Why don't young people save their virginity until they get married ???

Question

Why is this ? how do you feel about this ? did you ? why or why not ? what can be done to change this ? married ? dor how long ? age ?

Please Answer ALL or as many of the question, thank you, have a good one.

Answer 1

The Media... I think kids are now growing really fast... they are learning everything fast as well... and the thing is that parents do not talk to them as much as they are supposed to... they just say DO NOT HAVE S3X... and the kids always do the opposite thing...

I feel worried for our future...

I waited until i was 20... not old enough... but i know I'm going to get married with him... we have been together for 6 years and I'm 22 now...

Communication... Communication... Communication!!!

Answer 2

Why don't young people save their virginity until they get married ???

I think why would they is a better question in our society. Biologically speaking a woman's body is in it's prime child bearing years far before our our culture sees it fit to do so. Hormonally the human body was made with a natural longing for consummation.

Why is this ?

We live longer, we marry later, women die less often in child birth, people are more financially motivated these days understanding that the responsibility for a family takes cash flow.

how do you feel about this ?

Sex is natural. We don't think twice about all the violence we see on TV but heaven forbid there is sex! Contraceptives, sex education, should be available to teenagers and for those over 18 it is a matter for consenting adults and no body's business what they consensually do.

did you ?

No.

why or why not ?

It was never even a consideration. Again why would I want to stay a virgin? It seems unnatural. Marrying a virgin you run the risk that they are a virgin because they do not like sex. What kind of unhealthy marriage, doomed to failure would that be?

what can be done to change this ?

The questions seem only appropriate if talking about very young adolescents. Good parenting skills are my advice here

age ?

45

Answer 3

I don't know why all people don't save their virginity, but I didn't because I was not given the choice. I was raped at 15 and in the same abusive relationship until I got pregnant at 16.
I suppose after that I really couldn't understand why virginity was so important, and I decided that if I was going to marry without being a virgin I may as well enjoy my body and that of my partner. I know it sounds crazy, but I didn't want to have a flashback on my wedding night, and having sex with my now fiance whom I love deeply and find a great intellectual connection with has been therapeutic in my life in general. I am less nervous and paranoid about people now that I have had this connection with him. And it's fun. Mustn't forget fun.
I think that the important thing is that people should wait for a long term relationship, not necessarily marriage, because sex is an intensely emotional thing and doing something that messes it up, or getting a disease from it, has the potential to ruin that for a person.
What can be done is that children can be given more information than just "don't do it." Kids are rebellious, and if they don't get the respect of you explaining why you think they shouldn't have sex(religious, physical, emotional, economic, etc) then they will see it as a test, as something that you want to keep from them, when you really want to keep them safe.
I am engaged, and have been with my fiance for a year and a half. I have a 5 year old son whom I already talk to about bodies and privacy, and I am 22 years old.
Please do not judge me because I was a teenage mother, I am working very hard to put myself through college so I can give my son the life he deserves.

Answer 4

I don't believe in it, unless there are two dedicated people in the world whom find each other, they are both virgins, and choose to remain this way for the mutual time agreed until they marry. This sounds like a lot of ifs, if he doesn't get a better job, and more exposure to a different way of life, if she can maintain her loyalty and find herself while putting off all others in favor of the question they both remain this way for each other. How high or low is your threshold for anxiety, and excitement.
Can two people make it to grade school, let alone early adulthood, and be virgins? What world do you live in, it is very protected. Ethnically, some groups would never consider this within their families and chosen spouses.
We are becoming exposed to different MiddleEastern culture, although they have recently sentenced a young married woman to death, for saving herself all her life for this one man, and he killed some relatives, and abandoned her to pay for this.
If you really want to share a life with someone, and their views on this aren't the same as yours, it depends on the situation. Do you share the same interests? Is it foreseeable you will be able to stay together as a couple with interests as a married couple. Do you agree on children, religion, education, or is it just practice? If it is just practice, many students go away to do just this. They practice their limits with fellow dorm students, with professors to see how far they can get, and with whomever they want, and then return home to their home state, with no intention of marriage, or even continued friendship.
I would say from eleven on, things may happen. The norm for this area is about 16 to 18. By college, most young people have experienced some forms of consensual closeness.
And the preschool family experiences? Are these considered alright, as the child is still a virgin. Do you consider Mormon children as saved, or indoctrinated into their faith? Some leave, and then go on to more traditional families.
No one is perfect, and beginners luck can begin anyplace, at any age. The perfect spouse would keep their mouth shut about this subject, unless they were raised in Utopia, and it IS considered alright to be quiet, just don't get into lying or accusations. There shouldn't be confessions or inquisitions, although if there is resentment, it should be treated, and the person kept from re experiencing this resentment before a healthy relation can begin. Boy, do you sound innocent.
Good luck

Answer 5

I didn't save my virginity because it didn't seem that important to me.

It didn't seem very important to me because sex is a key part of any marriage. I would discuss children, religion, money, in laws, and various other things before marriage, but not test the bounds of sex? It seems foolish. I have come to learn that there are people that I get along with very well, but we have no sexual chemistry. Had we married it would have caused undue stress on the relationship.

I do believe I didn't make an incorrect choice. I stand strongly by the choices I made.

I wouldn't want to change the things I've done. It seems almost like you think I should feel shame for having sex before marriage, and I don't. I am comfortable with my actions.

I am not married, and I have no intentions to get married any time soon. I'm not even dating anyone, but I am sexually active. Sometimes.

I am 25.

Answer 6

Sex is a natural human instinct and, as much as religious groups, churches, etc. think they can, you can't stop people from doing it. I think it's nobody's business whether someone wants to have sex out of wedlock, but i also think you need to do it responsibly if you are going to. If you're not mature enough to understand the consequences and to know about birth control/protection (ie most teens), you probably shouldn't. Otherwie, it's your choice and nobody's business. I was raised Catholic, my parents and schools constantly preached abstinance, but didn't wait (even though i always thought i probably would) because I was completely in love with my man and wanted express that love to him. If i wasn't sure if we'd be together very long i probably would have chosen not to, but we were together for almost a year and i knew deep down that he was "The one" so i didn't see any point in waiting. We are finally getting married this August (4 years later) and we are both almost 24.

Answer 7

I am saving myself for my marriage in July 2009. I am engaged. It seems that sex is more freely talked about in society. But, it all depends on how the person is raised, if a person id raised in a family that expresses a strong desire for their children to be abstinent, it is more likely for the child to be abstinent than it would be if the child lived in a home where the mother or father were having an affair or there were constantly different sexual partners of their parents running around their home.

Answer 8

I think everyone has their reasons. Some feel they have no reason to wait til they're married (maybe they don't even want to get married), and some just get caught up in the moment.

My first boyfriend and I remained friends for nearly 3 years after we broke up, and we continued to mess around, but avoided sex (we both wanted to wait for marriage). It got harder and harder to say no, and finally our hormones got the best of us.

I was 19, he was 20, and due to the drama that came from sleeping with each other, it ruined our friendship.

I became promiscuous for awhile, especially after I was raped. But then with the help of the Lord, I came to my senses. I'm now a born-again Christian and regret not waiting for marriage. As much as I'd like to, I can't change the past, but I've decided that I'm not having sex again until I'm married. (I'm now 22, if that really makes any difference.)

Some people are going to have premarital sex; it can't be completely prevented. But I think alot of it comes from attitudes at home; my parents never stressed the importance of waiting until marriage, and I never had any sort of religious upbringing. It's also due to society, every where you turn there's sexual content... the media glamorizes sex, no doubt about it.

Answer 9

They don't becasue saving your virginity is not the be all and end all of a good relationship...just because you save yourself for marriage doesn't mean your relationship is going to be better or last longer. What makes a good relationship is trust, commitment and a lot of hard work.

Why should we change this? You should but out of other peoples lives and the way they choose to live them.

I am getting married next year.
I am mid 20's.

Answer 10

Not everyone has the same beliefs. I didn't and don't feel guilty about it whatsoever. Nothing needs to be done to change this. Only thing that needs to be done is proper sex education. Not preaching abstinence, because really that doesn't work and when kids are only preached abstinence, well...they are clueless about safe sex, condoms, that whole deal. Perhaps waiting until marriage was fine when people were likely to get married much younger, but that's not the case these days.