Will you look at these pros & cons & tell me what you think? I dont know if I'm "expecting too much"

Question

Will you look at these pros & cons & tell me what you think? I dont know if I'm "expecting too much"
my boyfriend of 2.5 yrs...
pros: attractive, usually sweet, loves me, not a cheater, generous & thoughtful- takes me to great places, buys flowers, sends me to the spa etc.

cons: works constantly (usually 10am to midnight), terrrible in bed, slacks on house stuff(we share bills & chores), bitches about work the whole time I ever talk to him during the day, acts immature around me sometimes (farts, repeats lines from movies, makes spaceship noises)

Answer 1

It sounds like he has a little bit of boy left in him. Take it or leave it. As far as the job goes....He works to damn much AND he hates it. Tell him to quit and do something he enjoys. This will lead to more time at home, doing chores, learning sex techniques, inventing new noises, etc.

It's important in every relationship to communicate your desires, dreams, expectations, hurts, joys, and every day stuff. If he is reluctant to consider your greivances, move out. Start seperating yourself now and save yourself any more wasted time on someone who won't cooperate.

Answer 2

I think we've all learned that people don't change so you already know that that isn't going to happen as far as the farting and spaceship noises. Also, maybe he will always be a workaholic.

As far as him being bad in bed goes, maybe if your more vocal while your in the act and tell him what you don't like and what you do or would like then that will help lead him in the right direction.

You've been together for a while so you must love him. I think you need to look deep in yourself and figure out if you can deal with his flaws forever or not. Everyone has to ask themselves that question at some point in their relationship.

If he really loves you and you let him know that him working so much could cause your relationship to end maybe he will try to get a different shift or job.

Answer 3

You have been with him for a long time and the things he does are minor problems. If he is bad in bed help him learn what makes you get off. This will make him happy as well. It is stupid that he farts around you but fart in front of him one day and see what he does. If he gets embarrassed say yea that's how I feel when you do it. We works a grip load of hours so its hard for him to really be able to help do common things around the house. However, he should do little things then like take out the trash and ETC. Then on the days he does have off you should try to spend some time with him and talk with him about interesting things. However, you need to talk to him about all of this. You may loose a good guy because of little things. He likes to make you happy it seems just doesn't know what pleases you.

Answer 4

Wow, that actually made me laugh out loud. Typical guy, right? Well, the Pros are excellent ones. The Cons are not so good, especially the first half. The last half is to be expected. Do you see a future with this guy? Marriage? If so, he probably won't have the same job forever, and you could help him find something more suitable time-wise for your relationship. You are going to have to have a serious talk with him about a few things: helping with the house stuff and complaining about work. It sounds like he needs a new job! Will he have a serious conversation with you? It seems like you have something to work with!

Answer 5

Tell him to work less and spend time with u. Work like 10-6 or 9-5. The whole farting thing guys do that so u cant' change that. The whole doing chores tell him to do it and u guys need to share. Sometimes u have to take the good with the bad.

Answer 6

Makes spaceship noises? I'd say you not expecting to much just regular relationship stuff that people go though. Although being terrible in bed can be a deal breaker. You can work on the rest with relationship counselling if you both want.

Answer 7

lmao, spaceship noises?!!!!? i dont understand the question tho? youre just giving pros and cons of him, what do YOU want from HIM?
for the terrible in bed, have him read a cosmo. they have an incredible guy section and some great tips for you to do to him as well. show him what you want. put his hand in places, if you know what i mean.
you need to make it clear to him that slacking on bills and chores is unacceptable and he needs to start pulling is own weight.
theres nothing you can do about the immaturity. we all act dumb sumtimes.

Answer 8

If he's working that much, he better be making a ton of money! If he is, then you should do the bills and more chores around the house. If he stinks in bed...give me a call, he won't be around...lol

Answer 9

maybe you just need to get him to work on the cons --- they are not really that bad and can be changed if he wants to --- i know i dont have a problem changing bad habits for my lady ---- best wishes