according to missouri law i can move in with her, but i am not sure if it is allowed by kansas law, and i can not locate a lawyer close to me, i live in Thayer, 30 min from indipendence, so if you know a lawyer near my location, that would help out also. i was mainly wondering this because i believe my mother well hinder my ability to be a good father, and i could get a job and finnish school their, but i don't want any trouble with the law. i thank anyone who decides to andswer my question, and hope i get some good help, because i realy want to be a good father, i grew up without one and i don't want my child to go threw the same thing. it is very important to me that i am a good father, so please help me out.
2007-05-10 06:50:40 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I too commend you on wanting to do the practical thing and help support your child's mother and your child.
Since it sounds as though you both want to have this child there are a couple of solutions that come to mind but it is still best to check with either a lawyer or a paralegal in your area.
Since she is pregnant, will your and her parents sign to allow you to marry under age? You and your gf need to be on pretty good terms with both sets of parents.
You could possibly move in with one or the other parents but this is difficult in today's world without causing hardships and hurt feelings. Also you would have to contribute to the cost of water, electricity, and food, all of which you sound as though you are willing to do.
Good luck and I hope all works out well for you...be a good Dad and partner/husband to your gf.
2007-05-10 07:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, I feel for you, you are in a very tough situation. I am not sure but I am just guessing that you GF lives at home with her parents and does not have a job yet. As a parent, I know how hard it is just to try to provide for my children, muchless anyone else, so you moving in with the GF and her parents may not be the best idea. I am sure you will get a job, but I think going to school, getting a job and a car and going to see your baby every weekend until you get enough money to move them in with you in your house may be the right answer. Right now you need to focus on helping with medical bills and buying baby supplies...I know you have the desire it takes to make it, but I think once you get the true taste of the medical bills and baby supply bills you will see how hard it is to pay those, plus a house note, utilities and groceries for you and mom. What I am saying is you are so young and have so much drive. PLEASE don't sale short an education...trust me, you and your baby NEED the education more than you think right now. You have more than yourself to think about now. You know as a child...children want a house and toys and nice clothes/shoes for school. Dropouts don't make half of what gradutes make and they make only 1/8th of a college graduate...PLEASE think about that. Think about what you want for your baby. From reading your letter, you sound like a shop owner and not a shop hand...Think about it!!!!
2007-05-10 14:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by hunter_bug_4me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a lawyer or paralegal in legal advice. I commend you for wanting to support your gf and your child. Can you live in her house with her parent? Not the best solution, but could be practical.
2007-05-10 13:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋