I was having displine issues and behavior (minor) problems with my two daughters ages 9 and 6. I am doing the calendar with stickers. Everyday they do good, they pick out a sticker before bed.
OMG the improvement after two weeks is unbeleiveable. Homework is done, no more back talking or lying, they are minding and getting along with each other. WOW. The magic stickers.
If you haven't tried this, you have to. If you do, share your experience.
2007-05-10 03:12:35 · 12 answers · asked by 2shay 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Gosh, I don't know who to give best answer too. Im glad people can use the information and its great to hear how it worked for your families.
I'll pick the person with the least points.
:)
2007-05-10 09:16:32 · update #1
hey wow....what a great idea. My 5 1/2 twin girls are at each others throat lately and absolutely not listening to a word I say. Its getting depressing....annoying and its really p*ssing me off to be honest. I just know this idea will work with them.
Thanks so much for that
2007-05-10 03:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by vnoe07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have an early elementary teaching degree plus I have been a mom for 27 years to 4 children, and a licensed child care provider in my home for 20 years. I have successfully used the sticker reward system on too many occasions to tell you about. The theory behind it is called positive reinforcement. Basically the "magic" comes because you are focused on their good behavior and not as much on their undesirable behavior. For many children it really does work well, for others, a sticker just isn't motivation enough. It is amazing to go through a day without continuously having to discipline and reprimand. When the sticker system begins to not work quite as well, simply change the reward to something else. Perhaps an extra 10 minutes to stay up and read, a 3 minute back rub, or as they get older they can get a gold star that can be saved up so that 10 gold stars will get them something later. This delayed gratification will begin to work for your 9 year old soon, but your 6 year old will need an immediate reward for awhile. That is great that life at your house is much less stressful.
2007-05-10 10:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I actually did something like that. Every time one of my girls did something nice or cleaned their room they got 1 point, and if they were bad or men to each other they got a point tooken away, we kept track on a calender aslo, but on mine and my husbands payday, we added up the points for each girl and each point was one dollar. They were so happy everytime, and started trying to find new ways to get points, they were 5 and 3 at the time, now they are 6 and 4. We now do a daily routine chart and it is basicly the same thing, but at he beginning of a new 2 weeks we sit down and discuss what they want their prize to be, McDonalds, the zoo, the park... and how many Happy faces they have to get in oreder to get the prize. There chart consits of things like getting dressed, washing their face, brushing their teeth, cleaning uo their room, taking stuff back to their room that they have brang out to the frontroom, listening, and so on. Now if they don't do something or don't listen or balk talk, they get a sad face, if they get so many sad faces then the prize id off. Works pretty good.
2007-05-10 10:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by lavinnar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did this years ago with my two daughters. They got a red star for a bad day and a green star for a good day. At the end of the week, the one with the most green stars got a small treat, the loser didn't. It worked very well. Eventually, the treat became insignificant, it was just a contest between the two girls to be the winner!
2007-05-10 10:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by bacteria4eva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an episode of Supernanny! I'm glad you found something that works for all of you! I used to watch that show once in awhile, and it's amazing all the creative and useful ideas she comes up with to handle things like that, and it's strange how positively it affects the kids! Great job to you and both of your girls!
2007-05-10 11:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing for potty training. It worked for my 4 year old but my 2 year old twins have not caught on. Yes, it works wonderfully but I have never thought to do it for discipline. Great idea I will start immediately. Thanks
2007-05-10 10:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by zimzigger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the idea!!!!! My boys are 9 and 6 and we are having some issues with their behavior. I am going to have to try this.
2007-05-10 11:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes my daughter did this for my grandson when potty training,and now at 4 they do smiley faces everyday at school and yes it really works
2007-05-10 10:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any kids yet, my first is on the way (just found out it's also a girl :) but, thanks for posting I will try to remember that, for when it is time :)
2007-05-10 10:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by milenka_b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like a great idea im going to have to try it thanx
2007-05-10 10:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by amelia_0405 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋