I was with my partner for 6 years, I was very young and believed everything she told me. How much she loved and cared for me etc etc. It was a bad relationship from the beginning, we fought a lot, but she was a manipulator and I was too stupid to see the real her. I loved her, gave her my heart and all she ever did was lie, cheat and treat me badly. Now its over and its been a while, i found somebody new and I cant seem to forget the past and everything that happenned. I want to love again but I cant seem to open my heart up. What should I do?
2007-05-10 18:20:05 · 13 answers · asked by Dreamy-girl123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This happened to me too, and it was a while before i was even interested in dating. Just take it slow, and try not to judge others on past experiences. Most importantly completely get rid of everything about that person in your life, and force yourself to get over it by not thinking and dwelling on it.
Hope this helps
2007-05-10 18:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, the new person is not the one. I believe if someone would hold your attention strong enough you will forget the manipulator. After all you are a nice guy that put up with a lot but has survived. Remember, you are wiser, stronger and nice enough to trust again. Not everyone is a liar, manipulator and a cheat but a lot are. Look for other reasons why this new girl is just not helping you heal your mending heart. Put the past in a box and keep in covered while you explore this new venture. Don't bring your issues to the new relationship. Good Luck and Don't stress. No relationship is better than the wrong relationship.
2007-05-11 01:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through the same thing with a male partner. That's why I'm taking the time to work through all of the feelings that are still there. I can't stand the thought of starting a new relationship because I don't want to risk another like that one. I vowed to take a year and stay single and work through all my issues and then maybe go from there.
2007-05-11 01:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Judy W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life it's full of challenges that we must face, wether it's love or economic or other we must face them and to move on we must be strong and willing, You have to be strong and try to forget the past, Even a very deep wound can be healed but the key it's time and strenght to continue with life, By being strong you are opening your heart to yourself and other people, You need to love again to forget but don't make the same mistakes, And remember Time heals even the deepest wounds of your hart, Just be Strong and courage to continue.
2007-05-11 01:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by Vicz101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, its like that song Ice box by Omarion..... I would try to explain to this special person how much you feel for her and let her know that you still feel scarred from the hurt of your past relationship and that it makes you reluctant to open yourself, I'm sure she will understand and if she is worth it she will stick around and maybe over some time your wounds will heal and you can give more of yourself to her... good luck I hope things work out.
2007-05-11 01:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Betrayed and Insane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time... They say it takes about half the time the relationship lasted to get over it. It might not be a good idea to jump into one. The best metaphor I have found is "Clean the apartment before you let someone else move in"
2007-05-11 01:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by manano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and see what's going on with this person. Never be to quick to show your cards. Treat this person the way you want to be treated but keep your eyes open. If she manifests the same traits as the last, then you'll know its time to cut out prior to any long term deals.
2007-05-11 01:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by LA Law 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really like this girl and u r afaird to get hurt, then take a little longer to get to know this girl..make sure that she is nothing like ur bad ex..all u need is to trust love again...n the only thing is time and the good experiences u'll have with this new girl~~
best of luck to u~~~
2007-05-11 01:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jo~~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem blunt but.... just forget about her. It's hard, i know, but in order for you to love again, you need for stop all communications with her, and stop thinking about her. It's a long and hard process, but it does work =) All you have to do, is wait...... and work very hard at keeping other things on your mind.
2007-05-11 01:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I believe prayer, counseling and being honest with the new girl. It takes time to heal, and you have discovered that you have issues you truly have not overcame. Baby steps. Have faith and keep trying.
2007-05-11 01:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by mysti_gal11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋