How can I please my parents? I am sixteen years olds, and a teen age girl. I am normal, I just liek this guy who doesn't liek to meet parents quickly, and quickly for him is two months into us, and our relationship he finaly said I love you to me, and I am afraid that tehy will ruin it, and now they are telling me that he can not ever see me again unless he comes over to meet every one on Saturday[[we aren't dating]]he said that after he graduates it will be easier for us to date
-BobbiLynn May
2007-05-10 07:53:18 · 16 answers · asked by BobbiLynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey girl...talking from experience...just tell him to come over and meet your parents and if truly likes you then he will...I am seventeen and I have went out with my fare share of guys... some of them were iffy about meeting my parents, but once they met my parents they thought everything was alright... then the ones that did not come and meet my parents...I knew were not right for me because...I am part of my parents... I mean they raised me... and if the guy I liked could not get that through his thick head then I really did not need to be with him anyway...so just tell this guy to come meet your parents... everything will work out in the long run.
2007-05-10 09:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by kristine_star2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard to understand because they are your parents but the reason why they want to meet him is because he is important to you. Most parents want to know their childrens friends. If he is telling you that he loves you and you are not dating what are you looking for in the relationship? Parents are curious as to what is going on in your life. Trying to keep your (boyfriend) away from them will only make them more curious. Talk to your friend and find out why he has a problem with parents. If he loves you like he says he does, he should be able to do this small favor of meeting your folks to get them off your back. But if it doesn't work with this guy don't worry you have plenty of time to meet a guy that will meet your parents.
2007-05-10 15:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't dating, yet he told you he loves you??? Your parents are correct. they are only looking out for your best interest. I have a 21-year old daughter, and I am still concerned about her boyfriend -- nearly fiance. Yes he is a good man, but she is my daughter!
Parents have a right to know who their children are spending time with -- friends and dates. They also still have the right to "control" your life. you may not like it, but remember, they have many years of experiences, and they are only doing this because they love you and want to make sure you are OK with him.
If he does not want to meet your parents, then he is afraid of something. He probably has something to hide, which would make me - as a parent - all the more suspicious. If he "loves" you (which is really impossible at this stage (don't let him use that to get in your pants!), then he should be willing to meet your parents. If not, then do not see him again. It means he is bad news waiting to happen!
2007-05-10 15:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not a matter of pleasing, but respecting. If he is not willing to meet your parents, then think about what he might be afraid of and why. This should be warning flag for you. Your parents are being reasonable, they just want to meet him. Every parent deserves this. Please give your parents that respect they deserve as you are their child still and they only want what is best for you. Listen to your parents, they have a lot of life experience behind them and God gave you parents for that reason. Honor them and respect their request. If you are truly important to him, he will do this for you and your parents. If he won't cooperate for a meeting, then it really is time to say bye-bye to this guy. He is not worth it.
2007-05-10 15:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by nana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he will do this for you if he really loves you. I think your parents love you, too, and aren't trying to ruin anything for you, they just want to make sure you aren't hanging out with someone they think is bad for you or dangerous- they may not quite trust your judgment yet because you are still a bit young. It would be one afternoon out of your whole life- what could it hurt?
2007-05-10 15:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get over it. If you're not dating, then it shouldn't be a problem for him to meet your parents. Just explain to him that it's very important to you. If he still won't go, then forget about him - you're still young and can find plenty of other people.
2007-05-10 14:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by deviant_deviltry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meeting your parents is no big deal. Really.. how difficult is it to look your Dad in the eye, hsake his hand, say something nice to your mom, then keep his mouth shut?
Really - if he can't handle that, he doesn't deseve your hot little 16 year old body.
2007-05-10 14:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start by telling your parents that they have a right to be concerned.
Tell them you understand that they want to know who you hang out with.
If you do that, you show that you understand them.
Now it's time for them to understand you.
Tell them you are 16 years old and you won't stand for blackmail.
And tell them you will take him to 'meet the parents', but they better not reject him.
He is your choice. You acknowledge their concern.
But by 16 years old you will start making choices yourself.
2007-05-10 15:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by mgerben 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend like that once........and my older sister told me that if he doesn't want to meet or be around your family, he's hiding something.......and he was, he was a big time player......plus he's probably afraid that your family might see him for who he is.....and they probably will because they're not in love with him........your parents are on your side, I know that's hard to believe, but trust them........later on you'll be glad you did.
2007-05-10 15:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by pwellons1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying I love you, then he needs to meet your parents. As a parent I would FREAK if someone I had never met was professing love for one of my daughters.
Listen to your parents. They're right.
2007-05-10 14:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋