im 18 and the guy ive been dating for the last few months is 30! we get along great,we can talk to each other about everything. hes amazinly supportive of me going to university. but i wonder why should a guy this age date some one 12 years younger and much further away(he lives in ireland while im in england). can anyone plz explain this to me and is it wrong??
2007-05-10 10:21:16 · 44 answers · asked by darkness_says_hi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes we do know each other in person, and he flys over every other weekend possible
2007-05-10 10:27:32 · update #1
i wouldnt say were in "love". i use this word carefully, as i was tricked in a previous realtionship due to that word.
2007-05-10 10:37:00 · update #2
i don't believe that it is wrong. He seems like he is all for your future and that is never a bad thing. Some people just like to have long distance relationships because if it gets to the point, he might even move to where you live?? Who knows. But I believe that age ain't nuthin but a number! So if your happy with the relationship then GO FOR IT!
*GOOD LUCK*
2007-05-10 10:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by mommieof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you both dating. There will be problems should the relationship become very serious.
I don't really know the circumstances, so i am guessing, that at 30, he has had and probably enjoyed a single life, and maybe thinking of settling down to start a family. It will be extremely hard for him not to influence your future, purely because he has already experienced most of the things in life, that you have yet to experience. You are probably a very strong willed and independent person with your own mind, but unfortunately, its a bit like how your mum or dad always knows whats best of you, he will too, it will probably become a battle. Enjoy the time that you spend together, when you go to university see where that path leads and with whom. Your 18, you have a bright future ahead of you. Just enjoy each day and try not to worry or concern yourself, with what other people think. Do what you feel is right in your heart. Good luck
2007-05-10 10:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some younger woman just appreciate guys more for what they are and what they do, and that makes them feel good about them self's, and if they feel good about them self, they can make the People around them feel good too.
Did he plan the long distance or did you guys just happen to fall in love. If he planned it, there might be something very strange going on.
I'm with a guy 16 years older than me and I have never been so happy in my life. After 2 very long term relationships I finally found joy and true love.
Just like any other relationship you will have to try it out and see if it works. For some people it does, for others it does not. Friendly warning, people do look at you strange. I'm happy and content and I do not care.
2007-05-10 10:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by г๏zเ -----x.♡.x----- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by wrong. If you are both over the age of consent there is no illegality involved. If you mean morally wrong, I don't know of any religious or ethical teaching that prohibits a relationship between adults of different ages.
In fact if anything the age difference is an advantage. A man twelve years older will be less likely to exchange his partner for a new model. (If I had a daughter I would advise her not to marry, or become seriously involved with, anyone who wasn't at least ten years older.)
2007-05-10 10:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by 2kool4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong. I dated a guy that was 12 years my elder for over a year. The only time that it was an issue was when he had already gone through a lot of the developmental things I was still going through. Ie: eduction, career stuff. Your late teens and early 20s is a huge growth time in your life. Since he has already gone through it, he may get frustrated with you "finding yourself" during this time.
If you are aware of that, as long as you guys have a great time together and are commited even with the distance...and make sure your communication stays strong...it should be fine.
2007-05-10 10:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am eleven years older than my wife and as you can see from my comments i am married and have been for the past 24 years i have two wonderful sons and a very loving wife,we had a great deal of opposition from both of our families . We lived a distance apart not as far as you two but far enough to cause problems but as we loved each other we took no notice of others and followed our hearts ,it was not all plain sailing we had our ups and downs but we worked it out together and came through the other side much better people for it.
it is not wrong to care/love some one just because they are older than you ,.
love does not have an age barrier nor does there have to be a motive for that care and affection.
Follow your heart you might be surprised where it takes you.
2007-05-10 10:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by lofty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually guys who are 10 years or more older than u have a problem, its why they are single at that age. 1 they play a lot of jealousy on u, the least suspicion they get mad at u. 2 they want to get u pregnant quickly so all other future chances will be blocked 3 they are more experienced so one good thing is they can open the way for u to make it life for example. that Canadian musician Celine Dion .
Another reason may be he spent all his life looking for wealth or at work and now he is ready to start up a family, he may be more serious than any of those young guys. Keep him, when it comes to love, age doesnt matter.....cheers hun !!!
2007-05-10 10:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by BeautyBreak H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both adults and obviously like to spend time together. What's the matter? If he's still with you, being 12 years your senior obviously isn't that big of a deal to him. And, if you are still with him you being 12 years younger must not bother you either. Rule of thumb: if it ain't broke, don't fix it. If the subject of age has yet to come up, no need to mess up a good thing. Me, personally, I wouldn't want to date someone that much older than me, but this is all up to you because this is your life. If you can deal with this, then there is no problem.
2007-05-10 10:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Honesty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wondering why, and questioning his reasons I'm wondering what you are getting out of this relationship? Are you happy in this relationship? Is it something that you want to take further? If you are already unsure/suspicious of his motives it doesn't sound as if you are certain yourself.
The age gap in itself is nothing, it may seem large now, but as you grow older it will seem less relevant. The distance is also workable, but only if you both choose to make it so. You have to decide if you want to take this further, if you just want to have some fun with this guy and see how it goes.
2007-05-10 10:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he could like you but there is gonna be a time when it gets harder to see eachother and you two will have some kind of problems but that is the only factor there is nothing wrong with dating someone older even if its 12 years. go for it if you 2 love each other then there shouldnt be a problem
2007-05-10 10:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by cosita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋