In need of spiritual guidance about someone I care about.?

Question

The sitaution goes like this.I bought a car from my friend whom owns a auto mechanic shop.We had an agreement that if I bought the parts to fix the car, he wouldn't charge me for labor.Ayear later, I came up with the money to buy the parts.I gave him 1000 dollars for the parts in October 2006.At the time he told me that he would have the car ready in a month, by thanksgiving.Thanksgiving came , he told me to give him until christmas, christmas came, he told me togive him until the first week of january, that came, he then told me to give him a few more weeks, a few more weeks came, and my car still stayed in the same condition.So around the middle of march, I told him i needed a paint job, he told me since he was busy, that if I gave him 700.00 dollars he would hire someone else to do it and have the car out in a week.Guess what happened, yup he claimed the guy flaked out on him, because he wanted to paid up front before he continued.That was over a month ago

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so, he told me would work on my car personally, and that he would have the car out in a week,so the week came and it never got done, and so today I asked for my money back and he told me that he 's going to make deductions, because the guy he hired, he paid him 200.00 dollars in labor, and so he will decuct that money he gave him from the money I gave him to paint mycar, and so now I'm really truly feeling like this person is not my friend, and to never talk to him, the reason I feel bad is because he has helped me out with problems, and school and stuff, he's helped me out financially in some instances, so I'm at odds right now.

Answer 1

Bible council for handling disputes is, if possible, forgive. If not possible, go to him explaning your problem with him as you have with us. If that doesn't work, take with you elder, or knowledgeable men to mediate. That is in the Christian congregation. The principle works outside as well.

There must be someone you both respect that is knowledgeable about the car repair business. Take him or them with you as your elders. You still may need to go to the legal system, but your showing willingness to do the proper thing will influence the judges.

Answer 2

Hmm. Let's see. You gave him $1000 back in October 2006 for the parts to get the car up and running. On top of that, you gave him another $700 which he wants to deduct $200 for labor done by some guy he hired. The bottom line is your friend hasn't come through for you. He's unreliable. He hasn't kept to his word, and not just once, but repeatedly by stringing you along telling you the car will be ready in a few more weeks, etc. Regardless of what he's done for you in the past, the issue here is that you gave him $1000 bucks in good faith to get the car up and running, and he hasn't done squat. He's had more than enough time to do the job.
What I would do is get my 1,700 dollars back (unless the paint job was completed for $200, in which case he still owes you 1500 bucks). If the paint job isn't completed, that's not your fault that the guy he hired didn't paint the car and you can argue that point. I can't help but wonder why you would give him an additional 200 bucks for a paint job, when he hadn't even started working on your car??? As far as considering him a friend, I say, with friends like him, who needs enemies. Why should you feel bad because he helped you out with problems? That's what friends are for. He has free will. He could've declined to help you. Why in the world would you be at odds over some guy whose got $1,500 of your money? You say in your post you are "truly feeling like this person is not my friend..." Go with your gut feelings. Get your money back and cut your ties with him.

Answer 3

What an unreliable sleazy friend you have! It doesn't matter how much he burns you. Your suffering doesn't seem to be his concern. He should have told you to take your car somewhere else rather than pocketing your money and giving you a snow job.

Don't pay your mechanic anything until he's done the job. Have everything in writing! No labor was done so you should get all of it back. Have you considered taking him to small claims court? If you can't, be glad that he can't do this to you anymore. Make sure nobody else makes the same mistake you did with this guy.

Answer 4

He owes you the full amount. You are not responsible for hiring the guys that did not paint the car. Your so called friend have a character issue. His word means nothing. Take the blance of the money and pray for him. He needs Jesus.

Answer 5

Sounds like you may have put your trust in a person who is either:

A. A scoundrel
or
B. Irresponsible and forgetful( I would vote for B first but it could be either.

I think the less you have your finances and future entangled with this person the better.

Answer 6

the infants of on the instant are no longer any different than the different time. what's taught to them from early on is what makes the version.. Why shouldn't those infants have an interest in the mystical with each and every of the Harry Potter books, and different stuff obtainable and merchandising it. The devil is in basic terms loving it! we ought to get returned to worry-loose kin values taught in the abode and the infants ought to be disciplined and taught to appreciate others.

Answer 7

Cut your loses seems your in a lost cause. ~ : )

Answer 8

Kick him in the balls. :)