sit back, let them be, and have confidence in the fact that you are a caring, mature adult who wanted to help but now that your help is not needed, go about your business and focus on yourself.
just realize these same people would be there for you if you had a devastating event in your life and it would probably take precedence over anyone else at that time.
your parents probably think you're fine dealing with your life right now and they think they need to be there for her in overtime mode because of her circmstances. be thankful they are not nosy parents in your business when they don't need to be ;-)
2007-05-11 02:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by logicalconclusion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't insane... you just have a lot of stress. Be as honest as you can with the counselor. It sounds like you are going just in time. Don't worry... it will all work out.
2007-05-11 02:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by red_texasgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man same here im 25 male i cant even go to a club because i have horrible GAD if I didnt have **** thinking in my head i would have gone out i punch things as well mood disorder ANIXETY SUCKS PLAIN & SIMPLE I GOT FOR 7 YEARS I TRYED SSRI BENZO I DONT KNOW WHAT THE **** TO DO ANYMORE
ONLY THING I DO IS PRAY
2007-05-11 02:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel stressed like that try doing some push ups or something or find something to beat up on that you wont kill yourself on
2007-05-11 02:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Layka L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋