My boyfriend is in the Army and i only get to see him on the weekends. Durring the week, he works until 5 and then he calls me around 10:30 at night. I have college classes and high school, so i need to go to bed early. in the past when he has called me, I usually talk to him until midnight/1 o' clock. Here lately, I just tell him I am tired and i say goodbye and hang up. he sounds really sad when he says bye too. I was wondering if this is bad for my relationship, because i haven't had a full out conversation with him in like 4 days. Am i hurting us??
2007-05-10 02:45:29 · 21 answers · asked by **Q-T-Pi** 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard to stay with someone you don't have any contact with. Your lives do not seem to mesh right now. Time will tell, either your weekends will become more special or you will drift apart but you need to sleep to meet your responsibilities. You have no real choice.
2007-05-10 02:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility that you are hurting your relationship, be a little more open and just talk to him a little while he is going through this right now but if he is getting off at 5:00 why is calling you 5 and a half hours later, ask him if can call you a little earlier bcuz you have to go to school and maybe he would be a little bit more considerate.
2007-05-10 02:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by 2sexy 2cute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how long have you guys been dating?You know in the begining stages of a relationship both parties try to totally impress the other.but as time gos on and our lives need tending to aswell we need a bit ofspace to be our best.To me it sounds like both of you are in good places right now,your building the life that you have to live until you die,unfortunally it happens to be apart from one another and yes it totally hurts on both ends.I don't think your hurting your relationship I think your tring to get some rest that you need and well quit frankly i'm sure he will understand.I mean isn't that what the Army teaches. Just tell him everyday that you love him and that your only tring to help build a strong foundation for you guys later on.Being apart is very hard my husband is a truck driver and comes home only on weekends too,we have two children 7 and 8.We have been togather for 15 years and I Love just as much today as I did 15 years ago when we fell in love.If he loves you he will understand.
2007-05-10 03:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by momrocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him know whats going on because the only thing that really hurts a relationship is the lack of communication. It sounds like the both of you care about each other and miss each other so maybe the both of you can come to a certain day and/or time to talk. Having a good relationship isn't hard to have if both of the partners are willing to make things work. The both of you are trying make a success of yourselves and you are both trying to make your relationship work. I hope things work out for the both of you and just remember if you talk to him and let him know whats really going on then he won't be hurt.
2007-05-10 02:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by mrztreed1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he get off around 5:00 or 5:30 he has 5hr in between 10:00 to call you try telling him to call you like at 7 or 8:00.
2007-05-10 03:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by tika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two both have very busy schedules and you should talk to him about that. There's nothing much you can do to help the situation and as long as he understands that you need your sleep you two should be fine. It doesn't hurt your relationship to not talk once in a while, as long as you get to see each other every weekend, it's not that bad. Well I hope this helps!
**Ash
2007-05-10 02:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ashely G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your feeling a space coming between you to then it's kinda tearing you apart. But you also have to get some sleep for your schooling because he would probably want you to get some sleep. Just tell him whats going on and stuff. Thats all you can do to make sure he understands and know whats going on.
2007-05-10 02:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by frickinalover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He has a stressful job and he needs your support. However, it is a difficult situation because you have responsibilities as well. What I don't like is that you indicated you have college/high school courses. I am going to assume you are still in high school taking college credit, which makes you underage. You are jailbait and he could get in serious trouble.
2007-05-10 02:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could talk to him about calling you earlier. And no it's not a bad thing, he needs to understand that you have a very busy schedule and that as much as you would like to talk to him all night, it's just not possible.
2007-05-10 02:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Taryn K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could put some strain on the relationship, but I would not worry. I am sure he understands what you are going through, and although he is sad to hang p, he is glad that you are getting the rest you need to achieve your personal goals. So tell him you love him, and just relax.
2007-05-10 02:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋