I've started hanging out with this guy I met at school (college) and it looks like it's starting to head more toward a relationship type thing. However I just found out that he's 28 years old, but I'm only 18. I mean, i've finally met someone whos at the same maturity level as me and we have a ton of stuff in common, but it just seems a little weird to me now. i mean, when he was 18 i was only 8. Also, i don't think he knows i'm only 18.
2007-05-10 07:10:23 · 36 answers · asked by the_littlest_weasley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Age is just a number. If this person truly makes you happy hold on to him!
2007-05-10 07:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I dont think its wrong. You seem happy and in a mature relationship. I think its a really good thing for you right now.I think its cool. Like a soap opera or something!!!! I am 18 too but I would never go out with a guy thats 28. But yet I never thought about it. All of my cousins are in relationships with guys 10 or more years older than them and they are married and happy with kids!!!
2007-05-10 07:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfli a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 years difference depends on the ages of the people. 28 and 38, not a big deal. 18 and 28 yes. You are a novelty to him. He can tell his buddies he is dating an 18 year old. He is probably established in his job which is going to limit your choices of a job to be close to him. Just date, but do not settle down with him or anyone until after college.
2007-05-10 07:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by dkwkbmn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you need to be honest with this guy if you're going to be serious about him at all, and tell him you're eighteen.
Secondly, no, if you two click and have alot in common, I don't see any problem with a ten-year age gap. I've been with my boyfriend almost a year and he's fifteen years older than me; people look at us strangely sometimes but my family and friends (and his) have gotten used to it.
If you really like this guy, then you shouldn't let something like age get in the way of happiness! :)
Good luck<3
2007-05-10 07:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly_soup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. You seem too mature to date guys your own age so go for it. As long as he makes you happy and treats you with respect then there's nothing wrong with it. If I were you I would tell him how old I am. I mean it's not as if you're underage. You're legal so enjoy it. He could teach you things because he is more experienced than you. Just absorb as much as you can from him. Even if it doesn't work out you'll be able to look at it as a learning experience.
2007-05-10 07:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point in your life, yes. You may think you are up to his maturity level, but that may not say much about his maturity... Also, if you've concealed your age and are asking the question, you know deep down that there's something wrong. Heartache and disaster await. Enjoy college, stay friends, date some guys around your own age, and if he is still there in 3 years, then I would reconsider.
2007-05-10 07:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by syphongalaxy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well atleast your 18 that means your a adult.. honey i am 43 and my bf is 30..so when your 28 he will be 38 and you did just find out his age... so he must look younger than he is.. my bf knew my age when we met.. and he lied to me about his.. at the time i was 40 and he told me he was 34 and he really was 28.. age is just number.. as long as both are mature adults
2007-05-10 07:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 20 and my husband of going on 3 years is 34, so what. when he was graduating high school I was maybe in preschool. We have two kids, 2yrs, and 6mths old, both girls. We fight every other day, and not bad fights I mean more like comical disagreements, as a way to deal with stress. we either end up laughing or we go back to normal, so what is bad about it.... nothing, age means nothing.
2007-05-10 07:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by marymouse26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It only has to be a problem if you let it become one. If your maturity levels are truly the same, as you claim, then I fail to see what the problem is. The older you both get, the less and less this will matter.
2007-05-10 07:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
number one you have to tell him how old you are. If it is to much of a gap for him you don't need to worry about it. If he is OK with it and you are old enough to have a beer with him then you are old enough to make the descision to date a man that is older than you are. My husband is only 6 months older than me and that works for us but my father was 14 years older than my mother and that worked for them. If the chemistry and feelings are there age is only a number.
2007-05-10 07:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by Amber G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I love how you throw the whole "I've finally met someone whose at the same maturity level as me" in there. That's a lie that old guys tell to sleep with really young, naive, and myopic girls. I assure you that he's only using you.
2007-05-10 07:13:39 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋