CURIOUS... i choose not to spank or hit my child?

Question

but i know some do... i seems as though people who were spanked spank and those who were not do not..... and exception is sometimes ones abused either abuse or choose not to hit at all.... does this apply to others... do any not fit this.
it applies to me i was not hit and i do not hit... just curious.

BIBLE ALSO PROMOTES SLAVERY ...I DONT BELIEVE IN THE BIBLE !

the one who compared a child to a dog , lol thats funny well my answer to that is a child that young you have to keep such dangers (a hot stove) out of their grasp or them away and they still can be taught with words at a young age ! my son knows the stove is hot and he didnt have to get hit or burn himself to learn it !

Answer 1

Good for you to not spank. You are on the right track to sucessful parenting. I was spanked and do not spank my children. I have broken the cycle and educated myself on successful parenting. It has payed off. My children are very well behaved and happy little ones.
You will notice that many people on this Yahoo spank their kids and stand firm believing that it is right to do so and the only way.

"I was spanked and I turned out fine." Is what they ALL say. Funny how they give all credit to being hit and they are fine because of being hit. "Being smacked turned me into a great person and I love my parents for it." Come on! What a ridiculous belief!



All the people on here who don't believe in it get alot of thumbs down. So bizarre?? Poor kids!
I work with kids and have kids of my own.

I have seen more hitting coming from kids who are hit by their parents compared to kids who are never hit.
I noticed a big difference in the way they interact with their parents, siblings and their friends.
Every misbehavior is an unmet need. It is up to us parents to problem-solve and use some intelligence to discipline respectively, not by taking the easy way out and hitting.
Ruling through pain and fear works short-term and causes kids to lose trust and become sneaky.
Kids live what they learn. Hitting models hitting plain and simple.
I want my kids to behave well not because they fear me but because they want to out of their own free will. It makes for a happy, positive life for all of us.

Good choice you have made!! Your parents have taught you well.

Answer 2

I was spanked as a child, I spank

My wife was NEVER spanked a day in her life, SHE ALSO SPANKS.

I might also add, my wife has many more issues with her parents then I do with mine. I don't really think spanking enters the equation. I think most parents do what works for them.

Spanking is not a bad thing, depending on how the parent administers it. Also why the parent is doing it. My neighbor for example just swats the **** out of her daughter with no explanation, this of course is non productive and the girl learns nothing from it. The spanking, same with the time outs, or what ever punishment you use, only works with proper teaching to follow.

Answer 3

first issues first, based on lots of the responses previous to mine. while somebody says "whipping" they sometimes do not advise it actually. that's merely the word that some human beings use for a spanking. It relies upon on the place your from, merely like the entire soda vs. pop argument. that being pronounced. sometimes a rapid smack on the hand or backside is what a newborn desires to get the message for the duration of, while "no" or time outs do not artwork. i'm "professional-spanking" while a newborn desires it and while that's not performed in anger, yet i'm the 1st one to declare that it is likewise gotten out of hand and allot of mom and dad take it to three distance and go previous an trouble-free spanking. and definitely, maximum human beings over the age of 20 or 25 have been spanked as babies, and maximum human beings became out ok.

Answer 4

I was spanked, I don't have kids yet, but I'm pretty sure I'm a spanker. I turned out just fine, and I think it helped keep me in line for the most part. I don't see a problem with it. There is a difference between abuse and spanking. Spanking is more about discipline and showing consequences. Where as abuse is a form of attack, for the purpose of lowering a person.

Answer 5

I was not spanked, and I turned out fine. I was always a good kid, and I never got into any trouble. If I have kids, I don't think I'll spank.
And for the person who compared kids to dogs- I have a dog that is well-trained, has never attacked anybody, nor destroyed furniture, and we never spanked him or hit him. If my dog was able to understand a firm NO, I'm sure the average 2-year old can.

Answer 6

Because people are INDIVIDUALS, they all respond differently to different stimuli. Some children do not ever need to be spanked. They have tender feelings, and if you even raise your voice, they cry. Other children are more head strong and need more "reminders" about whats acceptable and whats not. There is no one right or wrong answer. Handle your child the way he needs to be handled in order to learn and grow. If he needs spanked, always make sure he understands WHY he got in trouble.

Answer 7

How are dogs trained? In the beginning, there has to be some rudimentary concept of reward and punishment, because the level of understanding is just too low. Spankless punishment comes in only after the child can grasp such things. How do you train tots to stay away from burning stoves, for instance?

Addendum: I'm gratified to see so many people consider the comparsion between training a dog and a small kid. The problem is essentially the same. Yes, it's possible to train either with a minimum of physical force, but everybody has their idea of when moderate physical force (as in restraint) ends and where "spanking" starts. Just like no dog trainer would ever recommend pummelling a dog, no kid should be pummelled either.

Answer 8

Oh..I was spanked when I was a little girl. Then it went from good ol' spanking to being beaten the hell out of. I do not agree with spanking a child, but that's just my opinion.

Answer 9

I find that time out works better than spankng with my son. He thinks that sitting still with no toys or stimulation is torture.

Answer 10

some children need to be spanked, for instance if they repeatedly do something that is harmful to themselves, like running into the street without looking, they need a good walloping to get it through to them not to do that. other children are mild mannered and well behaved and spanking them would be abuse.