What if you only ever have sex with one person, the person you love more than anything else? Does it matter whether you're legally married or not if you're married in your heart?
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2007-05-10 05:00:39 · 5 answers · asked by Kharm 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I agree. The perfect relationship has three things: love, sex and forever (marriage or even without a legal document). It hardly matters in which order the things happen. It's best to start with Love, but after that who cares if sex comes before marriage or marriage before sex. Or no marriage at all.
I know I'll be with my girlfriend for the rest of my life. She's my meaning in life. Hell, I gave up an entire country just to be with her. We simply don't wanna get married in the country we currently live in, we wanna do that after we have emigrated.
We're living together for almost 2 years now. And, no god will stop me from having sex with her, that would just be silly.
2007-05-10 12:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The body is immaterial in the decision to have sex before marriage (assuming safe sex is practiced and birth control if you don't want to have children). Once you pass through puberty you are an adult, physiologically speaking. Your body is prepared for sex at that point. Whether you decide to use it for that purpose is really a decision you must make consciously with your mind. You must especially ask yourself if you think you're emotionally mature enough to handle that kind of intimacy. You must also ask yourself if what your expectations are and whether you might suffer if those expectations aren't met. You also need to ask similar questions about your partner.
Marriage itself is an arbitrary convention and, outside of subjective and personal belief systems, have nothing to do with this decision.
2007-05-10 12:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Peter D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that if you love one another and you are with that person because of all the great qualities you see, then I see no problem with it . As long as you and your partner would sacrifice for one another and it's all beyond a "lustful" feeling, then I say go ahead and share that sexual intimacy. That's a key part in any romantic relationship, whether married or not. You should share every part of your being and so should your partner.
2007-05-10 12:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by sara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think it matters whether or not you're married legally. That only matters on tax forms. If you've committed yourselves to each other, and you're going to be together for the rest of your lives, that's the spirit of marriage even if you skip the ceremony.
2007-05-10 12:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your own personal morals, we all have them.
2007-05-10 19:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by Axe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋