What do I do. My boyfriend lied to me bout getting waisted at a party. That is one thing I told him not to do!

Answer 1

I think that you should talk to your boyfriend about it...but do not get too mad at him because then he'll just let it go from one ear out the other...but you also need to have a serious talk about your limits when it comes to alcohol with him.....

hope this helps....

Answer 2

What is the one thing you told him not to do?

Lie, or get wasted?

If it's getting wasted, then drop the idea that you can control boyfriends; they are autonomous human beings who have the right to do what they want.

If it's lying, then I think you need to make a distinction between lying about something that IS your business, and something that isn't.

Whether he gets wasted at a party isn't really any of your business.

If he lied about it, he probably didn't want to you to lecture him (which you don't have the right to do anyway).

It's not something that you have the right to know.

If the problem is that he's an alcoholic (which you should have mentioned, if that were the case), then expect to be lied to about his drinking.

Answer 3

Why be so worried that he is getting wasted at a party? Did he sleep with another woman? Did he drive drunk? Did he kill someone? Do drugs? Is he an alcoholic and this is why you don't want him to?

If you try to be very controlling over him when it comes to little things like drinking at a party, then you may drive him away. If not drinking and getting wasted is important to you, then you need to find someone who will respect that. Likely your boyfriend will lie to you about other little things he thinks unimportant and may even lead to lying to you about bigger things, but the biggest problem now is that you are trying to control him when he obviously wants to do other things.

Examine how much he means to you, figure out what is more important not drinking or accepting him the way he is and try and find middle ground or more on to someone who fits within your confines of a good man.

Answer 4

It's one thing you told him not to do huh ? ,,,, Are you some kind of a control freak or something ,,,, You better sit down and rethink your situation ,,,, This is 2007 America and 1940's Nazi Germany ,,,, You don't tell anybody anything unless you are their employer and pay them a salary ,,,,

My girlfriend knows this and we have an equal relationship ,,,, We have always gotten along quite well and this is out 6th year together ,,,,

We don't have the problems you do because even while we are still together neither one of us tries to bully or control the other ,,,, Its a mutual 50/50 thing with us ,,,,

If I were in your boy friends shoes I'd tell you to go find someone else to control ,,,, You are going to be a pretty lonely person in later years if you don't adopt a more sensible attitude soon ,,,,

Answer 5

He lied because he obviously cares about what you think, however if you don't want to be around someone who gets wasted then you tell him that and move on. He either prefers to party like that or he succumbed to peer pressure because his buddies found out that you wouldn't 'let' him drink. There's a difference between having a couple of beers and truly getting wasted. You're also not his keeper. If he's an adult he can make his own choices, but so can you... he can choose to drink and you can choose not to be with him.

Answer 6

what else you gonna do at a party..you know sometimes you just cant help it... i mean there are drinking games that they all play.. like quarters..a there's this checker set made out of shot glasses.. he may have went intended not to get wasted ..but ended up doing so in the end.. he should not have lied to you about it.. he should have known you would find out.. but how you handle this will determine if he could tell you things in the future..my bf went out of town with his cousin and ended up in a strip joint.. they told him to lie to me and when he came home he told me the truth.. i did not get mad at him so now he knows that he can be honest about things.. remember one thing if you want him to be understanding to you .. then you need to be understanding to him..

Answer 7

I think you should let him know you are disappointed in him. Tell him that you asked him not too, and he totally disregarded your wishes. Tell him to do unto others, then drop it. Pick your battles honey!! Fighting over something like that is rather petty. If you think about it, it is easy to say "I'm not going to drink." When you are at home. But you get to a party and all of your friends are calling you a puss and peer pressuring you. Yeah, thats a hard thing to do. Put yourself in his shoes. Yes he let you down, but nobody is perfect. Don't forgive him too easy though. Let him know you are upset, but don't dwell. Good luck!!!

Answer 8

Sounds like you're pretty controlling. However if he lied about it could be because of your controlling nature, or he possibly lied in order to cover something else up i.e. meeting a girl etc.

Answer 9

What is the real reason that you're so angry is it the way he acts when he is wasted? Or that he is irresponsible or did he actually do something? Or did he embarrass you? If any of those things you can give him and ultimatum about his actions and that if he continues down the path of destruction that you will not be a part of it.

Answer 10

There's a big surprise.

If you TOLD me not to do something, I'd go out and do it that second just to piss you off. You're not your boyfriend's mother, probation officer or master. He is an individual human being with free will that will do what he wants when he wants to do it.

Deal with it.