i want to sign my legal rights off my daughter to her step mother. they say it can take up intill october before she can adpot my daughter how can we get this to go faster?
2007-05-10 04:56:53 · 11 answers · asked by Its a Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just for the question i am giving up my rights because i cant take care of her because i am sick and cant do much anymore
2007-05-10 05:06:19 · update #1
Don't mind what the others say, I applaud you for recognizing a difficult thing and making a difference for you child's happiness.
Once you sign a power of attorney to the step mother, she will have most the power to do what she needs to care for the child, but adoption takes about 3 to 4 months if you are dogging the lawyer to do his job. My husband adopted my children from a previous marriage and it took about that long, but it would have taken longer if we hadn't called them once a week to "remind" them to do their job. HTHs some.
2007-05-10 05:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one, you do realize by signing over the adoption of your daughter to your " Step - Mother" the end result is that your daughter will become your step-sister ( not even a blood sister in the eyes of the law).
Second, you cannot speed up the system because there are forms that need to be filed by a certain time, then the next form by its deadline after the first deadline. There are hearings to be held, there are proofs that need to be acquired. Proof adopting parents can support child, for one example, proof the adopting parents are not too old to be unable to care for a child of this age. Like i said, it takes time.
I know this because i was down this road when I had adopted my daughter out to an unknown family. She was born with a very, very serious disease and we ( wife & me) do not have the medical knowledge or training to give her the care she required. We went through the hospital who set it up with C&Y. From the day we signed our rights over to the agency it took about 18 months until the adoption was granted ( part of this included finding a suitable family - it was an eye doctor).
We paid support up to the point of the adoption being granted. You are talking a private adoption so you will only pay support if the step-mother were to pursue that, if she don't file then you will not have to pay. If she does file you will pay only to the point of adoption being granted. Then, like I said, your daughter will become your step-sister.
Do not worry about other people and their oppinions on adopting your children out. Until they have walked in your shoes they do not know the choices you are faced with. You need to put the child's best interest first, like you are. It is far better for the child to be raised by those who can provide what she needs, than to remain with a parent who cannot provide this for whatever reasons and circumstances are upon them. Not everyone finds a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
2007-05-10 05:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving up your child is saomething that must be very hard for you.But I know that you feel you are doing the right thing for your daughter and that is all that matters.So ignore the mean comments on here.Why don't you just let her live with her dad since the step mom is going to adopt her??
2007-05-10 05:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone put you down for what you are about to do...some people on here could not stand the scrutiny themselves, if they were to be honest...some people just like to be a$$holes...
I apploud you for wanting to do what's best for your DAUGHTER...and not yourself...
I have no advice on how to make the process go faster...but I wanted you to know that there are people out "here" who understand...and have the upmost compassion for you...
2007-05-10 05:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a lot of money, power and know someone on the inside you just have to wait for the system to do it in their own time.
Sorry to hear about your illness.
2007-05-15 13:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by KELLY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. The system takes time and has many steps. Be aware, that just because you sign away your parental rights does not mean you will not be obligated to pay child support.
2007-05-10 05:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Alot of money and a good lawyer
2007-05-16 13:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mr.M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know that you can make it go faster but why are you giving up your parental rights and how does your daughter feel cuz she may want her mom not another mom.
2007-05-10 05:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by jacqucora_turner 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you didn't want your child then why didn't you take precaution to not having children?
2007-05-10 05:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sorry
2007-05-10 05:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋