can someone tell me honestly . . . . why do women make a life with guys who dont get up & go to work everyday or at least TRY to find work, but they stay home? the only source of income from him is from a hustle he does when he does it.
that's not a steady job.
i dont mean to make it "all about money". i just think a guy who doesnt have a job, isnt trying to find one, stays home, what does that say about the GUY?? and what does that say about the GIRL who accepts this & stays with him?
maybe it works for some people. i cant see myself with a guy who doesnt go to work EVERY DAY or at least TRIES to find a job or has his own business.
what does this really say about him AND her? can someone help me out, i really dont understand. maybe i'm being critical for nothing?? is this the norm now?
2007-05-10 04:45:12 · 12 answers · asked by LaLa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What if the woman is the one who always stays home and looks after the house & kids? Is that different? Just wondering.
Since you asked this question, then you might want to answer this other woman's question (below). She wanted to know why a guy would NOT date a woman who made more money than him. I think that you might have just answered her question:
2007-05-10 04:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on the situation. When I met my ex boyfriend he had a steady job and made decent money, not great money but decent. I moved in with him to help pay the bills so he could afford to buy a car. When my parents divorced I got one of the condos my dad owned and decided to move in there with him. The day we moved he quit his job but assured me he would find work. He did, he kept it for 2 weeks and quit. Then he found work again and the same thing happened. A pattern started and he ended up staying home and doing nothing but drinking while I was working and paying all the bills. I didn't end it because it would have made me look horrible for kicking him out when he was down. He continued to take jobs and not keep them for very long. After about a year or so of this I finally gave him an ultimatum, either he finds a job and starts helping out with the bills or I will get a roommate to help out. He finally found a good job and kept it but by the time he did I was pretty much fed up with the relationship and saw that he had no career goals or ambition in life and if I stayed with him then it would always be a constant struggle. So I ended it.
I guess we stay because we think we are in love and we want to give that person a chance to try and prove themselves. Now I won't get into a relationship with someone that doesn't have a good job or career goals.
Hope that answers your question.
2007-05-10 04:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Weimaraner Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships I know the woman goes to work and the husbands stay home, but Im like you I want a man that isnt lazy and goes out and gets a job. I dont blame the woman thats with the guy that stays home, maybe she doesnt like it, but being she loves him she accepts it. after awhile I think that it gets old and eventually the woman will get tired of it. I love that me and my husband both go to work..it is about money..cause without it you cant go nowhere in life. and if a man is staying at home and not working or trying to work, than to me its just plain laziness, it tells me he has no goals and he wont even clean up after himself.
2007-05-10 04:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by luvleebabygurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh h-e double hockey sticks it isn't the norm! lmao...My motto about that is it definitely is about the money...a man BETTER make more than me because I am not about to support a man. It should be equal. I am more traditional and couldn't stay w/ a man that was a loafer.
A lot has to do w/ a person and how they were raised. Get a backbone and kick the guy out is what I say to these women! Better off alone!
2007-05-10 04:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by M R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this a lot too. I would never tolerate it myself.
I have worked with women who do it all, and the man does Nothing! Heck I even knew a woman like this and I said "well he must at least be really good in bed" and she said "No, we don't have sex"
I was Like No way! You gotta unload that free loader!
I think some women are just so lonely and insecure that they will settle for anything. sad.
2007-05-10 05:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work at home but not in the IT industry. I work at home as a medical transcriptionist. I bet there is tech support that can be done at home for IT fields.
2016-04-01 05:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no its not normal, I guy is a loser and the girl is stupid, I would not put up with that either, if I have to go to work everyday he better get his a** up and go to work too or find someone else to moosh off.
2007-05-10 04:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by ♥RaCheL♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly some women fall for the fix-er-up type of man.. they think that they will be able to change them
2007-05-10 04:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Dee S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says less about the girl. If I girl puts up with that bullshit then she gets what she deserves. go find somebody else, there are plenty of guys.
2007-05-10 04:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one really knows what goes on in one's relationship; sounds like she is happy just to have a man in her life, doesn't matter the quality.
2007-05-10 04:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋