sex before marriage?

Question

why does christianity say you have to wait until marriage to have sex. when in the bible when god created adam and eve he clearly said to be fruitful which means have sex. so is it ok to have sex befor marriage or not?

Answer 1

It should be a requirement. I would strongly advise any christians contemplating marriage that they live together before committing to each other. Your sins can always be forgiven, but a bad marriage brings a clear understanding of "hell on Earth."

As Meatloaf said, "I'm praying for the end of time, that's all that I can do. Praying for the end of time so I can end my time with you."

Answer 2

The reason why God wants you to wait until the wedding night is that God likes babies and God thinks babies are really cute and God thinks babies deserve guidance and personal leadership as well as economic support from both parents and so God wants men to be real mean and be stand-up kinda guys that do their duties by their children. Make no mistake about it, every form of birth control has some failure rating, so it is only a matter of time before accidents happen. Cheap male wh0r3$ p!$$ God off.

Answer 3

B.S. First off I am agnostic, then I am a man whore, well was. Now I have a gf. Sex is a big part of my life and my gf's. That does not mean it is the only part. I don't wake up a single day not wanting to see her and spend time with her. Sex helps you bond with one another. Provides exercise. Makes women feel good, there is no other more reassuring statement of how beautiful they are than to see their man climax to them, it make them feel marvelled at what her body can do to a man. So you don't have to wait to have sex until marraige. Oh and I was catholic but I converted for various reasons, I view the bible as a great book, similat to teh works of confusious, they help you lead a good life, but that does not mean it is concrete with what it teaches. It is a great guide by which to lead life with but it is still up to your good judgment what to follow and what not to.

Answer 4

I am Christian and I believe in God and everything but I see nothing wrong with having sex before marriage. I'm sorry but I've found the man of my dreams and I don't feel it necessary to wait until marriage to show him physically (in the most intimate way possible), how much I love him. Thats just how I feel :)

Answer 5

Because the purpose of sex is procreation. Children should be brought into a God-centered family, not created with several different people on a whim.

Because lust is usually the first feeling...sex is easy to get into...falling in bed with someone can happen in an instant but falling in love takes time.

Before you give yourself to someone intimately, in a way in which you will bring children into the world, there needs to be the structure and commitment of marriage. Marriage mirrors the relationship and love Christ has for his church. He is committed to us as we are to him.

Sex is a gift. It allows us to participate in the creation of life with God. It is sacred and should be treated as such.

To the one that quoted the meatloaf song...that song is actually a proponent for waiting to have sex until you are married. Had he waited...he would have gotten to know her and known he did not want to spend the rest of his life with her. Instead he made a commitment in the heat of passion that he regretted for the rest of his life.

We are human beings, not animals. We can wait and there is a lot to find out about your partner and yourself in making this sacrifice. You can offer it up to God and he will bless you for your obedience.

Answer 6

It is not okay to have sex before marriage.

We are not denied sex before marriage because God is the ultimate killjoy, it is because sex brings with it an intimacy that was intended for life partners. The more often one has sex outside the marriage bond, the less intimacy you have. Eventually, it becomes an end to itself.

Intimacy can be likened to tape. When you apply tape to a poster on a wall, it will hold the poster well. But if you pull it away and then reapply it elsewhere, it cannot hold the poster as well. Do it again, and it becomes less able to stick. Eventually, the tape is useless for the purpose it was intended.

Same with sexual intimacy. It stops being special, and becomes a mere biological function. Worse yet, the diseases one can get from a multiplicity of partners makes it inadvisable for anyone.

Did you know that doctors don't recommend condoms for birth control alone? This is because the average failure rate of condoms is 13%. The sperm cell is much larger than the HIV virus, and so the failure rate would be higher in preventing disease than preventing pregnancy, because you can catch the disease at anytime, but a woman can only get pregnant once a month.

God just wants what's best for us. We are not animals in heat. We can control our passions, and we can say no to sex before marriage.

Answer 7

Remember that the Bible was written a long time ago, when there were not such great birth control methods, and women were basically property. Gotta take it in context.

Sex should be undertaken responsibly... but yeah before marriage is no problem.

Answer 8

Christianity is generally anti-sex. In fact, it's really just one big institutionalized sexual neurosis. The ONLY reason we don't still burn loose women as witches, etc, is because secular society has advanced and to a large extent outpaced religion. Now the "religious" content themselves with burning people rhetorically by condemning them to hell for daring to explore their own sexuality.

There is no such thing as "sin." It's an invention to control and manipulate the ignorant. Sex is not "wicked;" it's a natural function. Repression is the worst perversion.

All the people who claim that sex outside the bounds of marriage is "demeaning" are simply attempting to infect others with their own pathetic hangups, because misery loves company.

Answer 9

It's my personal belief that you should only have sex in a loving, comitted relationship. Marriage is nothing more than a legal contract between two people. It's the emotions that truly wed you.

But then again, I'm not Christian.

Answer 10

I don't have a problem with it, but I'm not Christian.

The christian thinking is that sex should only be experienced by two people in a commited relationship (marriage) in order to procreate.

Is that right? maybe for some people, but I think humans have an inherent curiosity to want to experience sex/some kind of sexual intimacy with more than one individual...

that's just me, though

Answer 11

you're taking scripture out of context.

Sex is a special gift that God has given within marriage. Scientifically, when a woman has sex, oxytocin is released and that is used to form a bond with her child. When she doesn't have kids, she gets attached to her mate because of this hormone or chemical.

According to the spirit, we are joined and become one with our partner. That's why, within a marriage we are considered 1.

When you have multiple sex partners, your spirit as one is divided with other people and that creates problems no matter how many ways you try to fix it.

Laws of God are put into place for a reason. Satan has screwed that up because He knows that His place as ruler of this earth will be coming to an end shortly. Sex is beautiful but because of sin, it has become deteriorated. It's up to you. If you want a beautiful, satisfying and pleasureable experience with your spouse, it's better to wait after marriage.

I wasn't a virgin when I got married and 3 years later I still have problems. It's an emotional, physical, mental issue but with God's help, it can be restored.