its been eight months now that we have broken up and we still talk every day and he still tells me he loves me and that he wants to be with me but he has a girlfriend he say that he dont know which one to choose im confused becuz he dont wnat me talking to other boys and its kind of hard becuz im inlove with him and i cant find myself with another boy even though alot of boys want to talk to me im still stuck on my ex some body please tell me what to do i need helppppppppp!!!
2007-05-10 02:30:56 · 19 answers · asked by Portia s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are ruining your life ... forget about him ... he moved on and got another girlfriend and he still wants to keep u away from boys ... lemme ask u this "DOES HE OWN YOU ???"
He is just playing safe and trying to keep you bith ... by the way does his other girlfriend know he says all this to you ... i mean that he still loves you and stuff ... i bet the answer is NO !! make your decision
2007-05-10 02:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by jamesdomain2001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
either your really young or really stupid...no offense but he cant love you that much if hes with someone else. you need to cut out the talking because that doesnt help. ive been there and i know that when you like someone and they string you along sometimes you dont see that they are doing just that "stringing you along!!" you are single go talk to whoever you want, why let him have the best of both worlds (meaning you and her) and you cant have anything, HUH?? what i realized was that i told him that this is stupid and isnt working and that i was done. guess what happened? he broke up with the other girl and wanted me back and guess what i did....I said NO. even though i liked him i realized that i wanted to talk with other guys and when i was single and talking with other guys thats when i had the MOST fun. I went out without having to ask permission i did something different every weekend..i had a great exciting time! and i also realized that many more guys wanted to date me!! it was great! you'll see that you dont need him even if he comes around to you and leaves her! when a guy sees a strong girl who loves and respects herself they melt! honestly they love a self confident girl whose not attached and dependent on them! believe me its true! good luck and leave him alone. dont stay stuck on him believe me you'll love again, i know you dont think so but im telling you from experience you'll be happier without him. i can already tell that your dependent on this guy and thats a BAD sign no matter how you look at it. change yourself now and enjoy your probably young you have no idea how much fun there is ahead of you! i never saw it either until i took the first step!
2007-05-10 02:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey,
Please - WAKE UP!!! He is telling you that to string you along. You obviously still care and that is enabling you to believe his B.S. - cause that is what it is. If he has a girlfriend he has moved on, and is leaving you behind. He is not totally ready to let you go though - booty call? Do yourself a huge favor and start getting out with other people. 8 months is too long to mourn a relationship gone sour. By stringing you along he is keeping you miserable. Take control over YOU, and remove the control he still has on you. Start weaning yourself away from him. Don't take his calls, (or at least not every time, don't meet with him, don't ALLOW him to tell you he still loves you. If he did he would be with YOU.
Take control girl. It hurts I know - been there. The easiest way to get over someone is to distance yourself from them, and begin meeting new people. Otherwise you are going to be stuck in the spiral you are in.
Donna
2007-05-10 02:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by Donna B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, honey, how do you expect to get over him if you still are in contact? Cut him off. You need time to heal, and you can't with him still scratching at your door. He's enjoying this, knowing that he has someone waiting in the wings in case it doesn't work out with new gf.
Tell him are you broken up and to please leave you alone for awhile. Get some hobbies. Take some classes. Travel. Spend time with friends. Spend time alone. Keep busy. And for goodness sake, do not answer your phone if it's him, do not answer your door if he's a knockin', block his email and text messages, and throw away the flowers or cards he's sending.
Good luck!
2007-05-10 02:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by New_wife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think he really loves you if he did he wouldn't let it go on like this why doesn't he want you to date other guys he has a girlfriend he must choose you or the other girl and if he dont choose you it will be hard at first but it will some how get better there is some one out there that will love only you.but if you keep hanging on to him you will never find that special someone
2007-05-10 02:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by ANGEL234 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your ex wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants you, but doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend - but at the same time, he doesn't want you moving on either. That's cruel! You need to stand your ground with him. Tell him, face-to-face that you love him and you want to be with him and that's that. If he feels the same way, then he needs to break it off with the other girl and come back to you. Otherwise, he needs to let you go. No more trying to stop you from talking to other guys - no more "reminding" you that he loves you, etc. It's time for him to make up his mind. Personally, I know exactly how it feels to want to be with someone so bad that you can't imagine moving on with anyone else - but eventually, there comes a time when you can't sit around and wait anymore.
2007-05-10 02:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cut him off. Don't talk to him. What an ego trip he is on. Keeping the possibility of another great girl who loves him on a leash to him while he enjoys his first preference, another girl. Go cold turkey. Go away. Let him know you are leaving and for him not to contact you and don't let him answer. God and do things that make you feel better. He doe not deserve some one as good as you.
2007-05-10 02:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Cendrie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he has another girlfriend, he doesn't need to be saying he loves you. I'm not saying he doesn't, I'm just saying, he's bothering hurting and confusing both of you. If he does love you, he needs to break up with her and then you two decide what you want to do. As for seeing yourself with someone else, if you're not ready, dont rush it. But dont mope over something that you can't change alone. If you two are going to be together, you'll have to decide to do it as a couple. Not just you or him obsessing over it. But I'm just offering advice.
2007-05-10 02:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give up on him and seriously look for another guy. If it didn't work the first time what makes you think it will now. You are just hanging on to a dream.
The next guy might not be the one, but it will take your mind off of him. It just might give him a wake up call as to where his heart is when it comes to love.
2007-05-10 02:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say limit the talk with him and start getting to know others. it will do you no good if you wait around. why do you let him treat you like a spare tire? he has a girlfriend for chirst's sake, so why cant you have a boyfriend of your own?
you cant find yourself with another boy because you still see yourself with him. well say helloo to reality. you're not together anymore, and he's with someone else.
no one can help you but yourself. so start moving on.
goodluck
2007-05-10 02:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by aeviery 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋