fear of DEATH!! help!?

Question

So I know it is normal to feel a slight fear when you think about death or life after death. But when it starts to happen more often I know it's not normal. I have an intense fear of death, and it only started about 2 months ago. Everytime I think about the future, I am afraid I will die before it happens. I have a lot of good things to look forward to (graduation, moving to a new province, starting uni) in the next few months, does this have anything to do with it? i'm excited for my future, but also terrified that I will die before any of these good things happen to me. Why is this??? I'm afraid to even go to bars or drive with people because of this fear!

Answer 1

You should probably QUIT using drugs........if you are NOT using drugs, then you should probably START.

Answer 2

Do you think that it's possible that you are reacting to what happened at Virginia Tech? All of those young people had their whole lives ahead of them. Who would have thought that such a terrible thing could have happened to them at school, of all places? Whether it's that or not, we all have to realize that death can come to anyone at any time, in any place. It is not something we have control over. If you live your life in fear of death, you'll never be free to experience the beauty and joy to be found in every day life. If you can't work through this on your own, you should discuss it with a therapist or some other professional, Anxiety disorder can sometimes become crippling if not dealt with, and your future is too bright to let that happen.

Answer 3

I'm not expert but I think you are experiencing "anxiety attacks". Your life is going to change quite a bit soon and you may be letting negative thoughts and feelings over ride what is normally anticipation. Just like it is normal to get scared just before getting married. You know you love this person and have always known you want to spend your life with this person but now that we are doing it......yike....!!
Take deep breaths, in thru the nose and out thru the mouth. Center your thoughts on things that are not negative and practice this. I am betting that as your new life unfolds you will no longer be experiencing a fear of death. Fear of the unknown can stifle your life and life should be lived moving forward even when it takes a little bravery to do so. Good luck.

Answer 4

It's true that you have a lot of positives going on in your life right now. Many new and exciting changes are about to happen.

Did you know that even good change can cause a great deal of stress?

You need to concentrate on the here and right now. You seem to have things mapped out pretty well for yourself. It is not unusual to be afraid that something may happen to jinx the whole thing.

All of the changes you will be making seem to be bringing on anxiety. Again, that is also normal. It appears to be manifesting itself as a fear of death, but it may really be a fear of failing. Even the best of us sometimes feel we may not be equal to the task.

It is not unusual for us to misdirect our fears onto something that is totally unrelated to where they are really coming from

Talk to a trusted friend or even your parents about these fears you're having.

I believe that after an adjustment period, when all of these changes become reality, you will calm down and forget about this fear. You'll be so busy enjoying your new life that you will think about it someday and wonder why it happened.

If this fear is starting to take over your life, and is preventing you from doing the things you normally do. If you are afraid to leave the house. You may want to consider talking to your doctor.

Perhaps all you need is a bit of talk therapy and perhaps an anti-anxiety medication to relieve some of the stress your under.

Good luck to you my dear. E-mail me if you need to talk about it.

Answer 5

It's normal for everyone to fear death, the fear of the unknown. If you really need help, set an appointment up with a psychologist and see if that helps alleviate your fear for starters. In my opinion, worrying about death is a waste of life. The good thing is we don't know when we will die, so it will likely come unexpectedly and quickly. There's no reason to fear death because everyone will die eventually and there is no reason to worry about something that cannot be changed. Just relax, enjoy life, and live each day fully.

PTSD is a possibility if you've been through a traumatic situation.

Answer 6

I'm not afraid of dying...just where I may end up afterwards. I guess because there's so much stress and sorrow in life is why I feel comfort in the thought of dying. If your life is otherwise good and don't want it to end...try and enjoy it while it lasts...don't let it waste away on worry. It won't extend your life any. just try to be at peace with it by accepting it as part of life and think of how exciting it will be to be alive but in a different form. Except of course if there is some sort of hellish afterlife...that's what I'm afraid of. So, I try to do what I can here so I may have a better afterlife. If we just die and that's the end...look forward to the fact that your worrys are over. Shucks, I don't know...I've been on both sides of the coin...afraid to die, than wanting it. I guess that's why I'm into ghosts...paranormal investigations, etc.. kinda like being middle of the road. I just don't try to 'practice' it, just dabble in it so not to upset God if it really does. Kinda the lesser of two evils instead of committing suicide for an escape.

Answer 7

it sounds like you have quite of bit of stress and i'm guessing that you are about 17-18 or so and probably havent really had much to do with being on your own too much. have you had any serious traumatic situations happen lately that might be contributing to this? if it's purely fear just remember something..... if it truly is just stress... good or bad... the body knows no difference. the body will still react the same releasing certain hormones and sending signals to the brain for flight or fight response for example. try to relax and do some things to slow yourself down and not take it all so serious right now and see what that brings forth to you. Praying is also a good way to help yourself. God is an awesome listener and knows you better than you know yourself, He made you and He will get you through it.

Answer 8

That's exactly how I got right before my high school graduation. It's a year later and I'm still battling that feeling. It's subsiding now, but what you're fearing isn't death it's really being on your own that scares you.

Practice some breathing techniques when you feel this way. If needed talk to a parent or friend.

Answer 9

Have you recently lost friends due to car accidents? You are somewhat obsessed with this and I would highly recommend that you go see your doctor. These fears are keeping you from enjoying the one life you have to live. You are not living your life...you are wasting your precious time on this earth worrying about not being here.....no more of this...go see your doctor and he/she could recommend some help for you. I have a terminal illness at 59 yrs. old and I am NOT afraid of death at all. It is a part of life that must happen. So, get on with your LIVING and quit fussing about DYING or you will die without ever having LIVED!

Answer 10

I think we all live with a little fear of death as we grow up. I think it is very normal, but if it starts to interfere with your life then you must need to seek out some medical advise. Your doctor is best suited to guide you through. They will point you in the right direction! Good luck

Answer 11

I also had a fear of losing someone that I really was in love with and couldnt face it, so I broke it off. AllI learned was that I made a mistake and wished I could relive that part of my life. You, in time will also realize that you shouldnt have wasted your time worrying about something that was out of your control, and enjoyed life while you still can. Dont live in a shelter, because then your not really living!