My husband just got a great job offer at the post office in his home town. We were planning on moving down there in June, around June 23 of this year. I know that it is a great oppertunity but I am so scared of moving. I will be completely away from my family and friends and I will be in a new state! I have panic attacks and depression. I think that my depression is caused from stress, my dad, and the fact that I hate my job and my apartment. If we decide to take this job we will have to move this weekend! Should we take it and go or should we just wait until June?
2007-05-10 15:35:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I was in a very similar situation and mental state last year. We took the chance and made the move.
You may find that:
-It is great to get away from the stresses of your current living situation and family life.
-It is encouraging to be starting with a clean slate so to speak. Aside from your husband there are few people who would know you, and although that could trigger deeper anxiety and depression issues it can also be viewed as a blessing.
My suggestion is that if you would be making the move in 6 weeks then you might as well go for moving this weekend. At least your husband would have a great job to go to, so that potential stress 6 weeks from now is already avoided.
I would also suggest that regardless of when you move you should be sure to transfer all medical documentation and call different doctors/psychiatrists in the city you are moving to. Explain the situation so that you are able to have some support lined up in the moment you will need it most.
Best of luck with whatever your choice is!
2007-05-10 15:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by waiting2be_called 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you hate your job thats one thing that will releave stress and maybe will your in your new state you will find a better paying job or one that the schedule will coaperate with you you can still stay in contact with your dad by phone or even computer if not go vist him like 4 times a mounth thats what my dad does with his mom and if your dad is elderly see if someone will help him out around the house maybe one of your friends and your apartment you will get a tottaly new one maybe a house or a town home talk it over with your husbend take things at one step at a time just talk every little detail with him tomarrow after work or somthing in my opinion do what you and your husbend think is best just dont do this not wont to go so bad that your litterly suffering every second compimise with him make sure you BOTH want to go marrage is a partner ship work as a team hope everything works out!
2007-05-10 22:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mr.toki wartooth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were planning on moving there anyway, what's wrong with going a little early? Calm down, take a deep breath, and think about it. It's a great oportunity, and small towns are great places to raise a family. If you're wanting to have children, anyway. A move is sometimes a great way to get a fresh start, and remember, your parents are only a phone call away.
2007-05-10 22:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by writergal16 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it!!! you only live once, might as well experience all the places you can. EVERYONE is scared of change, but anyone who makes the change usually ends up happy. How far away is the new place?
I moved 1500 miles from my family and home state when I was 19. I was scared as hell, but now, looking back, it was the best decision i've ever made. You have to look into the future and not right in front of you. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-10 22:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by inconsiderate_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work at the post office in hot springs ar. I am a letter carrier. You shouldnt worry about the move, as long as he passes his 90 day probation you will both be fine. You should be excited, not depressed. E-mail me if you have any concerns and I will help them, I have been a carrier fot 20 years now.
2007-05-10 22:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by tazzz6413 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say take it. You said that you would be leaving fam&friends but you still have your husband, you can make new friends and you can always visit your fam&friends. This could be good for you. Changing your environment sometimes help with depression and stress. Seize the opportunity.
2007-05-10 22:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Shar D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are in the US...
It is possible to have your husband ask for the postal service to wait one month.
In 1999 we had a similar situation and I was able to have them put off my starting date for at least 2 weeks.
2007-05-10 22:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Postal Professor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk this over with your husband so he knows how your are feeling about the move if you haven't already, and he could help feel better about moving. Also talk to your family about it.
2007-05-10 22:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sandra L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a decision you and your husband must make and of course finances has a lot to do with it.
2007-05-10 22:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go for it.. do what your heart tells ya..
2007-05-10 22:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by iridemyown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋