I feel like my boyfriend is using me only for sexual things, and not because he loves me. i made a terrible mistake and gave in to him and what he wanted from me, and now i feel horrible. He knew i wasnt ready, but he didnt try to stop. What can i do to make the hurt and guilt go away?
2007-05-10 10:06:39 · 18 answers · asked by GiftedAngel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he would have stopped because he should realize that pushing a girl doesnt get good results. it gets no action and a dump.
2007-05-13 03:52:10 · update #1
part of life. just gotta pick yourself up and know how to speak up next time you are in a situation like that. and i hope you have already left him.....if your still with him.......no comment.
2007-05-10 10:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by stop it 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he has had sex with anyone else? If he says yes, tell him you both need to be checked for AIDS at least twice in the next year. that is the gestation period for HIV virus that causes AIDS., unless he knows for a fact that the person he had sex with did not have sex with anybody else etc:etc:. If that is not a problem then you must remember sex is the product of love. It is not love. Love comes softly. I would think about finding someone that respects and loves you without the sex. Sex is for marriage and nothing else. If you have it before marriage then what makes it so special after? You going to have kids before marriage? Having sex makes it possible you know. Kids don't come without sex. Woud you get married because of the kids? Thats not fair to them. They need to be born out of love not from something you did for pleasure.
2007-05-10 10:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by KIB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt sound like some1 you should be with. i try to understand woman before i attempt to do anything atall with them, and when i think about it, tbh im privalidged to be with them, so i will never do anything unfair to them and treat them with respect. if i really new my girl wasnt ready for somthing i was, i wouldnt pressure her, and i would NOT guilt her into it. he sounds like the type of guy who thinks hes better then you and, put it this way, "see's you as his girlfriend, rather then see's himself as your boyfriend." lol, that doesnt mean you should feel superior, it just means that it sounds like he doesnt have enough respect for you. i would either talk to him about it, he may not realise that you RLY didnt want to do it. or you should end things. just and intelegent guess
2007-05-10 10:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by j o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, now honey.
Any guy that doesnt respect a girl when she says she isnt ready deserves the worst.
2007-05-10 10:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really cant. as the saying goes "time heals all wounds" but you need to stop this act. you know its wrong and go with your own emotions. we all make mistakes, but learn from it, andrealize that you have made your self a better person though all this.
2007-05-10 10:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he try to stop? Don't be naive.
Would you rather he not want sex from you? He didn't make you do anything, you decided to have sex with him. Stop blaming him for what you choose to do. The fact that he wants sex from you doesn't mean he doesn't love you. You are making a classic female mistake, linking love and sex in a man. It doesn't work that way. Sex has nothing to do with whether or not he loves you.
2007-05-10 10:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
move on , forget about him, loose all contact, keep busy, go out with friends and be happy....keep this up as long as possible and u will feel better over some time
2007-05-10 10:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can honestly say..you dont want your guy anymore, you dont want the sex, and you dont have anything to do with this guy anymore.....then you just can leave him...may hurt for a while...but will heal in time, rather than stay with him...guilt and hhurt will never go away if you stay with him
2007-05-10 10:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by not_ez_2bme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him,
and find a guy who respects you enough to wait
2007-05-10 10:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to him anymore, if he dumps you for not giving into him then you'll know you were used...
2007-05-10 10:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by Invisible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋