Child Custody?

Question

I want to know if this is good enough reason for me to have custody of my kids and for them just to live with me, instead of their mother. I pick them up everyday from school, we do homework, their both in sports so I take them to practice and to their games, (which she does not attend to either). They tell me when they are with her they dont go to sleep until late, she also has her dad, brother, neice, lesbian sister and her girlfriend living with her, now I dont have anything against anybody being gay as long as they keep to themselves, but them 2 have hickies all over eachother's necks, so that is what bothers me about those 2. She sends them to school in either to small of clothes, no socks when they wear shoes or no backpacks with their homework in them. She just seems to not want to be involved with them. Iv'e asked to keep them, she says she will not give up her kids. So i just need some advice on what I need to do.Please any advice would be good.

well I do pay child support and that comes to her every thursday. The kids both have a game tonite and i get a call from her saying if they could stay with me, and it's supposed to be her day with them. Well I ask what she is gonna be doing, she tells me it's none of my buisness, and if she needs to pick them up from me it will be late and she will probably be drunk. She can go drink but she cant see her own kids play baseball. And it's child support day ( I wonder what money she is going to be using to be drinking.)

Answer 1

Maybe she wants to keep them only because of the income she is getting from you for child support. Maybe offer to take the kids and not ask child support from her , or reduced.
She might be worried she will have money problems if the situation is reversed. She sounds like a terrible mother/ home , you might have to take her to court , start documenting everything that happens and take witness names and photos.Good luck.
She`s drinking with your kids child support money.

Answer 2

If she is receiving child support for the children, she is not giving up custody without a fight. Consult a lawyer because to me it sounds like you may have good reason to get custody reason being that it sounds if homelife is hectic with all those people living under one roof. If she is dressing them in clothes too small for them, in most states that would be called child neglect Also, you could possibly claim that the mothers living arrangements are too chaotic for the children. Find out where the children sleep when they are with her. Although small children can share the same bedroom if they are the same sex, it is required in some states that they have their own separate sleeping quarters. If they don't, sounds like another good reason for custody. Best advice would be when telling the court why you would make a better parent, mainly point out your positive aspects such as a stable, less choatic living environment. You, unlike the mother help with homework; and back up with evidence. Your accusations will have no merit if they are not backed up by some sort of evidence including testimony of others. Mention if the childrens school work is being affected by home. Compile character witnesses that can attest to your character and that of the childrens mother.

Find out who the mother's associates are. That could be used as another possible valid argument to gain custody.
Also, If the house is in extreme disrepair, especially if they live in substandard housing and there are many potential hazards that could cause physical harm to the children.

Answer 3

well the first thing you have to do is get a good lawyer for your state., how old are your kids? are they old enough to tell you the truth about what is going on in the house?
the sad thing here is the no matter what state, the courts favor the mother. If they are fed, clothed, go to school, then it might be a case of he said- she said. and yes if there is a lesbian relationship going on in the house, you mentioned it so it must bother you. usually the only way a judge removes kids from the mom is if there is illegal activity or blatant neglect in the house. good luck,im a divorced mom, and even i know how much the men lose in these cases.

Answer 4

Is there a reason she won't let the kids live with you??? Is she just wanting to keep the kids for the child support?? How old are the kids??? Are they old enough to tell a judge where they want to live? Find out the number for your State's Division of Child Services and explain everything to them and they may investigage and find out that the ex is unfit to have the kids and you can use that in court. Good Luck to you.

Answer 5

I would get somebody envolved. You are going to have to prove all of these things you listed above, your word alone will probably not be enough to have somebody step in. She may just need a wake up call. I'm sure she loves the kids as much as you do, but her priorities are obviously out of whack at this point. Keeping the kids away from her will only hurt them, so get some help for them and her and they will thank you in the long run.

Answer 6

well i really dont see anything dangerous and thats what they look for just bc she lives with her family i dont see anything wrong with it. Just bc she has hickies yes its nasty and immature but not any reason to tear the ties of mother and child and how long where they wearing short clothes for? For years or just a few days all this matters bc alls they will do is to tell her that she needs to buy them bigger clothes and that would solve that problem. I would really talk to your laywer about the stragy you can do. Or call social services and ask them what they would do. you dont have to them that it is your kids or anything u can be annoymous.
DID u ever think she may be depressed? bc that is a sign of deppression seems they dont care but they do.
it depends why you did not get custody too.
i would really talk to your lawyer or social services they are better suited to tell you what you can or can not do.

BUT she just seems she needs partening class. I think that would be an opion that the courts may make her do. But i highly doubt they will take the kids from her for those little infractions. IT WOULD HAVE TO BE SERIOUSLY MAJORY CHILD INDANGERMENT. for them to take the kids away or they would if the children are old enough they would ask them where they would want to live.
BUT AGAIN U NEED TO TALK TO YOUR LAWYER OR SOCIAL SERVICES

Answer 7

Doesn't sound awful enough for a judge to rule against her. Unfortunately, since you are a man, it's a harder battle. If your kids are old enough, get them to take pictures of the living situations over there and present them at your day in court. You'll want to make it look really bad. It will help if you have statements from your children stating they would want to live with you.

Answer 8

Your right a "gay" thing isn't or wouldn't make a good issue.

Any who. Start by carrying a camera with you. Get pictures on how the kids are dressed, the dates. Keep a log on what days you take them to school, sports, etc. Once you have plenty of evidence, file papers for change og custody

Answer 9

How many bedrooms is in her house? With all that trash that's living with your ex there is no way the kids have their on bedrooms and i bet they see things that are very detrimental to their well being. I never like to see child protective services get involved unless there is no other choice but i think in this case there is no other choice. I would have someone call the 800 hot line you don't have to give your name so no one will know who reported them call and have some one call often.

Answer 10

Here, in Canada, unless the mom's a drunk, prostitute, drug addict, or preferrably all 3, there's no way the dad's going to get custody. My best advice to you is to get the kids the stuff they need, and be available enough to let them know you love them. And be diplomatic. Don't bad-mouth anybody when they're not there. In short, good luck making the best of an extremely bad situation.