how do i stop getting bullied, urgent help?

Question

im overweight, and i get bullied all day, everyday in school, to the point where i feel that nobody likes me, i walk into school everyday and get picked on almost immediatly, and it dosent stop until i get on the bus. i hav ignored them for years, but its not workin anymore, i am getting really mad an am afraid im gonna blow afuse someday, i want to fight back, but im a nice guy, what should i do??

Answer 1

Well, a lot of it depends on what you are capable or likely to do for your personality. I suffered terribly in middle school and high school and now I'm a hottie with a great sense of self, a great man and fabulous friends who I know that I can trust and count on. Some of my best friends are still the people who helped me survive each painful day at school. Like I said, it can be hard depending on your personality. If you are shy or not a funny guy or straight out anti-social it can make things more difficult. I was somewhat shy- which make it difficult to stand up for yourself without causing more damage to your reputation. My older brother (who was a little chubby back in the day) used to just laugh it off and make a joke about himself. Comedy and cleverness can go a long way in protecting yourself from others. One thing that helped me was to make friends outside of school. It made me not care as much about being teased at school, because I knew that there were people who really knew me and liked me. You could also get involved in some school activity that makes you feel useful, involved and needed. I did theater which was great because I had adult supervised interaction with a lot of people who weren't necesarily in my group of friends. I hated sports, but maybe you could get yourself involved with a gym outside of school to feel better about yourself and learn healthy habits. You could even do something like kick-boxing or karate- where you could vent some of your aggression and anger. If it's really bad- like physical abuse or even if the harassment is just getting to be too much- maybe talk to a teacher, school councellor, your parents. I don't recommend simply tattling on people- it unfortunatly often backfires on you. But just for yourself talk to those people. Or you could just switch schools and find one where you aren't bullied as much. I know what it's like, and I know that it seems like there isn't a lot you can do about it, but the best thing you can do for yourself is to build your own confidence and find outlets that make you feel accomplished.
And life does get better after high school typically.

Answer 2

First off tell your parents, your teachers, your school counsellor what is going on and how you feel. Give specifics, and yes that means names. If you can't get any action on your behalf, then call or write the schoolboard, find out the member of the boards names and write or call them. If all else fails, with all the attention the bullying has gotten in the press lately, call the media, tell them your story and how you are getting no help.
Keep copies of any letters, email you send and start documenting the incidents. Time, place and what happened.
If you keep telling adults about it, surely someone will come to your aid. Good Luck, you don't deserve that kind of garbage.

Answer 3

I know that this is hard, but you need to think it through. How have you managed to ignore those haters all these years? You had obviously found a good method and should try to keep using it. If this doesn't work, talk to your parents. I know that this sounds corny, but it really works. they should be able to help you. Also, ask them to sign you up for a sport (if you don't alreay do one.) this will help release your anger.

I reccomend a discipline of martial. I have been taking tae kwon do for four years and i have a black belt. Once people knew, NO ONE messed with me and i had a lot of confidence.

Im sorry those haters are picking on you. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Make your dad and mom mindful and inform them that they must have a convention with the precept, academics, and the dad and mom of those bullying your sisters.. Then if that wont aid, pass to the School Board and threaten a legislation swimsuit at the university for now not preventing the harassment of your sis's As their huge bro you're meant to defend the ladies, and I applaud your curiosity in how your lil sis's are feeling. But if moms and dads dont do whatever. Address the predicament your self. Go speak to the precept, or confront the bullies themselves..They will head for the hills in the event that they recognise they are going to need to reply to huge brother.. If they are attempting to get you in quandary then inform whoever they inform, that you simply did it to defend your sisters, to not grow to be a bully your self.

Answer 5

i've been in that situation also, although i'll admit not that extreme. i'm overweight too - but what i have done is made friends with people who accept me and when anyone makes fun of me i just blow it off cause i know they just want attention and frankly it's pathetic.

if i were you, if you aren't wanting to involve adults, i would say stuff like

"i can lose weight but your ugly is forever"

"why you talk about me all the time like you have a crush on me?"

"why 're you speakin these hateful things?are you havin problems at home? huh? cause you know you can tell me anything."

" i read that joke on the internet last night ; get your own material "

"you are always saying the most stupid ****. why don't you go read a book or something, make ya mamma real proud"

"i'm sorry, i couldn't hear you, your acne was bein too loud"

"hey it's called soap and water ; get familiar with it"

"do you fight crime with that nose?"

"you're not important enough for me to care"

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anyway, i know 95% of those probably come off as pretty lame, sorry. just trying to help.

Answer 6

first of all, don't do anything drastic or anything that could harm someone at your school. second of all, you need to talk to a counselor or parent or any other adult that is around at the time of the bullying. Also, don't ever tell yourself that no one likes you, because when you start to believe that, your bullies conquer you. don't show them your frustration, they will pick on you even more. do as much as you can with out DOING something, you know? if it becomes a real problem, your local police men can get involved and straighten your bullies out for you.

Answer 7

see if you talk back you dont have enything good to say back, huh? Yes say yes to whatever they say, make people respect you, try to hang out with friends. I used to get bullied on by a little kid about a foot or 1 1/2 shorter than me (I am 6ft tall) I think he was just jealous of me, i didnt even care of what he said, he always raned like a pussy, those people are just hatting, and aint got **** better to do but to bull on some one that aint got **** to do. Also try to do some sports, you could play football with your school team loose some weight and put on some muscle. dont be shy just go for it.

Answer 8

Fighting is not the solution..I use to be pick on in school all the time, but be smart do not bite into there words! have respect for that.. here when they cross the line.. if they put there hads on you light them up. But never i mean never bite into they words. on top of that.. get you self in shape watch what you eat.. walk ,bike to keep your self in shape..But never show the bad guys that you can be bullied.

Answer 9

I work with kids all day and I can tell u that u need to talk to someone about this besides us. I suggest u go to your counselor and talk to her or him. You need a solution that we can't give u.Go to your parents,counselor,or principle.Plus u can go take a defence class or karate. This will u give some self usteem plus it might help u to tone up some. Good luck in whatever u choose to do.

Answer 10

Tell either the teacher or your parents, even if you're a nice guy don't let those guys treat you like that. Don't feel guilty about turning them in either, if they threatin' you, get a restraining order or resolve the problem by moving.