My neigbors are always standing outside right next to my door and they talk really loud. Is it rude of me to ask them to take their conversation elsewhere or just be quiet?
2007-05-10 12:05:28 · 11 answers · asked by Megan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
WHAT you're asking isn't rude, but HOW you ask might be.
If you yank open the door and tell them to shut the f*** up and get lost.... that would be rude.
If you open the door and act all sniffy and say "SOME of us are trying to enjoy our meal/movie/peace&quiet/etc!"... that would be rude.
But if you open your door and calmly say, "Excuse me, neighbors, would you mind taking your conversation inside, or lowering your voices a bit? The sound really carries here."... that's not rude, that's perfectly polite. =)
2007-05-10 12:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rude of them to be so loud in the hallway that they disturb others. It's more than OK to ask them, politely, to either lower the decibel level or take their conversation into their own apartment.
Your building may even have rules about this. Check and if necessary, if this continues, file a complaint.
2007-05-10 12:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Megan,
I agree- some people may be touchy about this. I guess it depends on how you approach it. You could try saying, "I can hear everything you are saying. Can you lower your voices, please?"
Do you have small children? If so, you can say, "the kids are sleeping, I need you to keep your voices down. Thanks so much!"
If you are polite and ask nicely, hopefully, they will either quiet down or move.
Good luck.
And, no, it's not rude to ask people to be quiet- if you shout at them and try to humiliate them, then, yes, it's rude.
2007-05-10 12:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it is not rude, especially if they are very loud or in a place that should be quiet like a library.
2007-05-10 12:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I so disagree with the responders who imagine this is nice for little ones to scream on the properly of their lungs all afternoon at the same time as they are close adequate to annoy the friends. youngster noise is not any diverse than the different demanding noise. would your individuals post consisting of your making a music the nationwide anthem on the properly of your lungs all afternoon? on your operating a backyard mover 24 hours in preserving with day? To adults operating round screaming? this is thoughtless and impolite of people to allow little ones to annoy friends at the same time as all they ought to do is tell the little ones to play quietly. Sheesh. this is not any longer rocket technology. "decrease your voice or you may are available in the following and help me wash dishes." you ought to ask your self even if the mother and father are sitting contained in the residing house with headphones and a lager or something. do not they listen it? would not it ensue to them that the little ones will be bothering the friends? friends who've paid taxes for playgrounds that are empty because the mother and father are too busy wearing their headphones and ingesting their beers to take their youngsters to the playground? I fairly imagine you ought to locate and ask your neighbor to regulate his or her little ones. this is by no ability an unreasonable request. If the noise is waking and scary your toddler, use that because the reason. None individuals, go away on my own a toddler, ought to ought to get used to slumbering at the same time as anybody is screaming at the same time as all it would take is a modicum of discipline to quiet them! best of success.
2016-10-18 06:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rude if you yell at them and say "Shut the hell up!"
But, if you go out and ask them to go somewhere else, that's not bad.
You could join in on their conversation and yell out comments from your couch. That kind of rudeness will get them to move & be funny.
2007-05-10 12:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In a nice way, just ask them to tone it down a bit, and if they come after you, RUN!
2007-05-10 12:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's touchy Megan,
because no joke, they could purposely keep talking and laughing loudly, and might consider you the neighbor that starts trouble.
Wouldn't do it.
2007-05-10 12:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Not at all. sometimes we just lose track of ourselves and need someone to tell us.
2007-05-10 14:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope,it's not rude,don't mean they gotta listen..........but it's not rude,they may not even realize they are bothering you
2007-05-10 13:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by take awild guess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋