why are some people ok with spanking their own kids but would?

Question

be outraged if another caretaker or teacher did??? I don´t see the difference ,spanking is spanking...

I am against spanking BTW my father spanked me and it left me emotionally scarred...

Answer 1

Your father didn't "spank you" if he left you emotionally scarred. He beat and abused you. There is a difference.

As for your question... In my situation - When I was little, grandparents, other family, and friends of the family were allowed to spank my sister and me. However, teachers and babysitters, etc. weren't. I guess because you can trust your family and friends on how hard they spank your child. You can't trust a teacher.

My first grade teacher spanked me once for staying in the bathroom "longer than she felt was needed". My dad raised HELL with the principal on that.

I would personally do the same and let close friends and family spank my kids, but anyone I didn't know very well or trust wouldn't dare touch my child.

Answer 2

The problem with society today is that parents are scared to spank their kids because teachers and social workers tell them if we do to tell someone or call the police. There is a big difference in spanking and beating and done in moderation never hurt anyone. I got my last spanking around age 16 and I loved my dear mother until the day of her passing. I am a minister now and tell parents follow your heart when dealing with your children. Proverbs 22:6 says it best. Raise up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.

Answer 3

EEEERRRRRGGG some of you people irritate the hell out of me spankings are not a form of violence or child abuse!!!! I have a friend who is a deputy sherrif and said there is absolutly nothing wrong with a pop on the butt. Open you eyes and look at todays children and teens "Out of Control" they do what they want when they want, have no respect for adults or authority, there doing druggs, sleeping around and getting pregnant. Why becuase "timeout" doesnt work for every child and some kids need a stern hand. You put my 12 year old in time out and he thinks its a joke. As far as other people spanking my children I draw the line there I am there parent they are my children not anyone elses to spank cause you dont know if that teacher or caregiver or who ever is gonna get out of line while spanking your child!!!! I know if I spank Im not going to literally hurt then where someone else may

Answer 4

Well, I don't approve of spanking but I do kind of understand not wanting others to spank your own kids. Basically, when you spank your kids, you understand that it is a severe punishment and it can be abused very easily. You know how hard you are hitting and what for. But for someone else to hit your kids, you don't know if you can trust their judgement or not. I have a friend who was spanked by her teacher in elementary school because she failed a test. Completely innappropriate.

Answer 5

Before i answer this question - I have to adress Katrina: your story about your SIL spanking your child gave me chills. OHMIGOD. SIL has no self control and had no right to put her hands on your child. WOW.

Back to the question at hand: I have mixed feelings about the whole "spanking" issue. A spank on the bottom and a whop-a.s.s beating is two totally different things.
First of all: I don't have kids but if i did NOBODY would be allowed to put their hands on my child. That being said if she was in the care of a sitter or family and she did something dangerous - putting hands on hot stove; then they would be allowed to take that hand and move it away and discipline appropriately. (depending on age a talking too or time out)

NO teacher would be allowed to put their hands on my kid what so ever, they are taught about disciplining children appropriately.

I know i've been at stores & places and seen kids acting up & i've observed the child crying & carrying on and the mom was ignoring them. (incident i'm describing the kid was in a stroller and crying and carrying on and the mom was totally ignoring her. the kid was seeking attention and mommy wasn't giving it to her.

Answer 6

I have to spank my daughter because it is the only method that works (I have tried all others and she thinks it is funny) My parents spanked me (not abused) and I am fine. My mom would let anyone spank me!! I am different with my daughter her dad and I spank her, her grandparents (when they have the guts to do it), her baby sitter, some uncles and aunts. However, I do have this sister in law who, in my opinion, is way too strict. She also likes to discipline other peoples kids while the parents are right there. I don't agree with that. I don't allow her to spank my daughter for that reason. I don't want anyone spanking her for something I would not spank her for.

Answer 7

NO ONE should spank a child except for his own parents. A child care worker is not responsible for a kids upbringing, rather, they are responsible for the child's well being (that does not include physical punishments). Just because YOU don't see a difference ("spanking is spanking") doesn't mean that their isn't one. Wow, I really don't know what to say if that's your view... I'd NEVER let you watch my kid.

Answer 8

Because a child should be disciplined by a parent and not someone else, unless they are given permission. A spanking is humiliating if it is from a teacher.

I was spanked and I was beat I can tell you that the spanking did not emotionally scar me the beating did. The spanking taught me.

I am all for spanking, but not beating there is a difference
I know it

Answer 9

The problem stand as this. NOT ENOUGH PEOPLE SPANK THEIR CHILDREN! People wonder why kids today are 10 times worse that generations before. It is because when I was a child I kept in line because I was always told that if I got in trouble in school then I would recieve corpral punishment from the Principal and then when I got home I would get another spanking and then when my dad got home I would get another. I kept in line so as not to get woopins. now days principals don't even spank anymore. They are afraid that they will get hit back by a student. When the baby boomers grew up (my parents) if you dared stand up to an adult like that you would get taught your place as a child. Now days parents caudle their children into believing that everything is owed to them and that they can do no wrong. Parents and teachers should be a team. They should back eachother. It is no wonder why we are failing as a society. when children see their parents fighting with teachers and with themselves we are undermining everything that we are teaching our children on how to be good people and good citizens. People should be scared because when todays children grow up, someone is going to have to run this country and I can only hope that who ever it is was brought up better than 85% of kids today. My oldest starts school in August and you had better believe that she will be on her best behavior because if she is not...oooooooh! she will get spanked. On the butt of course. I do not agree with beating.

Answer 10

I'm for spanking and let me say this okay - my step dad strangled me, beat me, put me in hospital twice and paralized my left side for a year when i was 8. Guess what, i got over it and don't apply that to my own kids. They are not in the same situation i was, i am not a resentful, hateful person. I wasen't a naughty child either, he just didn't like me! But i don't dwell on it! And i sure as hell don't use it as a crutch when it comes to disciplining my own kids! Thsi happened when i was very young and i'm not scarred and i had the sh!t literally beat out of me!
I've never been violent, i don't think spanking for the right reasons causes kids to rebell. I think poor discipline or lack of it causing rebelion (but i don't say that for everyone!).
My daughter is nearly 3. I know exactly when and how to spank her. I'm a stay at home mother, i have a her, a 14m/o and am 36 weeks pregnant. My 3y/o is the most well behaved child in public. Very polite, friendly and everyone finds her to be such a delight to take care off. But at home she can have tendencies to be a typical 3y/o and when i see that it is very necessary i will spank her butt and tell her that what she did was wrong. She tought my 14m/o to stand on tables and the fireplace wall, this isn't acceptable, so do i just wear myself out 50x a day saying no that's naughty and removing her, doesn't work i'm afraid but a swat on the bum does, it gets their attention, they stop and listen to me and go of and play together in the toy room.
My SIL stayed here for 3 weeks, she never once ever spanked her 5y/o and her 5y/o was the most unruly child i have ever known. She had no respect, no feeling or thought for others and was just downright rude. But yet my SIL had the nerve that when my 3y/o ''accidentaly'' knocked over her dogs water bowl while helping me fold laundry, she grabbed my daughter by the wrist thrusted her into the air and slapped her hand twice leaving it bruised!!!!!!!!!!!
Not only that, that very same day before that incident, my 3y/o sat on the coffee table to eat her chicken which i allow and my SIL had the nerve to whack her back so hard it left a red handprint on her back!!!
As soon as my husband got home my SIL's bags were packed and she was sent on her merry psykotic way! She is disowned by us!
So there is a difference. Only i & my husband knows when and where to spank our children and for what reason calls for it.
We know how hard and how to approach her after. No one knows your child better than you do and i'll be damed if i have some stranger woop her again!