OK, so I'm the MOH in my friends wedding back home ( I live very far from there now) I'm super excited!!! but here's my question. I havent been home in over a year, and i got engaged not too long before my friend did. Our wedding is planned for Sept. '07. so you know when you've moved away and then come home---EVERYONE wants to hang out and see ya, buy you a beer....u get the picture. How do I keep the focus on my friend and HER day? We both have a lot of friends and none of them have seen my engagement ring and part of me wants to be able to flaunt it a little bit (of course not at her wedding or anthing i'm not that dumb) but i dont want to take any of the spotlight from her even if we go out for a bit and run into people i havent seen in a long time. (know what i mean?)
Also, since i live so far away i wasnt able to do all the planning stuff with her. Any idea of a nice gift i could get her? or something special I could do for her prior to the wedding or on that day?
2007-05-10 12:41:16 · 7 answers · asked by legends_chick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
oh, i forgot to mention her wedding is in June---I'll be home in June and then coming back in Sept for my wedding.
2007-05-10 12:54:39 · update #1
We both used to bartend... and with that comes a whole set of 'friends' ya know?? Plus all the places we go for her bachelorette party I will know people at (either that work there or patrons)... I just want to make things special for her... I'm already getting emails about 'when are u coming home... we have to go out' I am trying to tell everyone that I am coming home for her wedding but if i have some time it would be great to hook up but i just want her to have the total spotlight... i mean i have some planning for my own wedding that i need to do while i'm there, but she already knows and I'm planning that stuff around what she needs me to do. (she comes first)
I hope i'm not sounding conceited, but if you've ever been far from home and come back to all your old friends you might know what i'm talking about. (?????) My day will come but i just want to put the focus on her while i'm there!
2007-05-10 18:10:24 · update #2
You are a great friend to be concerned. When and if that time comes when people are gushing over you and your ring, politely show them and say "ok, enough about me, I'd like to make a toast to the bride to be.................."
Why don't the two of you go to a day spa or something to unwind. Hope you have a great time at the wedding and congratulations!
2007-05-10 13:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by terasa425 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
plan a little get together with all of your friends, it could be a BBQ at the beach or a park or a night out on the town so that everyone can have a good time together. Plan the get together with her. Wedding can be very pricey so opt for a pot luck type of get together so that it's cheap. This will give the both of you a chance to shine, reminisce, and party it up before the big day(s).
A nice gift to give her could be a gift certificate to a spa or a dinner cruise for two, or take her to a buffet with or without her hubby. Or if you want to be original get in touch with her parents and put together a slide show of her when she was growing up don't forget to include her man in the slide show, or you can make a scrap book, or maybe you can choreograph a song for you and the bridal party to perform during the reception. There are so many gift ideas, be creative and have fun doing it, don't stress. If the two of you go shopping together between now and the day of the wedding, be very observant to what she has her eye on, you can use that as a hint of what she's in to.
2007-05-10 13:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by bryteyes808 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's very nice of you! Unfortunately, I don't think there is much you can do since all these people will be excited to see you and your ring, too. You could just say to them something like.."let's focus on "Jenny's" day and then let's get together and I'll tell you all about my engagement." Or something along those lines. You can't control how other people react. Since you and her are so close, I would get her something that she and the groom can keep forever. I mean, toasters eventually break, bedroom decor gets outdated, etc. WHen a friend of mine got married, I got her an afghan that had a couple's first dance on it and had thier names and wedding date embroidered at the bottom. She can keep that forever. Don't give her anything on the wedding date. She will be so busy she will not be able to appreciate any gifts. Do it prior.
2007-05-10 12:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure she knows that some of the focus will be on you since you haven't been home in a while. Its okay to flaunt the ring and tell them your getting married in September. For a gift, you could treat her to a pedicure and manicure if she hasnt already done that or a gift basket of relaxation items like candles, bath wash, lotion, after bath splash and take her out to lunch and present it to her at the restaurant.
2007-05-10 13:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For right now, this is your friend's special day and I'm sure everyone gets that and will not make you the center of attention. Give them the benefit of the doubt.
As fas as a gift, how about treating her to a session at a day spa?
2007-05-10 13:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try finding someone in the area to do a "passion partie" they are great fun. have all kinds of things from bath and body stuff, eddibles, and the wilder things as well. you can get the whole group of you together. that way everyone can have a chance to see you, but still be there for her. Ask the consultant to do "bridal bucks" as a gift for her ( little gift certificates people get for her so she can get the things she wants for her honeymoon.) that way the attn is on her and it helps you give her a gift she would want.
you can go to www.passionparties.com and click the link for hosting a party. or if you want i can help you find a consultant in the area that will carry stock and work with you to have a great night with the girls.
~Alisa
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2007-05-10 19:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by alisa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be respectful to her because it is her day but it is also yours. You will soon be getting married and you need to celebrate even if it means taking some of the spotlight away from her.
2007-05-10 12:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by ashley 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋