So im 19, and I had been with the same girl for about 3 years or so. In the end she cheated on me with another guy, so that was the end of that. But a week or so ago she starts talking to me, and im not thrilled about that, but I talk with her for awhile just to be nice. Well she tells me that she wants to have sex with me agian. Now she's actually dating the guy that she cheated on me with, and I haven't exactly gotten over her. So I could have sex, gotten revenge on the guy the screwed me over, and more or less proven she's still a slut to everyone. But in the end I didnt do it. I told myself when she first cheated on me that I could never help someone cheat on their bf. And in the end i just knew it would be wrong. But did I really make the right decision? I mean, there was litterally no draw backs to doing it, but I still couldnt. It's been bugging me, and I want to know what others think.
2007-05-10 18:54:36 · 17 answers · asked by JJ F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no draw backs? yes there is. By doing what she did to you makes you no better than her. If you do this then you will become the person that you disliked. She cheated. I know you can't be ecstatic about it but let that heifer go. Once a cheater always a cheater, didn't your momma ever tell you that?
2007-05-10 18:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by queentana2485 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, i think i would have been tempted to take my revenge over her and than make sure his actual bf knows. But that's just not the right thing to do. besides, if you really did not fully get over her, that could have been a mess. imagine you fell in love with her again.... you would have gotten your revenge, but you would have ended up suffering anyways. SO.... GOOD CHOICE my friend. Be a gentlemen and probably, after being rejected she'll want you even more, drop her bf to come back to you and yo'l have your revenge in a different way!!!
2007-05-10 19:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by osvidelm_par 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did make the right decision. Who knows if she's slept with more people than you and her current boyfriend! If she has she has a higher risk of contracting an std and, in most cases, some stds do not have any symptoms but, can still harm those that have contracted it. And a condom doesn't protect against all stds. Some can be transfered from skin to skin comtact. Plus she's a slut... be glad you aim higher than that.
2007-05-10 19:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cassie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the right decision.
There were drawbacks, you'd have to live with the knowledge that you were involved in the 'marginal' situation and you would also have potentially been exposed to any std she's picked up.
You did the right thing, you can be proud of your ability to see the right thing and act on it in a very difficult and confusing situation. If you were my child, I'd be so proud I could burst.
A side bonus to this is that it will make it easier to get 'get over' her because she's obviously not someone you want to have your heart depending on.
2007-05-10 19:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the right decision. Taking revenge on someone that has wronged you isn't necessary. Just watch her screw up her own life,what she did to you will reflect on her sooner or later. You did the right thing... Just keep this in mind... What you did is what you get in return. I don't know if you believe in Karma... But for me it's true. It just takes time, so be patient...^^
2007-05-10 19:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be so easy to get revenge and get some action at the same time, but you made the mature choice. Shows you are a better person than either of them are.
2007-05-10 18:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the right choice. You made the right choice ethically (better not to stoop to their levels, bottom line) and physically - you don't know (with their records) what might be contagious.
Kudos for resisting!
Hang in there and take care. Making good choices can be tough ... but worth it. A better situation will come along.
Best wishes!
2007-05-10 19:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by truehartc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You most diffrently made the right decision without a question i must say being that im a female and who best to tell you a female, not that i would want to hurt someone in such away but i know excatly what was on her mine when she came at you the way she did, okay of course she takes you to be weak in the knees for her that's obvious because any female that have the guts to cheat on a guy after what they have for 3yrs don't appreciate, now could of been great in the begaining in all but when things like this start's to happen pretty much that means the person is losen his or her respect for you, so thats excatly what she shows from her actions, exspecially knowing you know she with him, but yet trying to boost your head up trying to make it seems as if she's gonna try to cheat on him for you bye asking you and her to hook up again but really what she's doing is playing mind games with you. think about it do you think she loves you or could care less about what great sex you two had or might of not had whatever one that may be anyway nah thats not the case at all she cheated on you for him and knew that would hurt you as well as know how deep your feelings are about her so what she doing now is geting a kick out of your emiotions and the way you may express them to her and not even realize it but what you need to know once somebody lose they respect for you then its over there's no reason you should even be dealing with it, and it's clear to me she have's and the way she doesn't give much thought to you feelings and come at you the way she does. this situation isn't about her cheating on her man with you now or you respecting the other becuz you said you would never do that its about you and you pride as a man, sometimes its not always good to have to much pride but in this situation have as much as you can and move on with someone who care's about your feelings. Since she destroy you and her relationship she also destroy you and her friendship becuz when you and a relationship it isnt just about love sex and happyniest but it's a spritual kind trust worthy friendship, you and her should of been the best of the best of friends becuz the both choosen to give one another to each other in a whole diffrent level physically and mentally. To add the image you gav her to your family thats a relationship so she was willing to break that and now you have to be willing to break all ties with her. Becuz now she doesnt want you back or anything she just wants to sleep with you hear and there and look into the eyes of a hurt man and make you feel as though you what she really needs when really she'll be walking out with another smile on her face and the thought that i hav him all wrap around my finger and i take when i want and leave when i wanna while at the same time she's going to someone else painting a diffrent image to him. She selfish and she wants you to sufer in pain, and never be happy with another but in the mean time she doing her the whole time not thinking about you at all. trust me she just wants you to think of her and only her, and her way of geting you to never get over her is by using the great old trick and that's through her trying to sleep with you. you made the right decision move on and move on breaking all ties to her so you wont be hurt at the end of the day.
2007-05-10 19:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by schevon524 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that even though you had more than a prime Opportunity to do something wrong and you didn't shows that you have morals and respect for yourself. never doubt you self for doing whats right. you show good judgment and class, and that you are a good faithful man worth having.
2007-05-10 19:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by pennie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right decision. you still proved that she is **** and youre not. by not doing it you come out the bigger person in the end. and the next person will appreciate you for being a good man. you can always find another ****
2007-05-10 19:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋