I was dismissed form college in december after a year an a half. I spent three months trying to work my way back into the university. I was angry , depressed and deragned. Now I get my grades back and they arn't nearly enough to qualify for readmisson. I may have to petition my grade and I have more embarassing meetings to make about my future and my grades. I had a meeting due 15 minutes ago, I go to the counselors office just to find out he is out at a meeting that ends in two hours. I sheduled this meeting! My mom says its the devil, he's working on me because I haven't given my life to the lord yet. Christianity and its god scares me. I am so sick of the idea of god now, but of course I believe in the evil force. I just want to move out. enough whining anyway, what advice can you give me? (please excuse my spelling, I cant even think straigth right now. whats wrong with me)
2007-05-10 04:46:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Wow, it sounds like serious stress at the moment. Just take a breath and try to think. Don't let someone else try to push you toward faith, that's not how it works. You'll find your faith on your own time and when you're ready. But if you really need help with the situation at hand, try to pray and see if that makes you feel any better.
Just try to think straight and stay calm.
2007-05-10 04:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sam T. 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not know you, I do not know what you have done, or what you are capable of doing, so who knows how accurate or useful this is.
It sounds like you have spent 3 months being angry at someone or something for flunking out of collage. Anger will not help you.
You need to accept the position you are in.
You must decide what is a reasonable target for you to aim for. You need to make a realistic plan of how you are going to get from here to there, and then stick to it. Do not go back to collage now if you are not ready, it is just setting yourself up for failure again.
As your plan unfolds review it. See if it is working, if you are on schedule. Revise you plan if you need to.
There is no evil force out there. The universe is indifferent to you. The trick is to plan for the bad things that can happen to reduce the effect they have on you. And to use the good things to your advantage. Easy to say, much harder to do. But the only person who can do it for you is yourself.
You need to make a commitment to apply yourself to your goals it is the only way that you can succeed.
You are not thinking straight because the stress is getting to you. Think on this: What is the worst that can happen in this situation? Is anyone going to die? Are they going to ban you from all higher education? The worst that can happen is that you do not get readmitted now. If you are not ready then that is a good thing not a bad one.
Try to calm down. You will always do better with a calm mind.
Good luck.
2007-05-10 12:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Simon T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it was wrong of the counselor to take an appointment and not make it, but that sort of thing happens all the time. It could have been an emergency. Don't freak out, if you want to impress this guy you have to be at the height of your maturity!
Religion has nothing to do with this. I have been where you are. I was a music scholarship student and fled the premisis after I had a crippling anxiety attack, not to return for YEARS. Now that said, I need you to really genuinely ask yourself, what is the worst that can possibly happen in this situation? You might have to drop out of this university. You would have to go to a community college, which would be so much less stressful and have a chance to get your life together and re-evaluate your class schedule and what degree you are shooting for. Then you would re-apply and hopefully get back in to that University, if not DEFINATELY another. They want your money, trust me.
Don't make a hasty decision about religion just because you're going through a hard time. Personally I found my peace through Wicca, but walking into a religious relationship with baggage is like walking into a marraige with baggage- you will expect the religion to fix imperfections with yourself and only come to disappointment. Only YOU can fix what YOU messed up in your life, and in your soul. Religion is just a community of like-minded friends. : )
I hope you learn to stand up to your mother, and I warn you there will be so much harder trials ahead of you in life. Sorry this is so long, but I feel kind of passionately about the power of taking your time and finding the religion that really speaks to your soul. If you think going to church would help your situation, try a Unitarian Universalist church. They are religiously neutral people who support everyone and help you find what is right for you. Good luck!
2007-05-10 12:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by <Sweet-Innocence> 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went through a similar situation. Was on the 4.0 Dean's list and all that, had a depressive/crazy episode, quit going to courses without dropping them, etc. You need to do several things.
One, it sounds like your mother is being detrimental to your situation. God and Satan have nothing to do with this. Everything that happens is cause and effect, and in this case, you had a bad period of time, which led to poor decision-making, which led to school issues. Your Mother is not helping you address the cause and effect side. She is just using Satan as a scapegoat and trying to guilt-trip you into becoming religious. This is not a good effect. Are you still living with her? Find a friend who will put you up for a while and move in with them.
Secondly, you need to see a counselor or someone who can talk to you and review your mental health. They can probably help explain to the college why you were having issues.
But, if you aren't putting all the effort into your courses, and found you did so poorly that they won't let you back in, that's on you. You needed to have put more effort into them, or chosen easier classes that would have allowed you the passing GPA.
What you really need to do right now is take a break, get your head straightened out, and try again later. And talk to a professional. Good luck.
2007-05-10 11:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
God IS Love.
Free Will allows you the opportunity to imagine you are not lovable.... but the REAL reality is God IS Love, therefore it is impossible for you not to BE LOVED.
It's really about "Do YOU love you?"
Religions are humanity attempting to explain the unexplainable.
The reason it is unexplainable is that God is the UNlimited Source of Life, Love, Joy, Truth.
Fear is the opposite of Love....
"False Evidence Appearing Real".
Fear is a magnet..... what you fear you draw to you......
Instead of the idea that you somehow "deserve" to be punished or are not "lovable"......
Remind yourself that God won't give you anything you cannot handle.
When life goes differently than you "planned" it is all ways because God has better ideas for you.....keep your eyes and ears open.
When you have to make decisions, ask yourself, "What would LOVE do now?" and be the best version of that you can be...
Keep in mind: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, by putting yourself first. The key is not to do this at the expense of others.....
If you don't take care of YOU, you can't very well help anyone else..... You deserve to be happy & successful. Part of that is choosing your perceptions in a positive way...
The glass is FULL.
You ARE loved.
You ARE forgiven.
You ARE going to be fine.
Life is fair, in that it is "not" fair for everyone....
Enjoy what shows up....even if it brings temporary tears.
Move away from situations or people that drag you down...
"Thank you for showing me what I am not".....
(Some people are happy being miserable.)
Be the brightest version of LOVE you can be.....
Do not focus your energy/thoughts on your fears......
Blessings to you!
2007-05-10 12:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by wildflower 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Step back from the situation and your mum. I'm sure she means well but she is talking without thinking of the effect her words are having on you. Imagine a white light around your body. When it is in place no negativity can hurt you. Take yourself to a quiet place and let yourself relax and think calmly and quietly about what you want to happen. This is your life, no one else's and you are responsible for yourself. No evil can harm you. You are loved and protected by things you can't see. Be peaceful . Listen to what others say and then do what is right for you. Blessings.
2007-05-10 12:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by hedgewitch18 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. Edison did not qualify for school. Billgates dropped his Engineering course. What you need is direction. Just keep on trying. Confusion precedes change. Try reading the New Testament. I almost threw it away when I first read it. But I went back, read it over and over, and I am better now. Just keep it to yourself and your mother if you want to. Do not tell anyone else. They will only think you are out of your mind. We have nothing to fear but fear itself.--Roosevelt.
2007-05-10 12:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by PabloSolutin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget college and go to a technical school. Many of the jobs in the trades pay more than those with a B.S. Take an aptitude test at your Division of Employment and find out what you would be good at and go from there.
Sorry about your Mom but she does not have a realistic point of view about religion.
Good Luck.
2007-05-10 11:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your mom seems like a big time bible banger sometimes things come up in peoples lives in the postiom he is in it happens reschedule the meeting its not the devil getting at you its not god punishing you it ok to pray worship and what ever you do but when bad things happen its a little out of controll to push the blame on the devil or on god its a cop out things come up in peoples lives and bad things happen there life experices thats all dont read to far into it think about this if you get a bad grade is that the devil no it you you got the f not the devil
2007-05-10 11:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by tigger 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
dude, your mom sounds like a nut. you sound like your old enough to make your own decision and opinions on life and religion. Just calm down for a couple minutes, try a little meditation. Then just take a day to think about things. You might just need some tutoring and repeat a grade. Everything will be ok.
2007-05-10 11:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋