Do you feel uncomfortable/embarrassed when hearing parents in public threaten to punish kids ?

Question

Not so long ago I heard one mother in a queue at a supermarket telling her son if he didn't stop pestering her she'd give his bum a spanking when they get home.

Another time when I saw a boy pull his sister's ponytail, their mother said 'Right, that's it young man, do you want to wear those hair pins again?'.

Also, do you agree with these metods?

Answer 1

A boy should not be forced to dress like a girl and vice versa for girls. Anyway no I don't get embarrassed. The children should listen to their parents. I'll hit my children when I have them if they ever talk back to me, my husband or my mother in law and father in law or if they don't behave. I'm not going to raise brats who have no respect for their elders.

Answer 2

I don't agree with spanking but unless you actually have children, it is hard to understand how bad a shopping trip can actually be. That mom may not have even spanked him, but the threat was hopefully enough for her to get through the trip and get some groceries so they don't have to eat sandwiches AGAIN etc. Shopping and outings in general are particularly hard for kids. You spend nearly an hour walking through a store full of all sorts of wonderful things, the majority of which they will not be getting only to stand for 10-30 minutes in a line, waiting quietly near a large selection of candy, toys and soda, only to have to wait and not even talk to your mom while she talks to the checker. Its a really tough thing, as a mom, its even tougher. You have to get groceries or your kids will starve, but they can be soooo bad, even the best kids can make shopping tough. You just want to get out of there. For my little ones, we try to have something fun to do after shopping so that they have something to look forward to and a reason to be good. It doesn't always work. As I said, I do not spank. As for the hair pins, there is a certain logic behind it. If you absolutely cannot keep your hands away from your sister's hair, you must be jealous and thus need to wear hair pins. For most young men, that is enough to make them not want to pester their sister (I bet he only had to wear them once.) I have seen some horrible parents, but the two instances you mention aren't really anything more than a moment in a long day for another family.

Answer 3

Discipline is rarely pretty, but the lack of it is downright ugly. I call my kids on their behavior right then and there. And yes, my children, when they were younger did receive the occasional spanking. I strongly believe that because I did it then, it is why I very rarely have to do anything more than give my children "The Look" now--and I'm often complimented on what wonderful, respectful boys I have raised.

Answer 4

well my parents will punish you where you show out at. and i do agree wiht the methods of the first mother but the second one im not so sure because i think that is what would make a gay boy and then i feel the way a parent wants to punish their kids is there own bussiness and if you had childer you will understand because now day syou have to show your children who is boss if you dont they will walk all over you. but if you want your children to respect you you have to let them know that, that type of behavior will not be put up with.

Answer 5

Kids need to get a punishment when they disobey, otherwise they never learn right from wrong. A spanking doesn't mean a beating.....they are vastly different things. A pop or two on a (usually padded) butt never hurt anybody. As for "wearing those hairpins again"....it depends on what she means by "wearing". If she STICKS the kid with them, that's wrong. If she just puts hairpins in his hair and makes him wear them around for awhile, that's just an embarrassment for the kid to try to make him stop pulling his sisters hair.
No, I'm not uncomfortable or embarrassed by it. It lets me know that parents are really trying to make their kids behave in public. If they let them run wild with no supervision -- THAT would make me uncomfortable and embarrassed.

Answer 6

i think its good to know what works for the child if the spanking works then thats fine just not to the point where you beating the crap outta kids this world in general is getting to loose in their discipline and that is why children are acting like immature, whimpy, animalistic brats!!! There needs to be some discipline and love no matter what. parents need to stop being push overs!

Answer 7

That relies upon. each and every now and then, frankly, i imagine the little ones deserve a punishment or 2. once, at the same time as out strolling one nighttime, I witnessed a father tell his son on 3 separate events no longer to do something. The boy persevered besides, and the daddy, who had already given his son "the look", gave him one reliable wack on the boy's bottom. sturdy for dad for sticking to his guns and following by on his training. I have, although, regretfully been witness to some circumstances the position the punishment become no longer purely unnecessary yet probably risky. I used to artwork in retail, and sometime at the same time as i become contained in the restroom, a father dragged his son into the restroom, and through the bits of communication I heard, it grew to develop into sparkling to me that the 8 year previous boy, who at the same time as requested by utilising his father mistakenly reported he become 6, had moist his pants and his father become berating him for doing so. there become of direction some protocol already prepared between them because the lads pants were diminished and the daddy directed his son to "assume the region" and gave him 4 wacks on his bare bottom. listening to the boy yelp on 4 successive events become VERY uncomfortable for me. the purely difficulty that went by my head on the time become "i recognize precisely why he moist his pants! He become afraid to even ask his father if he might want to pass to the bathroom!" for this reason, although, I by no ability heard a chance, yet although if there have been one, i'd were both uncomfortable listening to it. various the time, if mother and father were doing a sturdy job of elevating their youngsters, a chance is probably all that's had to regulate the habit of the youngster. i'm really no longer uncomfortable listening to such threats be made, although i'd develop into uncomfortable if I listen something about the nature of the punishment to be doled out, quite if i imagine one of those punishment will be overkill for the certain offense in question. nevertheless, as a widespread rule, i believe those judgements are oftentimes astounding left as a lot because the mother and father extremely than the peanut gallery. we will be both smooth or uncomfortable with punishment judgements mother and father make, yet finally, except the punishment is amazingly abusive, we prefer to grant mother and father the great factor about the doubt the following. basically my opinion.

Answer 8

I was sitting in the Dr office when a mom told her almost two year old if you do not sit down I will take my belt off, I could not believe a child so young even knew what that meant!!! It horrible in my eyes to hit your children there are other ways of discipline.

Answer 9

I'm not uncomfortable or embarrassed when parents threaten to punish their kids in public. Sometimes kids act up in public because they know there will not be any consequence.

Answer 10

This would not bother me at all. With all the misbehaved kids out there, and all the parents who do absolutely nothing, its nice to see a child being disciplined every once in a while.