Do you find as a Christian that there are some people you just dont like?

Question

As a child and a youth I loved everyone, I have talked to God about this tonight but there this one person that I used to go to my church back east that I could NOT stand, she never did anything to me as a person but I would get angry about how she would treat her twins a boy and a girl, she would treat her kids like crap .

She is a very angry person and has a hard masculine edge to her meaning her hair is very short and she always has an angry face. She always has a chip on her shoulder and always ready to "cop an attitude".

I never felt this way about a person before but I was just wondering Do you find as a Christian that there are some people you just dont like or can't stand?

I never had a person effect me the way this person has so negatively as this person has.

And I know what God says about loving people, but I dont like her my question is has this ever happened to you in your walk with the Lord? How have you handled it?

Answer 1

I think part of the problem is you are concentrating on all her negative qualities, and you are using phrases to describe her that automatically instill a sense of dislike in you. As I read your description, I thought gee I don't like this person either! But I have never met her. She may have some really great qualities that you didn't mention.

Maybe she was treated harshly as a child, or has had a bad life. If you knew her life story, maybe you'd feel sorry for her. Try to find something good about her. Imagine she was your own child. As her mother, you may be disappointed in the mistakes she is making, but you'd love her anyway. You can hate what she is doing, but love her.

There is this one lady I have a hard time loving too. She pretends to be everyone's friend and then talks about them behind their backs. I have prayed for God to help me see her as His child and to pray for her. It just helps to pray for her. I pray, "God help her see the error of her ways and make her a better person." Then I start to feel a little less hatred of her. I still don't approve of what she does. But I just realize that she is human.

Answer 2

You seem to have it under control...only just don't let it bother you too much. Are you having a problem with her "masculinity". We all can't get along with everyone, but it's how you treat her as a person that counts. Maybe you wouldn't be best friends if you went to school together, but if you can stand her during mass, that's great. And she has twins. Maybe she's overwhelmed. Try reaching out to her. You might be surprised.

Answer 3

These are the greatest commandments in the Law. "You must love Jehovah God with your whole heart and with your whole soul and with your whole mind. "This is the greatest and first commandment. The second is, "You must love your neighbor as yourself." Matthew 22:37

Are you living by these two laws, if not then you are not serving God in the way of his law.

We are all imperfect and have character defects and have fallen short of the Glory of God.

Love conquers all things, bears all things. So spread a little love. Casually start a conversation with her and ask her if she would like to share a few Bible verses with you. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

There is a very simple answer that I can give you. God is perfect, he knew that we would not be able to get along with everybody, so he gave us a way out. We must turn to scripture.

Rom 16:17 Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offenses contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.

He tells us to mark them and avoid them. Don't antagonize any situation with them, just be true to scripture and just avoid them. So yes there are some I guess that I do not like, but that does not mean that I do not still love them. I just avoid them to stear clear of any emotions that might arise and get me in trouble.

Answer 5

Um, yes dear. There are lots of people in your life that will inevitably rub you the wrong way. This is part of being human. The fact that you don't KNOW that this happens to everyone and that you think there is a way 'to handle it' is perhaps the scariest thing I've read on here all week.

Answer 6

There are different kinds of love...it's like sinners, we love them spiritually, yet hate their sins...I have run across some people in my life who make it almost impossible to like or be around. All you can really do is ask God to help you with your attitude towards this person. You can't change her, only God can. It may take awhile, but trust Him to work this out.

Answer 7

As a Christian, no. As a person who has faults, sure. Once in a blue moon. Didn't your mom ever teach you to find something to like about them? By the way, I don't think this question was asked by a Christian.

Answer 8

As a Christian, we are not commanded to "like" everyone...but to love them. This does not mean that you are going to approve of everything they do. Mistreating others is a sin so for you to disapprove of what that person is doing is fine. Just don't forget to separate the sin from the sinner. God Bless.

Answer 9

I have felt this way about alot of people...

The best advice I can give about how to deal with it is this. Remind yourself that you don't know what happened to this person in their life experience. I don't pity them, but look for compassion. She is not perfect, nor are you...but God loves you both. Its not easy...but it has helped me to see people in a new light. It also opens your heart, when you see them through the eyes of compassion instead of annoyance...then you take one step closer to showing the love of God to them.

Hope it helps.

Answer 10

Sure, there are always people that make me angry and people that I just don't care for. I have to talk to myself about it a lot and I am not always successful!