I like/love this guy named Bob (not his real name btw). He is a year younger than me. We were friends. Not close friends but still friends. One day Bob started flirting with my best friend Susan, even almost kissing. I told Susan to please stop because it was really hurting me, i also go really mad at her. Bob knows how i feel about him and he thinks i stalk him ( i don't!!) One day he found out what i said to Susan about stopping flirting and Bob got mad at me saying i was trying to control his life. He ignored me, not even saying hi, for about a week until my other friend talked to him. The next day he said hi to me really loudly and it sounded forced.
Was i wrong to tell Susan is was hurting me?
Was I controlling Bob?
Was the hi forced?
2007-05-10 10:18:04 · 21 answers · asked by Lyra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you wer right in telling her that was hurting your feelings i mean if she is your friend she would respect that and she would problably tell you to do the same thing if it was you that was flirting with a guy she liked.
in what way were you controling him if that's the way he thinks then dont waist your time on him
the hi problably was forced
2007-05-10 10:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the only question I have to ask and you have to ask yourself. IS Bob your bf or you wish he was your bf. If he's not your bf he can do anything he wants. But I understand if he is your bf and your friend hurt you. ANd why did you tell Susan to stop it, when it was BOB who was flirting with her. You shoudl ahve told BOB that not Susan. Hate to agree with a jerk like BOB but he's right you seem to be stalking him. That's not the way to get a guy. The Hi ws peobably forced because he probably wanted to say something else to you. So if he isn't your bf you need to chill out when he does the stuff he does. Because seems like your getting all worked up for nothing. ANd the way that BOB behaves himself you are better off without that Idiot.
2007-05-10 17:30:44 · answer #2 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but if he knew how you felt about him and did not flirt with you what makes you think you have any right to say who he dates. You were wrong to tell Susan to stop because she is your friend and dont you want your friends to be happy. No, you weren't trying to control Bob, you were controlling Susan and that is wrong. And the Hi was most likely a sarcastic HI, kind of his way of apologizing and trying to break the ice because you wouldn't. Sounds like to me you need to quit being so self centered and start thinking about others.
2007-05-10 17:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by kinreep 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like both of you are too immature. If Bob liked you he would want to be around you, want to say hi to you and not want to talk to susan. And susan shouldn't have been flirting with him knowing that you liked him however you can't control what Bob does to susan.
Who cares if the Hi was forced. Get over him and grow up.
2007-05-10 17:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Bex 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
1) no, you were right to ask her to stop. But I would have added "would you stop flirting with him when your around me b/c it hurts"
2)If that's the only thing you've done, you are not controlling 'bob'
3) The "hi" might have been forced....
4) this 'bob' guy is not worth your time. Find someone who loves you back and try and move on =)
2007-05-10 17:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by blue_eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats so dumb. you should forget that guy Rob and maybe even your best friend because your best friend should not be flirting with some guy she knows you like. and he should not have done that in front of you if he knew you liked him because thats just rude. you were def. with in your boundaries to tell Susan how you felt and Bob was not being controlled. the hi might have been forced but who cares. forget that guy.
2007-05-10 17:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by allydally 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you were right in sharing your feelings with your friend Susan.
It sounds like you may have tried too hard in the past to get Bob to like you, and now he resents and misinterprets anything that you do as an attempt to manipulate him into liking you. Maybe you need to just realize that he will never feel the same way about you as you do about him, and just avoid him from now on and flirt with other guys to forget about him. I know it sucks, but it happens to all of us sooner or later.
You will find someone better. Just avoid him for now.
2007-05-10 17:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to chill and lay off "Bob" for a bit.I am not trying to be mean or anything,(im just really straight up),since we don't know how "Bob" feels we can't decide for him.Maybe "Bob" does like your friend Susan.Maybe he's trying to get closer to you,Maybe he likes playing wit ya,maybe hes playing hard to get,maybe hes trying to provoke you,maybe hes a flirt.You never know.All im saying is chilax on "Bob",don't get jealous,and look for other guys,you never know there might be a very special guy that likes you back and you never noticed......Good luck, ;)
2007-05-10 17:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm reading what you typed and I'm reading between the lines as well. It seems that Bob likes your friend and not you. I'd suggest leaving Bob alone and finding someone else who likes you for you instead of chasing Bob around.
If you were my little sister, I'd kick Bob's *** ( ^ _ ^ )
2007-05-10 17:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by Kooties 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were wrong. Bob wasn't attracted to you, but if you keep this up, he will really hate you. Move on.
2007-05-10 17:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Michael S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋