why does he keep leaving me?

Question

Been with this guy for 1 year. Everything ok for 9 mths then we start arguing a lot. He has moved out 3 times in the last 3 months. Always moves out when I'm at work. Doesn't call me for 3 days to a week then either calls or shows up unexpectedly and tells me he loves me and moves back in. Then we argue and it happens again. He is driving me crazy. What would be the best thing to do for myself?

Answer 1

Change the locks next time he moves out. The reason he keeps leaving is because you keep taking him back. Send him on his way for good!

Answer 2

Sorry that this is happening to you, it is so frustrating, I know. First of all, if a man is serious about a relationship, moving every time things get rough is never an acceptable answer. Maybe one of you needs to take a walk to cool off if the argument becomes non productive, but packing up and leaving is just a cop out. Especially, if you're not around when he does it, what a coward! People that care about their relationships don't play games with each other. Where does he go when he leaves? How does he leave when you're at work? Doesn't he work too? If he doesn't work and you don't know where he goes when he leaves, he's probably doing the same thing to another woman. Does he start the arguments or react unreasonably to your complaints? If he does than that's a sure sign that it's time to hop the fence to greener grass, ya feel? Babydoll, don't open the door next time! If he has a key, get it! Bite the bullet and grieve for your loss but LET HIM GO!! Good luck sweetheart, it's a tough road, but you'll be glad when it's over. Promise. = )

Answer 3

As hard as it is, do not allow him back when he leaves and comes back. He's got the hang of it and he likes it. He knows he can leave and come back WHENEVER he wants and you will allow him. And becareful that he is not sleeping around the last thing you need is an STD because he was fooling around. Us woman always ask what should I do? Or why is he doing this? and most of the time its are fault because we allow them to do things that are no acceptable. Good luck and hope this helps.

*teach him a lesson!

Answer 4

Next time this loser moves out change the locks and do not answer his calls or his worn out line of I love you. If he loved you he would work it out with you not just bail when your at work. If someone keeps standing on your toe and you let them they will keep doing it. Put your foot down or better yet in his a$$ and send him on his way; I am sure you can meet someone else.

Answer 5

For one: is your self esteem that low that you let this guy tell you when your convient for him?? And I have been thru one of these so called relationships, so, from my experience he was cheating.. Either way, why set yourself up for an already failed relationship. Tired yet of being hurt?? Having high standards for yourself is ok, don't settle for anything less. Yes, you do deserve the best. good luck.

Answer 6

I think that he might have someone else on the back burner. The best thing to do for yourself is end it and move on.

Answer 7

because you are always taking him back, you are telling him it's ok to treat you like that. If you want him to stop tell him otherwise buy not taking him back for a change and make him really work for it.

Answer 8

You need to kick that guy to the curb. Like you said at the end of your question, do something for yourself. Because that's all he's been doing for himself by what you described.

Answer 9

Dump him! Goodness! How many clues do you need to tell you that this dude is a jerk? There are plenty of people who are worth your while. So many men out there! Go find them.

Answer 10

And why do you keep taking the looser back? Look at yourself and look at the situation you are putting yourself in. No sympathy here.