things are really hard at the moment. im 14 years old and one of my best friends is in rehab for depression and self harm. Only two other people apart from me know much about it. My other friends keep asking me questions but i just sit there silent. I phoned her but the school nurse talked to me and said i shouldnt because she is refusing to talk to the councilers there and she tells me things on the phone, the nurses theory is that if she cant let her feelings out to us she will talk to the counciller. however shes getting worse and she still self harms with her nails in there. shes been level 1 for 3 weeks now and im really worried about her. they say if she doesnt start talking theyll chuck her out.
ive been writing letters to her but does anyone have any advice on how to help her ? im so worried about her.
thankyou to anyone that can help.
2007-05-10 07:52:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sometimes, no matter how much we care about someone, we have to back off. Write one last letter to your friend, tell her she needs to be dealing with her issues and talking to the counsellors, not to you, and that you aren't going to write anymore, because you think you are doing her more harm than good, and then follow thru, don't write or contact her again, and don't read anything she sends you. She is not in her right mind, and what she writes may be hurtful and you don't need that. You cannot help her in this, she has to want to help herself.
2007-05-10 08:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sweetie, i am a recovering addict, so been in rehabs and mental hospitals....but unforntunately the only thing you can do is pray for her, encourage her but you cant make her take the treatment....we dont change until we are ready and as sad as it is noone else can tell us when that is........let her know that she cant get past the feelings until she walks thru them, feeling sucks sometimes but this too shall pass, remind her that once she walks thru it she can learn to let go of it, but the biggest thing u can do is pray for her heart to open up to the healing that is needed....good luck and make sure you always have someone to talk to also, bad things happen in life but we always have a choice even when it seems all is lost...God Bless
2007-05-10 08:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Christi Webb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanna help. Don't write or call, the people in the center should be who she is talking to, not you.
2007-05-10 08:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by pedohunter1488 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋