I meet either men that out earn me big time and it doesn't work because I don't want to be taken care of, or I meet men that don't want to work at all, just simply lazy!!! OGM. Their is nothing wrong with a wealthy man, but I don't like things to be held over my head as though their running a tab or something and I don't want a man that I have to pay for everything either, why is it so hard to find a man to meet me half way? I don't mind sharing being an equal??? why? why?why?
2007-05-10 15:49:05 · 14 answers · asked by sobusy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're trying to meet someone halfway, then by definition the two of you are headed in opposite directions. If you continue to evaluate all your relationships based on what you are giving versus what you are getting, and try to balance it like a checkbook, you will never be happy.
Relationships are not competitions. I suspect this reality goes against your natural inclinations. Don't equate generosity with indebtedness. Maybe a guy wants to spend money on you just because he likes you. Money shouldn't be the controlling factor in a relationship. If you're not comfortable with that, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your own view.
Right now it sounds like you value your economic independence more than emotional intimacy. That's fine, but it's gonna be hard to find someone who is both financially stable and proud of what they have acheived, yet willing to minimize their accomplishments so that you can realize what are essentially the same goals.
Take heart though, this situation can all change in a weekend. Judge people by their strong points, the things you like about them. Don't worry about what a commitment is going to cost you. The value of a relationship is in what is gained, not in what is lost.
When you find the right person, this will all become obvious, almost instinctive. Your heart will just tell your brain to shut up. Not only will you find that suddenly, the most important things in your life are completely different, but you'll be OK with that.
2007-05-10 16:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by righteousjohnson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had a chance with you cause I feel the same way. I make a pretty decent living but I never have or would hold it over my girls head. I truly believe in finding someone and building a future TOGETHER and that's why I've been single for 2yrs. now cause most girls I meet end up being the type that thinks a man should pay for every single little thing. Although I don't mind being the sole provider it would be nice to be with a girl that would at least offer to handle certain things from time to time.
2007-05-10 15:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by truly speaking 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my other half are equal in everything , we share our money we both do the house work but even then you could say I'm a little lazy when it comes to house work but part from that we do everything together .
i like working but i know alot of people that don't want to work and if they do they don't share there money and don't help around the house.
2007-05-10 16:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by davo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be about the money. I think you're the one who might have the problem. You should be looking for a gentlman who wants to be with you and court you without worrying about who owes who.
We don't know enough about your history, but have you every seen a man treat a woman the way she should be treated, like your Dad should treat you Mom? If not, maybe there are some roll model and trust issues from your past.
2007-05-10 15:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen baby, Every guy I know is what u are looking for. Give and take. I dont know where you have been meeting these clowns, but I feel for u. I guess the best thing to do is the exact opposite of what u have been doing. Good Luck and keep your chin up.
2007-05-10 15:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men spend their money way differently than women. I don't earn a lot by any means but I support myself fine. Guys I know who earn the same as me are always so completely broke because they spend all their money (on themselves) and never save any for fun date money (even their half). The guys who make a lot of money either have been that broke guy in the past or have friends who are the broke guy and they are just trying to make up for it.
2007-05-10 16:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if love is not what you feel then it's really hard accepting the person...work is just easy, everything is possible working hand in hand if you love each other..you can do anything just for love sake.
2007-05-10 15:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Martinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wallah! I'm right here. I was hiding just to see if you'd keep lookin.
2007-05-10 15:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not hard hun those of us that are willing are out here looking for women like yourself
2007-05-10 15:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe, you are picky, this is a reason you cant meet half half men.
2007-05-10 15:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by kenn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋