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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a short time, probably around 2 or 3 weeks now. I went into the relationship knowing that he has been known to "hit it and quit it" with other girls. I was sure to let him know that im not that kind of person, and that I wanted to take things slowly.
However, when we are alone, like in his room or just in his house, he automatically starts kissing me and asking me if he can finger me. I keep telling him no, but he keeps asking me. He has never forced me to actually do anything, but it still worries me. Also he told me the other day that he thinkgs he is falling for me. I personally think it is way too soon to be falling in love, but thats just me. He also asked me if I wanted him to buy any toys and asked if i would use some. What I want to know is if he is just using me.

2007-05-10 11:38:37 · 24 answers · asked by big red 5 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

24 answers

Trust your instinct. What you feel is accurate and that's no toy. He wants to start foreplay, he knows exactly where this will lead and so do you.
You think its too soon for him to want sex, I think its too soon for him to be your bf, at this point, I think he's someone you're getting to know.
Also, as far as him falling for you, what a crock. He's reaching into his bag of tricks to see if he can get a story. He wants you to headline in the story of how he got you to drop your resolve.
Oh, babe, he wants to win this challenge and then move onto the next person he's going to fall through, uh, er for.

2007-05-10 11:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0 2

you sound like your kind of young and still in school, my advice to you is to leave him alone there is more to life than a hot in the pants boy, no he's not using you because if he wants sex he's going to get it , from you or someone else, like you said he's known for living once he gets what he wants, and what makes you any different. you need to leave him alone before you catch feelings and he leave you for not having sex with him or for having sex, then he go and tell everyone yea i hit that weather he did or didn't. if you do sleep with him and you get pregnat what will you do then,and don't say you won't ,we will use protection well protection is not 100% or i take it out be it happens not true. so run get away from him at least if you leave now it won't hurt as much when he start telling lies about how he hit it, which he will do when he do hit it. now ask yourself these question: will he be a good father, denie that he's the father, will he take responability for his child, will he spread rumers about me or did he already, what has he done for me lately? now i know you have the answer to these questions and i know you are a very smart young lady who knows what she wants out of life and it isn't a one hit guy. sorry long i just don't want you to be another satistic.

2007-05-10 12:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by faith 2 · 0 0

Absolutely he is using you!
First you know he has "hit it and quit it" with other girls. If you have only been dating for 2-3 weeks and you have told him you are not that kind of girl and he keeps pressuring you into sexual things what do you think he will do to you if you give in? By the way...DON'T. Keep your morals and ditch the jerk.

2007-05-10 11:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by purpleskym1 2 · 0 0

SOunds like he's young (and you might be too) and sounds like I used to be when I was about 18. If he has a rep for doing this, and if you're intuition is guiding you to write what you just wrote, then something is not right. If all he wants to do ALL the time is go for the spot everytime you too are out of public, then I'd say yes YOU WOULD BE JUST A NOTCH IN HIS BEDPOST. It's possible that he just wants to sow his seed and move on.

Guys can sometimes be ingenious in concealing this and even convince their own selves of it (like me in the past). Your judgment ought to be based on his behavior not his words or even his vibe.

2007-05-10 11:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by Casey S 2 · 0 0

It sounds like this guy just wants to get into your pants. He is not looking for a serious relationship but may be leading you on to believe he is so he can get sexual with you. Do not fall for this trap. A couple weeks is way too soon for sex toys to be entering the conversation as well.

The rumors that you have heard about him are most likely true since is exhibiting the behaviour that others have told you. STAY AWAY, you deserve better!

2007-05-10 11:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by yumsorbet 4 · 2 1

Sounds like He is using the love thing Little too loose. he is trying anything to get in your pants Tell him no toys and if he keeps it up he will need to use MS Palmer and her four sisters not you. Also he must be seeing how many he can add to his list. Don't be one of them.

2007-05-10 11:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by skeeter195848 4 · 1 0

All he is looking for is to get into your pants, he wont stop until he does, and he will tell you whatever it takes (like that he is falling for you) untill you give it up. If you are not ready for such a relationship, maybe you should move along and let him be.

2007-05-10 11:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by marisanj 5 · 1 0

oh gawd. This sounds so familiar! 3 weeks is just too soon to be in love. my guts tell me he just wants some action. Drop him. Ya know the drill: stop calling him, screen his calls, stop seeing him, anything.

2007-05-10 11:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 0 0

Dump him! Dump him! girl hes using you at first he'll say he looves you and that your his everything! and yes your right it is was too soon in be in love with someone only after 14 days of knowing them! So like I said no point in staying with a guy who "hits and runs" once one always one! good luck..

2007-05-10 11:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 1 1

sounds like he is... Think about how many times he is acting or talking sexual with you versus him REALLY getting to know you.
Actions speak louder than words so watch for that and dont let his persistance break down your walls of giving into him. Guys love the chase and will say/do anything to get what they want.
Introduce him to your family and see if he acts like he respects you in front of them. If he has bad intentions with you he will feel really uncomfortable around your family.

2007-05-10 11:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by InProgress:-) 4 · 2 2

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