my sister needed someone to watch her 4 yr old daughter while she's working. my other sister droped her off while i was still sleeping. she made a mess, cut up newspapers and i made her clean it up. i gave her food then i told her when she is full she had to clean the rest. she didn't. so i made her sit in the corner and look there. she can't turn her head or make any noises. she's been sitting there for like 30 mins or so.
how long should i make her sit in the corner???
(i did not spank her. because i am not her mother or father)
another question is, would you let your depressed, angry, violent, alcoholic brother watch your daughter/son???
2007-05-10 09:36:02 · 30 answers · asked by achillies 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You would make her sit for 4 mins only 1 min per childs age.....
get her out and tell her to clean the mess....you are the one in charge.
To your second question: HELL NO!!
2007-05-10 09:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
30 min is a bit long for a 4 yr old. I dont care what some nanny sais. I have raised lots of children, and now have one of my own.
First of all, both u and your sister are wrong for leaving a 4 year old alone. You need to admit your mistake to the child and apologize, or else how is the child going to learn to admit theirs.
Second yes the child should be punished, even though it was not really her fault, she still did something wrong and should be corrected.
Try helping clean the mess. At 4 kids are more social beings. Generally they will have no problem helping.
Keep in mind she is 4. Kids forget things sometimes, and do crazy things. Just be thankful nothing bad happened to her.
Just an example, when i was 3 i drank bleach because my mother was not watching properly, if it tatsted good i probably would have drank more, but luckily not enough to do real bad damage.
And I seriously hope you are not the brother in question.
In the USA, DCF(department of children and families) can take a child away for leaving them in the care of someone like that. That person needs to take l-tryptophan and vitamin supplements to heal himself before trying to watch any children.
2007-05-10 10:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by selahseei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you're the angry violent brother. And No, I would not leave a little girl with you.
If you knew she was coming, you should have been awake in time, so it's not her fault she made a mess. If she didn't dish up her food, she should not be expected to eat it all. Little girls can't eat as much as grown uncles. As for the time out, a child her age shouldn't sit for more than five minutes, since she'll forget why she's being punished in that amount of time.
2007-05-10 12:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all i can say is that your sisters messed up,1 rushed off to work and the other didnt even wake you to look after the little girl,also yes 30 minutes is far to long for any young child to have to sit in a corner,it should be 1 minute for each year of there life(4 minutes then) if you ask me then i would say THANK GOD its not my kids your looking after!!!!
2007-05-10 10:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by sharon w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No on the brother watching the kid..lol.
As far as the punishment goes I think it's alright for her to sit there for 30 minutes. If she acts up again sit her there for a little longer. My father used to make my sisters and I kneel on the tile floor in the corner until he thought we had learned. I think kneeling is a bit much because when you get up after being there for 30 minutes your legs hurt and you have the imprints of the tile on your legs, but sitting sounds good. It's good that you didn't spank her without permission. My sisters and I have agreements that we can spank each others children for certain things but not all. I know that alot of parents don't like anyone to spank their children besides them.
2007-05-10 09:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not okay. a four year old not only may not know its not okay, but being left alone while u slept she was left with no structure, leaving her to findomething to do. Its luck she didnt get hurt by thescissors. Making her clen it up is bad enough , but her sense of time is different than yours. for 4 years olds time out of 5 mins feel like an hour, and they teach a lesson. 30 minutes is torture,. its a good thing you didnt spank her, you could be arrested if your sister felt like complainging( only biolgical parents can legally spank nd even that isnt spanking like in the old days) she doesnt even know hat she is doing is wrong when she does that stuff. she need tpo be supervised at all times.
and i would never leave my child with anyone violent or alchoholic.
2007-05-10 10:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by kaseysospacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 minutes is way way too long for a 4 year old. The general rule for very young children is one minute per year (age).
And no I dont think I would leave my child w/ someone who is depressed & violent or a drunk but if at the time they are sober, they have never been violent to the child than I guess thats their choice - half the world is depressed so in my opinion that is not even worth mentioning unless they are suicidal.
2007-05-10 10:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one that was not smart to drop her off while you were sleeping. she could have walked out the door, or gotten into something toxic.
She is just a child and needs constant watching. The rule is 1 minute per year of the age. So 4 years old 4 minutes.
For the second, if thats you your talking about then you need to figure out whats bothering you and get it all fixed and on the right track.
2007-05-10 09:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accoding to Super Nanny you should have them sit still on a step or in a corner for 1 minute per year of age(4 minutes in this case). Then make them clean up. If they argue or dont listen the sit again.
Absolutely not. I love my siblings dearly but i wouldnt trust the life of my child with a person who would risk that much of their own.
2007-05-10 09:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bloodsucker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One she should not have been left while you were sleeping. Second making her eat more food after she is full is not a good thing to do it could make her vomit. Making her sit in the corner for that long is not acceptable punishment for a four year old. And hell no I wouldn't leave my child with anyone that messed up.
2007-05-10 09:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think the length of the time out depends more on the child. If they don't seem to be taking the punishment for what it is after 4 minutes, then let them stay there until they realize that they are being punished, and show some remorse for what they've done. If she seems to be sorry, or is apologizing for her behavior, then time's up!
I would not allow someone that I knew was abusive to himself (alcoholic) and others (violent, angry) to care for my children.
2007-05-10 09:48:27 · answer #11 · answered by dwell_in_zion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋