A girl who looks confident wasn't approached because she looked too intimidating, so someone told her to stop being intimidating and should just relax and be herself cause no one would approach her if she has that "confident" attitude. So she toned herself down and let her guard down and just be nice and happy and people are saying she looks "needy" and "desperate" and not confident enough? She can't win either way! So which is it?!
2007-05-10 09:16:44 · 17 answers · asked by Mysterious Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be yourself and don't worry what other people tell you to do. If a guy won't approach you because of that, but you take an interest in someone, go ahead and approach them. I'm comfortable enough with myself that I wouldn't feel any less of a man if a woman came over to talk to me instead of the other way around.
2007-05-10 09:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Cubs39 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The entire "confidence" nonsense going around these days in the dating world is just that, nonsense.
She should just be herself, someone will like her for who she is. If she just pretends to be another, then she is going to attract people who she really isn't compatible with and the wrong crowd. She should stick to who she is for real, even if some people think she is "needy" or "desperate" there are guys who like those types of girls too, and they'd be a better match.
2007-05-10 16:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by brandonb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's both ways, and neither ways. She needs to quit listening to what people think about her, and just starting living her life the way that she wants, and if she does that and stays true to herself and the people she cares about, good things will happen.
2007-05-10 16:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a girl should be a combination of both. Confident, nice, and happy. Be yourself and try not to come off as a snob or B**ch
2007-05-10 16:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you have to change your usual way...if being confident is who you are.....its not your problem if they find it hard to approach you....if you want to approach somebody..i know you would go to the person and talk to them....if other people have problem with that....that is their problem...you shouldnt change who you are so that other can be happy at your expense..unless you are mother theresa
2007-05-10 16:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by not_ez_2bme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol... i see your dilemma, but it shouldn't be that hard... its also kinda a choice for you... would you rather get guys that think so highly of themselves that you are only one girl in 20 that week... or get a guy who may dolt on you... and not give you space... ive never seen a girl look needy or desperate tho... so she must be doing something very wrong
2007-05-10 16:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by FrasoFTW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Stop trying to be what others want and just be true to yourself is my advice for a happy life !
2007-05-10 16:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EMMA - I'll clue you in on something - men want sex
neither ... be yourself and stop worrying so much about what other people think ... because, most of the time, they dont think about you
2007-05-10 16:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"People" tend to give crappy advice. Listen to your heart. I'm guessing the confident, in-charge you will win out, and good for you if it does. Don't pander to others' insecurities.
2007-05-10 16:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by TheEconomist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't possible for the same woman to have both of those problems in one lifetime. The girls problem is counting on strangers to introduce themselves.
2007-05-10 16:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋