Men... please answer this question. Why do you get scared off?

Question

Why do you read more into things?
Why does a man assume a woman wants more than just a casual relationship even though the woman has assured him over and over that she doesn't want more?
Does a man think that the woman is going to become clingy? When a man pushes a woman away in this situation it's confusing especially when casual is all she wants. So then she wants to know what the heck is going on.
And why can't the man just say, "I don't want this"? Why is avoiding always the way it goes?
If you are all set and she is all set, then what is the problem? Does this ever end... do you have to be past your 30's??

Answer 1

Because women lie.

Women will often say they only want a casual relationship, but it never ends up that way. They always want more and that happens sooner rather than later. I have never met a woman that said she wanted a deep relationship right away, they always say they just want to date. However they all change their tune about 2-3 months in and want to know "where is this relationship going".

Answer 2

I have gotten scared off because I am not up for a lifetime committment. I don't want to have to put on a tie and go to work every day for the next 40 years, never have any fun ever again, never be able to disappear into the jungle for a couple of weeks or go surfing in the So. Pacific for weeks at a time. Maybe some day I will be ready for that. But not now. I like having fun, I want to have more. So getting into anything that looks even a little like a permanent relationship is scary.

Answer 3

I dont know im in my 30's whatever the status of the relationship, casual or serious, its all about communicating, honesty and trust. Avoiding the issue doesnt solve anything expect look like a coward. If people are responsible enough to have a casual relationship the should be responsible and treat the other with respect regardless of how it works out...

Answer 4

It gets worse past your 30's and not better. The number one fantasy of guys is two women. This is just an extension of that. I think it's some kind of physical remnant of our past as animals.

Woman talk three times as much as men, that's a study, not my numbers. I think that men are so accustomed to women that talk too much and do get clingy so that it's easy to get paranoid about it.

There are men out there, but most are already gone at 30. Buy cats now while there are still some good ones.

Answer 5

There is this huge common gap between what a man perceives a woman wants, and what a woman wants. There is also a gap between a woman thinking a man understands her, and the need of the man for it to be explained in simplistic detail. Sighs..... life is such as this. Fortuantely, there are some exceptions to both rules, and we are lucky if we find outselves in and exceptional relationship.

Answer 6

Men generally don't communicate well, and don't like communicating. Judge me by my actions! Not how much I want to join into conversations of continuous babble. If you want to talk to someone call one of your girlfriends not me!

This may sound extream... but to some degree this is how most guy's think. If you try too hard to make them a girl friend... well I wouldn't say they get scared off... they just loose interest.

Answer 7

I'm sorry but this doesn't improve with age. My last "boyfriend" was 50 and he was just scared sh*tless that I'd get "clingy". Whatever. They act like this because they're pus*ies with no balls who can't speak their mind.

Answer 8

i think it could be guilt. some guys feel guilty about having sex with someone they are not in love with. odd but true.

people who can just enjoy themselves do better in these types of relationships and can enjoy.

Answer 9

Wow! If your relationships are anything like this questions, I'd be running for the hills too.

Answer 10

you shouldn't generalize. all men are different...the "boy" you are talking about probably isn't ready for a long term relationship, that's all.