I have a friend who is presently a Senior in College and she is preparing to become a Doctor. She has one year of undergrad and then four years of medical school. She is trying to decide whether she should marry before she completes medical school or complete medical school first before marriage. This is a perplexing decision to make. What do you think is the best course of action?
2007-05-10 16:11:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In all honesty, if it's meant to be, it will still be there after medical school. Honey, medical school is complicated and stressful....so is a marriage at times. Does your friend really want to enter into a lifelong committment with someone and not have the time to enjoy each other as newlyweds should? Her future spouse is going to be made to feel as though he comes second in line to a career and that's not a good way to start off. If he understands and accepts her game plan, then he'll accept waiting and take the time to get his career started.
2007-05-10 16:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - I can't hold my tongue. Why is it so important to get married? You are in a committed relationship - what will change when you get married? Honestly? What is the difference? The only difference I could see, is if you decided to wait with sex until you are married. Anything else, I do not understand. (Just some food for thoughts) However, you know your parents best, so you know if the direct approach is better than an indirect one. Before you talk to her parents about that, just also consider, that they might be less friendly to you after-wards - and maybe give her a hard time, which will add stress and arguments to your relationship. This is another reason, why I am saying - what is the difference? Be 21, be both independent, then get married and move on, with or without approval of the parents. Honestly, when I was 19 I was sure I would marry the guy I was with and live with him happily ever after - well it did not happen and now I could not see myself with him - if I think about it Good luck to you both
2016-05-20 01:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does depend on her situation right now and what her plans are for the future. Marriage is a long commitment and a successful marriage requires a lot of work. I suggest she should complete medical school and when she goes into residency she should then marry the guy. A woman must only marry after she has adequate financial means to do so.
2007-05-10 16:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by AroseC 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the person, the mate, the relationship they have and how strong they both are. either way, i dont think it matters. u have lots a people in medical school that are married....and its not easy.....and those with kids are very rare, its almost impossible. this person has one more year of undergrad, then 4 years of med school and then at least 3 to 4 years of residency.....If i met the love of my life at that stage in my life (the one that she is in now) i would have married him. but going thru it single wasnt easy and going thru med school, residency being married is also not easy, but doable.
so really, it depends on the person but just know its no cake walk
2007-05-10 16:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by braille 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude if this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with you can both wait another year finish school and secure a future for your self who knows this may be the year that makes or breaks you. be strong and follow through and everything will work out for the best good luck
2007-05-10 16:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by monieluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time time to wait. I think she should wait though, and focus on her schooling before she starts a family. But some people know how to make it work.
2007-05-10 16:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Kris W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely finish undergrad first. What will her BF be doing while sheis in med school? That is a factor. I'd favor waiting.
2007-05-10 16:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by M S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should finish up her school and then marry the guy..
If he really loves her then he should respect her and wait till she's done..
Best of luck to her =)
2007-05-10 16:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should marry and go to school if he can't accept that fact that you are not going to stop going to school then you may want to say that you choose school over him because if he don't want you to better your self then he can't really love you.
2007-05-10 16:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school then get married that way she won't be distracted by school and they can enjoy their time as newlyweds and new careers.jmo
2007-05-10 16:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by mama of 3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋