My boyfriend got angry with me over an argument , it was about a form I needed to file , he said let me read?

Question

d instructions & we would decide which option u should use,d next day when he called and offered his choice,I had another option from his,he got angry & an argument ensuied,d next day he came over & was stll angry,eventually I used d method he sugested because I was convinced it was better,but I told him even if he thinks his idea is better than mine, I would always still say my bit and unless I am convinced I retain d right to do things as I wish, and I would appreciate he understands that, he says he hates when I argue with him,& he dosent have time for that,we bandied words back and fort 4 a while,he asked,are u done almost thrice & made to leave,I didnt stop him,he hesistated at d door & even if he knew how to work it,he asked I come open the door,I did,he left still angry.He hasnt called me its day 3 today & I havent called him either,I got turned off cos he spoke to in a disrespecting tone,does this man really care about me or he's just a controlling man.Do I call or 4get him ?

Answer 1

SOUNDS LIKE HE HAS AN ANGER PROBLEM AND IF HE LOVED YOU YOU BOTH SHOULD SIT AND DISCUSS THE PROBLEM INSTEAD OF RUNNING HE PROBABLY HAS A CONTROLLING PROBLEM ALOING WITH IS ANGER I WOULD FORGET ABOUT HIM 3 DAYS IS A LONG TIME TO BE MAD OVER SOMETHING LIKE THIS LIFE IS TO SHORT

Answer 2

The problem is not because he does not care, it is that you both do not know how to communicate to each other without preventing hateful words and anger of getting in the way. I feel there is a bit of a competition between the both of you which is healthy if not carried too far. You need to find a way to tell him of how you wish to be able to give your own opinion when deciding on things whether your opinions are right or wrong. He needs to understand this and not take it offensively. You might start by not using words such as, "you always", You never", and instead use words such as, "I feel", "I need your understanding". Your approach must not sound as if you are attacking him or he will attack back. Next time you might want to say to him, "honey, your idea sounds good, what do you think of mine?"....I feel he did not mean to sound disrespectful and only responded that way because he felt attacked. I do hope you both will be able to work it out.

Answer 3

i think he should apologise to you --- the problem is i was the same when i was younger --- i thought i knew best and i forced my opinion down everyone's throat --- i have learned and maybe he will --- i hope it does not take 30 + years like it did me --- best wishes

Answer 4

He is a controlling man. Listen to your inner voice!!!!!

Answer 5

oh my gawd! this man doesn't need a girlfriend he needs a dog. he is just controlling you and you need to nip it in the bud before he hurts you physically.

Answer 6

Love endures!So what re you going to gain , get up and give a call and see what he has to say!