Why can't I have any luck in finding a good guy? It's as if each time I try, they all leave me. I'm tired of it.
2007-05-10 06:28:07 · 22 answers · asked by Aubrey B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't search for someone, is it just that, once you get to really like a guy, he ups and leaves?
Well, this is a hard answer, because some guys may leave if you are too easy...others leave if you aren't easy enough...some just don't feel the vibe...and others are afraid when they feel that vibe.
Well, i'm sure that's the way some of it works, because i'm that way...i don't want a guy who wants to have a one night stand...and i can't stand being with someone who is just 'there'
I've been fortunate, with the guy I love for 9 months now!
You will find someone, you may already have!
Just follow what feels right, and...don't ever let a guy treat you like dirt, (or treat him like dirt for that matter) Guys also don't like girls who are needy, and fussy....i'm shocked my guy still tells me he loves me continuously....i gripe too much..lol...
2007-05-10 06:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by ღ❤Crystal❤ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's either something about you or something about the type of men you go for. Think to yourself- Did they all leave for the same reason? Do I keep going for players? Ask friends and maybe your exes.
You could be blowing this out of proportion though- Could just be bad luck.
GOOD luck to you! You can have infinite failures but with relationships it only takes one time for it to be a success!
2007-05-10 13:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Halicash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're picking the wrong dudes. You need to start looking at all the guys you've dated, and find the similarities. When you figure out what the red flags are, avoid those guys. Try going for somebody you wouldn't go for normally. Look for a nice guy who has his shiznit together, and see what happens. Good luck.
2007-05-10 13:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, hon. Don't blame yourself.
Happiness comes when you reach the understanding that you don't "need" to have a boyfriend. Learn to live on your own terms - do what makes you happiest. Travel, hang out with your friends, and develop your interests. Once you are confident in yourself and your life, men will look different to you. You won't need a guy to "complete" your life - you'll want a guy to make it even better. Furthermore, you'll have the confidence to give him the boot if he doesn't make you happy. This is so much better than getting your heart broke. Find who you are, girl, and get living! Life is way to short to be moping around for a boyfriend.
2007-05-10 13:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by mesasa1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these days, Good men are on the most endangered species list. 80% of men are not what we call Gentlemen these days. And even though we hear these words the definition isn't clear but this is what they mean
Player= good with words only. can't back them up (liar)
Playboy=uses women like tools whenever hes in the mood for a particular one he'll get her. Doesn't love any of them.
Romeo=wants to be every womans lover and savior.
Cassanova=a very selfish unscrupulous lover.
Don Juan= Pursuer of women. one is never enough.
Gigolo=wants women to raise him, as if they are his mother.
Pimp, Dog, Untamed Beast=they need no explaining.
All of those men are not a good mate for any woman.
Gentleman=Decent Moral Values, Etiquette/manners, Hard working, True to his word, Loyal, Wise, and is true to his Committment. ( very rare to find guys like this these days).
2007-05-10 13:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Housecat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it comes down to what you define as a good guy and what kind of person you are. If it truly is a "good" guy and he leaves you, he's doing so because there's some one out there he thinks is better. You need to evaluate yourself and see if there are any changes you can make to be more appealling to these men.
2007-05-10 13:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by wizbangs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two reasons: First, guys your age aren't supposed to stick around forever. That's why marriages are most successful the deeper into the 20s one gets. The second thing is, and you have to deal with this, as we all do, it's a matter of your choices, it's the people you are choosing. Nice guys are not the party animals, the players, the dancers, or the extroverts. Nice guys are quiet and studious, they are even,
2007-05-10 13:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Instead of asking why can't you find Mr. Right, try asking why they kept leaving you? Same denominators of your pasts is YOU. You might have a problem connecting with them that's making guys (good guys?) leave you. Try analyzing your flaws that might push guys away and try changing it.
2007-05-10 13:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by C A M S ™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you using as critieria for selecting a guy? Might want to re-think those.
Is there something you do or say prior to all of these guys leaving? There maybe a common denominator in all of these situations.
2007-05-10 13:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply haven't met one that's a good match for you yet...be patient. If it were so easy, we wouldn't appreciate it nearly enough when a good partner did come into our life.
Enjoy being single and make your life the best you can so you'll be happy whether you have a guy around or not. âº
2007-05-10 13:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋