I can't get over it. He was trying to hook up with some other chick and I found something he wrote about her that was written so beautifully, and he never writes things like that about me. He didn't break up with me, he just stopped talking to me. I know he's a jerk, and he's so mean to me and not understanding at all, but I can't get over it. How do I let him go?
2007-05-10 08:58:05 · 21 answers · asked by Jae Lynn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to think to yourself and ask how long has he been playing games with you, just the thougt of it would hurt but to know that(hopefully)you were faithful and good to this man and he is weak enough to let anything come between you2 should make you strong enough to ignore him too.Loosing your man can be very painful but trust me theres a such thing as bad karama and in these days it's coming a lot faster if you were faithful and gave your guy know reason to disert you he will get whats coming to him. All those handsome guys thats been tring to flirt and you've been dissing because you got a man why not see were thier heads are at and by the time MR.BACKSTABBER could say it's over you'll already be over him and his games he's BEEN playing and he'll be wondering WHY.
2007-05-10 09:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by tameme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, I am really sorry. Four years is a very long time and love isn't a switch with an on and off button. You will heal it is just going to take time. I know that doesn't sound great b/c a quick and painless solution would be wonderful but unfortunately there just isn't one. What you do need to realize and tell yourself over and over again is that you don't need him to be happy and you deserve and will have better, healthier and happier relationship down the road. It is very important that you remember those things and try to heal your heart by spending time with friends and making new ones. Stay positive and the pain will grow less and less.
2007-05-10 16:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part is the decision taking step. Do not waste your time on him. I know that it's hard for you but you are better of lonely than unhappy. If you remain in such a relationship you are not doing good to yourself and you are losing the chance of meeting someone who is sincere. You should not think of the four years that you have spent with him, look at how your live in the future might be with someone who can appreciate you better.
When you are in such a situation, it's hard to resolve your issue, and even harder to acknowledge that fact that you are not wanted. Believe more in yourself and the good qualites you possess, quit this relathionship and believe that you deserve better.
2007-05-10 16:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy shopper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been a similar position, All you do is cut him cut of your life and move on. I know how difficult this would be, but just start hanging out with your friends and maybe do some casual dating.....nothing to serious. Just have fun. I did this and he was eating out the palm of my hands to forgive him. They only want you when someone else is in the picture. I hope this helps. Good luck!
2007-05-10 16:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by natashaxxr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you're no longer number 1. He's pushed you to the back burner for this other girl. Sounds like he's trying to have you both. Maybe keeping you around in case it doesn't work out with the other girl. Only you know if you should break up with him. You can either tell him that it's you or her. And if he doesn't pick you, you're gone. Or you can just end it right now. You're not going to be able to get ovver him over night. It'll take a while and it'll hurt. But it'll hurt more, the longer you stay with him. Everytime he's gone, you're mind is going to go straight to wondering if he's with her and what he's doing with her. You'll end up driving yourself crazy. Good luck.
2007-05-10 16:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar Booger 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know it's difficult and it hurts, but what you need to do is very simple. You must realize two things:
1) That this guy doesn't love you and he will NEVER treat you the way you need to be treated.
2) There are MANY kickass guys out there who will love you and treat you with the respect and kindness you deserve.
This will take time, though. Just work on it and keep your head up. In the meantime, stop talking to him and cut him out of your life completely. I wish you the best!
2007-05-10 16:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find another guy. I know that may sound a bit harsh, and that you are confused about why he is doing this to you. If I were you, I would just drop him honey. You dont need this guy. He thinks he can come and go as he pleases...with whom he pleases. Get rid of him, and find someone who repsects you!! He obviously doesn't love you, and you just cant make someone luv ya. So...drop that loser! Life is too short to waste it on a guy like him.
2007-05-10 16:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the same happened to me, so I went and found someone else to spend time with. Now guess who wants me back after she found that out?
2007-05-10 16:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by cowboy_lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away. Hold your head up high (fake it if you have to), make the exit a show of strength. Go see a friend and cry, then proceed to heal.
2007-05-10 16:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by just1more 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just move on with your life. He doesn't deserve you or anyone else with his cheating nature. You will find someone better than him someday, it will just take time. You should date people to see who is true and who is not. Once you find a guy you feel is true to you and respects you, then you can slowly start to begin a new relationship.
2007-05-10 16:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋